大致说下把，一般都是从30 day kit开始，三部曲。至于怎么用，网上有说明，我就不多说了。我只想强调一点，你若只用个2，3次不一定能看到它的好来。一定要坚持用上一段时间。当然如果你连用了1，2周后，就会发现掉发变少了。这个护发素是抹在头皮的，不是发尾。我知道的是，这些产品的成本价是非常高的，不要跟我提什么alterna, oribe, philp p一类的，beat them all. 产品本身是针对脱发掉发的。很多癌症病人chemo阶段用了这个，都发现头发掉的少了。市场才刚刚打开，但是回购率已经很高了。如果不好，我也不会拿自己的reputation发帖。另外，如果你不喜欢，30天内也可以免费退款的。当然人家对自己产品有信心。
First of all, I’d like to thank you very much for creating this thread; you have provided us so much information, tips, interesting stories, encouragement, etc. etc. I can’t thank you enough and I really appreciate for all the things you and other girls shared here in the post.
The saddest thing is that, I think I actually read part of this post when you started it back in 2012, at that time, I started to have problems with my marriage (well, to be honest, I have had issues way back when I was dating my ex-husband, I believe I have made almost every mistake a dumb girl possible could with dating n marriage throughout the years). Now looking back, it’s so freaking pathetic. Anyways, at that time, after I read your post, I was thinking, waaa, what an amazing post, so many things you girls talked about made so much sense, you girls seemed so cool and I’d like to be one of you girls. Then after I shut off the huaren app, I went back to crying (sadly asking “god” why my marriage couldn’t go back to how it was) and calling my friends asking for help while not really doing what they suggested. I guess one of the very few things I learned here was that I did buy and read some of the books you recommended (tao of dating, why men love/marry bXitches, the five love languages etc, and I loved every one of them. I have bought a few other books and they were just alright, some I didn’t even finish).
I finally divorced my ex late last year, found a new job (though with much lower pay), moved to a new city, my parents bought a new house for me and they moved to US and live with me now. For the whole winter, I thought I was over with my ex, then I realized that I didn’t (another dumb thing).
I created an account on coffee meets bagel (before I started to re-read this post), at least I was “smart” enough to know (guess that’s another thing I had vague memory about after having read this post in 2012) that I shouldn’t start a conversation and should wait until a guy to come and talk to me. A few guys made contact, and I didn’t even bother to reply (that’s when I realized that I wasn’t over my ex yet and that I should start to get my shXt together and move on). Then a few weeks ago, a guy from HK contacted me and asked me out, I liked the way he looks so we made arrangements and had our first and only meetup in a movie theater. I thought it went well, but obviously not that well since he never asked me out again, which I don’t really mind. And that’s when I thought of this post and wanted to re-read everything discussed here. So I spent the past 2 weeks, slowly reading and taking in all the information here, and I’m so grateful that I did it.
One of the things that touches me most is what you said about being confident/happy from within. I can remember that back in 2012 when I read this post for the first time (as I said, I don’t think I have read the whole thread and lots of follow-up discussions), I took it as “as long as I believe in myself, I think and stay positive, then the good things (guys) will come”. Well, it’s kinda of true, to some extent. But I didn’t realize that you need to make effort, to try your best, to really improve yourself, and then, you will gain confidence from positive feedbacks/outcomes after you better yourself. You can’t just stay in bed, read posts on the forum, not get your ass up to take pictures, to work on your profiles, to read more and expand your interest, and “wait” for the right guy to fall in love with you. And in one of your more recent updates, you mentioned that before you would say sth like “you deserve someone better”, now you think that “you deserve exactly what you get”. I couldn’t agree more. For example, I read the same post in 2012, I had problems with my ex, I knew that I should have left him way back when (with what I have learned from you and my own miserable experience, I should have dumped him even when we were dating), I let him take me for granted and walked all over me like a doormat. BUT, I couldn’t have divorced him. Not necessary mentally (at that time), it’s more because I wasn’t “ready” (ok, I know it sounds like an excuse). I couldn’t drive (always had to ask him to take me to places, he taught me and led me into the career I had from 2010-2015, which later in my opinion that I became better at our job than him), I couldn’t find a job (at least not easily, its complicated, don’t wanna get into details), basically, I couldn’t really stay alive (I exaggerated here, but you know what I’m saying) and make a living in the U.S. and I didn’t want go back to China (I have always enjoyed life abroad, and I don’t like the working/living environment in China, just personal preference). But in 2015, I got really good at driving (I love driving on highway), I learned how to take care of things (just small things like how to rent an apartment, how to buy a car, how to ask for help, or even how to do well in an interview and land a decent job). So at least, physically, I was “ready”. Sadly, I have been brainwashed by him for so many years (eg, why not just live in the moment, don’t need to plan for the future, why can’t you just be happy with what we have, I have been a much better husband than my grandpa and my dad, etc etc.). Didn’t you say sth like if you stay too long with losers, you lose the ability to distinguish the losers (not verbatim). That’s how I was in early 2015. Thankfully, my mom decided to come to U.S. and pushed hard to encourage me to leave him (my mom has always been a great life mentor though I have been dumb/stubborn enough not to listen to her advice). I took my mom and my belongs and left him to another city, and filed divorced there. I later found a new job, gained more confidence but still trapped in the past, until the wakening call. I’m really grateful to the HK boy, he was a real gentleman, polite, easy to talk to, etc, he made me feel good about myself. That’s why I couldn’t agree more that the easiest way to get over with your ex is to go out and date new guys.
Obviously, I have learned a whole lot more than what I have written here, but I just wanna share this with you (and many other girls like me who were/are troubled by failed relationships). I don’t wanna act like a drama queen and say that “oh dear cute-wheat, you saved me, you turned my life around”, I simply wanna thank you from deep of my heart and want you to know that you and all those wonderful gals who shared your wisdom in this post have helped me in a tremendous way, I want you to know that you didn’t waste your time typing every word on this public forum. I know it’s still too early to say that you will lead me to success in the dating department, I’m sure that I will still make mistakes, maybe even dumb ones, but I will always come back and re-read the things discussed here and learn from my or others’ mistakes and go from there. (You can’t go back and change how the story started, but you can always start now and change how it ends.) I have bought a few more books you recommended in these past two weeks, and will start to read them since I finally finished reading this post last night.
Last but not least, is it too late to ask for the promo code for the shampoo that you recommended? I have always had hair loss issue. Thank you.
PS, I think it’s gonna be your birthday soon, right? I remember you said you are Aries. Happy 30th birthday to you and hope you will have a great wedding this year. (I’m a 1985 Sagittarius, thank god I don’t feel pressured to have to get married or have baby before XX years old.)
PPS, I will start a new post a bit later once I start to use match.com and share my thoughts/experience on this forum. Adivice and critiques are very much welcomed and appreaciated!
I went from being a bad writer to a good writer after taking a one-day course in “business writing.” I couldn’t believe how simple it was. I’ll tell you the main tricks here so you don’t have to waste a day in class.
Business writing is about clarity and persuasion. The main technique is keeping things simple. Simple writing is persuasive. A good argument in five sentences will sway more people than a brilliant argument in a hundred sentences. Don’t fight it.
Simple means getting rid of extra words. Don’t write, “He was very happy” when you can write “He was happy.” You think the word “very” adds something. It doesn’t. Prune your sentences.
Humor writing is a lot like business writing. It needs to be simple. The main difference is in the choice of words. For humor, don’t say “drink” when you can say “swill.”
Your first sentence needs to grab the reader. Go back and read my first sentence to this post. I rewrote it a dozen times. It makes you curious. That’s the key.
Write short sentences. Avoid putting multiple thoughts in one sentence. Readers aren’t as smart as you’d think.
Learn how brains organize ideas. Readers comprehend “the boy hit the ball” quicker than “the ball was hit by the boy.” Both sentences mean the same, but it’s easier to imagine the object (the boy) before the action (the hitting). All brains work that way. (Notice I didn’t say, “That is the way all brains work”?)
That’s it. You just learned 80% of the rules of good writing. You’re welcome.
马甲，你不用好奇了。。这个没法说的，算是人生经验把。很玄乎的东西。social多了，见的人多了聊的人多了，自然能看透很多东西。这生日每年也不是白过的不是。要是只长岁数不长脑子不长情商，那aging的也太浪费了。older and wiser. 你写的东西我看了，但我没仔细的看，不过还是有不少中式思维的。表达时很忌讳在脑子里先用中文打草稿然后试图翻译成英文表达出来。这样你的英文永远提高不了太多。学会强迫自己用英文思考。有意识的去训练自己的大脑，时间久了，肯定有效果的。
Thank you, cute-wheat! Just purchased a full size Revive system through your link! :-) :-) Thank Startover2016 for sharing the promotion code! It still works! :-)
Cute-wheat, admire your courage and strength. Thank you for sharing the insights on dating and love life! My silly PC could not type Chinese. Have to put up with my poor English then. I will follow your guide to start over in 2016 too! :-))
I went from being a bad writer to a good writer after taking a one-day course in “business writing.” I couldn’t believe how simple it was. I’ll tell you the main tricks here so you don’t have to waste a day in class.
Business writing is about clarity and persuasion. The main technique is keeping things simple. Simple writing is persuasive. A good argument in five sentences will sway more people than a brilliant argument in a hundred sentences. Don’t fight it.
Simple means getting rid of extra words. Don’t write, “He was very happy” when you can write “He was happy.” You think the word “very” adds something. It doesn’t. Prune your sentences.
Humor writing is a lot like business writing. It needs to be simple. The main difference is in the choice of words. For humor, don’t say “drink” when you can say “swill.”
Your first sentence needs to grab the reader. Go back and read my first sentence to this post. I rewrote it a dozen times. It makes you curious. That’s the key.
Write short sentences. Avoid putting multiple thoughts in one sentence. Readers aren’t as smart as you’d think.
Learn how brains organize ideas. Readers comprehend “the boy hit the ball” quicker than “the ball was hit by the boy.” Both sentences mean the same, but it’s easier to imagine the object (the boy) before the action (the hitting). All brains work that way. (Notice I didn’t say, “That is the way all brains work”?)
That’s it. You just learned 80% of the rules of good writing. You’re welcome. sai 发表于 4/9/2016 6:58:19 PM
偶然在网上搜online dating 搜到该帖，看了一点就引起了自己的兴趣，自己注册了账号，已经默默的跟LZ的贴一个星期，已认真从第一页看到257页，结果发现没有魅力值很多都看不了。。。为了看wheat的帖子，努力集魅力值！！，即使不知道回复能不能加！！先努力把能看的看完！谢谢CW的无常分享～Super appreciative~~~
感情交流/进度:这个不太明白是什么意思啊？我们韩国回来之后，他某天离开我家前说u know i love u right?自此我们都是开始用love了(之前会说i like u a lot)。然后因为我们exclusive特别快，但是我有段时间不确定我们是否算男女朋友，可是也可以算我刚刚开始concern我们到底什么关系他就确定的说我们其实早就可以算男女朋友了。
我们没有具体或者严重的财务纠纷啊(就是之前有几次他会突然结账的时候问do u wanna pay，让我非常的惊讶，不过我脸皮薄，总是就付了，但是心里肯定是不爽的，因为觉得他赚的比我多多了，而且我的钱是我们一家三口用，他就一个人再加上我们一起吃饭的钱)。这也就是我们周末讨论的问题。
我觉得总体来说，从我们认识到现在我都对我们的进度还是比较满意，没有发展太快让人觉得是荷尔蒙作祟，但是也没有特别慢。而且我之前其实是很想你帮我"算"(知道你不是算卦啦)if he is the one，其实更多的是一种哇，如果抽牌也说he is my perfect match那就是一种reinforcement吧。说实话，如果他现在求婚我会答应，但是觉得有点早。起码圣诞或者明年吧。不过如果明年一周年纪念日还没反映，那估计就会觉得慢了。
我是看到这个提到的经济纠纷。其实主要是因为跟ex离婚就是因为经济问题，所以我会非常介意这一方面。不是说我们欠对方钱或者什么的经济纠纷。不过现在我俩正在work this out，他也清楚了我的期待值。而且我们这么大都有自己的history都受过伤，现在正在学习信任对方，更加敢付出，去照顾对方。起码趋势是好的。。。
我是看到这个提到的经济纠纷。其实主要是因为跟ex离婚就是因为经济问题，所以我会非常介意这一方面。不是说我们欠对方钱或者什么的经济纠纷。不过现在我俩正在work this out，他也清楚了我的期待值。而且我们这么大都有自己的history都受过伤，现在正在学习信任对方，更加敢付出，去照顾对方。起码趋势是好的。。。
w我给你抽了几张牌 关于你的学业，目前是不是进度挺快的，感觉刷刷的，有点应接不暇？感觉挺demanding的 环境因素，你目前学业环境是不是竞争很激烈啊，或是同学之间什么的那种紧张，不怎么友好的。 障碍，看来你目前内心里对生活有很多不满意。尤其是感情上的。而这种内心占战也在一定程度上对你的学业造成了负面影响 建议牌：非常有趣的组合，page of pentacles reversed + 3 of cups. 简易解答，relax and have some fun. have a girls night, party and drink. 放松紧张的身心 对你有好处的。 至于结果，我不乐意说，哈哈哈～～～
w我给你抽了几张牌 关于你的学业，目前是不是进度挺快的，感觉刷刷的，有点应接不暇？感觉挺demanding的 环境因素，你目前学业环境是不是竞争很激烈啊，或是同学之间什么的那种紧张，不怎么友好的。 障碍，看来你目前内心里对生活有很多不满意。尤其是感情上的。而这种内心占战也在一定程度上对你的学业造成了负面影响 建议牌：非常有趣的组合，page of pentacles reversed + 3 of cups. 简易解答，relax and have some fun. have a girls night, party and drink. 放松紧张的身心 对你有好处的。 至于结果，我不乐意说，哈哈哈～～～ cute-wheat 发表于 10/21/2016 12:25:41 AM
我来了！trial kit用了一大半，效果已经很明显，说真的，有掉发问题的妹子们真的值得一试，基本上你第一次洗头就能感觉到不同。。当然我也是试过常常换洗发水，一开始有效不等于后来一直有效，通常我是用了几次之后就没效了（包括各种贵的洗发水，nnd），该掉发的还是掉。不过这个套装针对掉发的问题十分见效！对了，他家的护发素可以直接抹头皮上，说是护发素，其实我觉得更多的功效是recovery。先不说太多啦，一说起来我就没完没了了！
First of all, I’d like to thank you very much for creating this thread; you have provided us so much information, tips, interesting stories, encouragement, etc. etc. I can’t thank you enough and I really appreciate for all the things you and other girls shared here in the post.
The saddest thing is that, I think I actually read part of this post when you started it back in 2012, at that time, I started to have problems with my marriage (well, to be honest, I have had issues way back when I was dating my ex-husband, I believe I have made almost every mistake a dumb girl possible could with dating n marriage throughout the years). Now looking back, it’s so freaking pathetic. Anyways, at that time, after I read your post, I was thinking, waaa, what an amazing post, so many things you girls talked about made so much sense, you girls seemed so cool and I’d like to be one of you girls. Then after I shut off the huaren app, I went back to crying (sadly asking “god” why my marriage couldn’t go back to how it was) and calling my friends asking for help while not really doing what they suggested. I guess one of the very few things I learned here was that I did buy and read some of the books you recommended (tao of dating, why men love/marry bXitches, the five love languages etc, and I loved every one of them. I have bought a few other books and they were just alright, some I didn’t even finish).
I finally divorced my ex late last year, found a new job (though with much lower pay), moved to a new city, my parents bought a new house for me and they moved to US and live with me now. For the whole winter, I thought I was over with my ex, then I realized that I didn’t (another dumb thing).
I created an account on coffee meets bagel (before I started to re-read this post), at least I was “smart” enough to know (guess that’s another thing I had vague memory about after having read this post in 2012) that I shouldn’t start a conversation and should wait until a guy to come and talk to me. A few guys made contact, and I didn’t even bother to reply (that’s when I realized that I wasn’t over my ex yet and that I should start to get my shXt together and move on). Then a few weeks ago, a guy from HK contacted me and asked me out, I liked the way he looks so we made arrangements and had our first and only meetup in a movie theater. I thought it went well, but obviously not that well since he never asked me out again, which I don’t really mind. And that’s when I thought of this post and wanted to re-read everything discussed here. So I spent the past 2 weeks, slowly reading and taking in all the information here, and I’m so grateful that I did it.
One of the things that touches me most is what you said about being confident/happy from within. I can remember that back in 2012 when I read this post for the first time (as I said, I don’t think I have read the whole thread and lots of follow-up discussions), I took it as “as long as I believe in myself, I think and stay positive, then the good things (guys) will come”. Well, it’s kinda of true, to some extent. But I didn’t realize that you need to make effort, to try your best, to really improve yourself, and then, you will gain confidence from positive feedbacks/outcomes after you better yourself. You can’t just stay in bed, read posts on the forum, not get your ass up to take pictures, to work on your profiles, to read more and expand your interest, and “wait” for the right guy to fall in love with you. And in one of your more recent updates, you mentioned that before you would say sth like “you deserve someone better”, now you think that “you deserve exactly what you get”. I couldn’t agree more. For example, I read the same post in 2012, I had problems with my ex, I knew that I should have left him way back when (with what I have learned from you and my own miserable experience, I should have dumped him even when we were dating), I let him take me for granted and walked all over me like a doormat. BUT, I couldn’t have divorced him. Not necessary mentally (at that time), it’s more because I wasn’t “ready” (ok, I know it sounds like an excuse). I couldn’t drive (always had to ask him to take me to places, he taught me and led me into the career I had from 2010-2015, which later in my opinion that I became better at our job than him), I couldn’t find a job (at least not easily, its complicated, don’t wanna get into details), basically, I couldn’t really stay alive (I exaggerated here, but you know what I’m saying) and make a living in the U.S. and I didn’t want go back to China (I have always enjoyed life abroad, and I don’t like the working/living environment in China, just personal preference). But in 2015, I got really good at driving (I love driving on highway), I learned how to take care of things (just small things like how to rent an apartment, how to buy a car, how to ask for help, or even how to do well in an interview and land a decent job). So at least, physically, I was “ready”. Sadly, I have been brainwashed by him for so many years (eg, why not just live in the moment, don’t need to plan for the future, why can’t you just be happy with what we have, I have been a much better husband than my grandpa and my dad, etc etc.). Didn’t you say sth like if you stay too long with losers, you lose the ability to distinguish the losers (not verbatim). That’s how I was in early 2015. Thankfully, my mom decided to come to U.S. and pushed hard to encourage me to leave him (my mom has always been a great life mentor though I have been dumb/stubborn enough not to listen to her advice). I took my mom and my belongs and left him to another city, and filed divorced there. I later found a new job, gained more confidence but still trapped in the past, until the wakening call. I’m really grateful to the HK boy, he was a real gentleman, polite, easy to talk to, etc, he made me feel good about myself. That’s why I couldn’t agree more that the easiest way to get over with your ex is to go out and date new guys.
Obviously, I have learned a whole lot more than what I have written here, but I just wanna share this with you (and many other girls like me who were/are troubled by failed relationships). I don’t wanna act like a drama queen and say that “oh dear cute-wheat, you saved me, you turned my life around”, I simply wanna thank you from deep of my heart and want you to know that you and all those wonderful gals who shared your wisdom in this post have helped me in a tremendous way, I want you to know that you didn’t waste your time typing every word on this public forum. I know it’s still too early to say that you will lead me to success in the dating department, I’m sure that I will still make mistakes, maybe even dumb ones, but I will always come back and re-read the things discussed here and learn from my or others’ mistakes and go from there. (You can’t go back and change how the story started, but you can always start now and change how it ends.) I have bought a few more books you recommended in these past two weeks, and will start to read them since I finally finished reading this post last night.
Last but not least, is it too late to ask for the promo code for the shampoo that you recommended? I have always had hair loss issue. Thank you.
PS, I think it’s gonna be your birthday soon, right? I remember you said you are Aries. Happy 30th birthday to you and hope you will have a great wedding this year. (I’m a 1985 Sagittarius, thank god I don’t feel pressured to have to get married or have baby before XX years old.)
PPS, I will start a new post a bit later once I start to use match.com and share my thoughts/experience on this forum. Adivice and critiques are very much welcomed and appreaciated!
Thank you.
最近没promo code, 也没问啥时会打折。几个月前有过一次打折。不过就算打折，也不会很多。因为我知道他们卖给salon, regional distributor的折扣，根本不多。原因么，成本本身就特别高。之前我说，他们家是用的最好最贵的原料，估计很多人还不鸟。不过就是这样。拿什么alterna,一类的比就没意思了, 那些只是名气大而已。这个牌子的开发人有将近30年作洗发产品的经验，以前一直是在大公司干。几年前才开始创业。东西要是不一等一的好，外人也不会愿意注资。一开始我也不信，用了我也被折服了。
算也是给其它mm一并回答的。如果你不在乎省几块钱，那现在就原价买一套30 day kit, 用的不满意，直接联系客服退了。一分损失都没。要是满意，告诉我，我能做到的就是在你下次下单前可以给你很好的折扣或是额外免费送一些产品，一定不会让你觉得吃亏了。他们现在其实也不是特别在乎散户的销量，现在着重international wholesale, 美国么，西部市场还没怎么开发，东部么在很多高档的salon里卖。
咪姐只说对了一半。这套产品不仅适合掉发脱发，你本身要是有其它问题，比如头发细软或是经常染烫或是总是头皮痒，头屑多，产品都能很好的帮到你。
至于你写的东西，我想说，你跟朋友交流也就罢了，你在工作中甚至约会的邮件的往来里，一定要注意简洁。能一句话说完的不要用2，3句或是更多。be concise. 我建议你没事可以有意识的训练下自己。我不喜欢有些鲜花大妈的言论。哎呀干吗那么在意语法用词啊。你写的差不多了，老外能看不懂不就行了么。p! 任何时候都不要降低自己学习的欲望和本领，除非你想做个家里蹲的和社会脱节的大妈。有意识的加强自己的business writing skill, 你会发现受益的不仅仅是在工作里。至于怎么加强。大量的读书。书读多了你自然会发现，你的写作用词在提高，这些都是无意识中提高的。多pay attention to native speaker在书信中的用词，看到好的，记下，模仿着用，用几次就彻底变为你自己的了。至于语法时态，虚拟语气，这个就是死看书了把？我是国内应试教育过来的，从小英语就好，这个对我而言不是问题。现在看到有人写东西，前后时态混乱，中式思维，虚拟语气不会用，我的ocd也发作了。。
The Day You Became A Better Writer
by Scot Adams
I went from being a bad writer to a good writer after taking a one-day course in “business writing.” I couldn’t believe how simple it was. I’ll tell you the main tricks here so you don’t have to waste a day in class.
Business writing is about clarity and persuasion. The main technique is keeping things simple. Simple writing is persuasive. A good argument in five sentences will sway more people than a brilliant argument in a hundred sentences. Don’t fight it.
Simple means getting rid of extra words. Don’t write, “He was very happy” when you can write “He was happy.” You think the word “very” adds something. It doesn’t. Prune your sentences.
Humor writing is a lot like business writing. It needs to be simple. The main difference is in the choice of words. For humor, don’t say “drink” when you can say “swill.”
Your first sentence needs to grab the reader. Go back and read my first sentence to this post. I rewrote it a dozen times. It makes you curious. That’s the key.
Write short sentences. Avoid putting multiple thoughts in one sentence. Readers aren’t as smart as you’d think.
Learn how brains organize ideas. Readers comprehend “the boy hit the ball” quicker than “the ball was hit by the boy.” Both sentences mean the same, but it’s easier to imagine the object (the boy) before the action (the hitting). All brains work that way. (Notice I didn’t say, “That is the way all brains work”?)
That’s it. You just learned 80% of the rules of good writing. You’re welcome.
至于你写的东西，我想说，你跟朋友交流也就罢了，你在工作中甚至约会的邮件的往来里，一定要注意简洁。能一句话说完的不要用2，3句或是更多。be concise. 我建议你没事可以有意识的训练下自己。我不喜欢有些鲜花大妈的言论。哎呀干吗那么在意语法用词啊。你写的差不多了，老外能看不懂不就行了么。p! 任何时候都不要降低自己学习的欲望和本领，除非你想做个家里蹲的和社会脱节的大妈。有意识的加强自己的business writing skill, 你会发现受益的不仅仅是在工作里。至于怎么加强。大量的读书。书读多了你自然会发现，你的写作用词在提高，这些都是无意识中提高的。多pay attention to native speaker在书信中的用词，看到好的，记下，模仿着用，用几次就彻底变为你自己的了。至于语法时态，虚拟语气，这个就是死看书了把？我是国内应试教育过来的，从小英语就好，这个对我而言不是问题。现在看到有人写东西，前后时态混乱，中式思维，虚拟语气不会用，我的ocd也发作了。。
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q麦，你实在太神了。
可不可以具体请教下你是怎么看到我过于关注细节容易迷失其中啊？这个是去年我妈妈搬来美国跟我住在一起之后才发现并且告诉我的。我能够理解一部分，但是我实在太好奇你是怎么一下子就看出来了啊？
你谈到的表达能力差这是我一直以来的问题。我其实今天开始是用中文写得，写了一两段实在下不下去了，觉得非常难以表达然后删了全部改成英文写，起码能够表述出我想说的意思。这个也会是我接下来努力改进的一个方面，还有怎样进行small talk。当然这些也都是跟平时的阅读量知识面直接挂钩的。
另外谢谢楼上mm的分享，我读了，有所收获。
ps Q麦我好像把你生日算错了, sorry
你写的东西我看了，但我没仔细的看，不过还是有不少中式思维的。表达时很忌讳在脑子里先用中文打草稿然后试图翻译成英文表达出来。这样你的英文永远提高不了太多。学会强迫自己用英文思考。有意识的去训练自己的大脑，时间久了，肯定有效果的。
我最后想跟你说的是，每当你遇到挫折时，你要这样给自己打气，我连最困难的离开前夫，独立生活赚钱都做到了，还有啥是能难住我的啊。加油把。祝你一切顺利
不用和我说sorry, 我生日也是刚刚过去。我应该比你大半岁。
nod nod 谢谢mm鼓励
mark!
Cute-wheat, admire your courage and strength. Thank you for sharing the insights on dating and love life! My silly PC could not type Chinese. Have to put up with my poor English then. I will follow your guide to start over in 2016 too! :-))
let me see
越读越觉得小麦mm剔透，真的好多问题都先料到了，解决方案也都先放在那儿了，只等有缘人发现。
再次谢过。
mark 一下
讲的简直太对了。每次分手，我都会回忆之前的好的回忆，然后觉得算了吧，还要重新认识人再来过，好麻烦，要么凑合凑合算了。直到搞到最后无法收场。
从19分钟开始沥川说的话其实挺对的。20分钟后的bgm好听到炸！http://www.bilibili.com/video/av2580384/
我一年到头也看不到一部国产剧或是什么日韩剧的。。这个太符合我的胃口啦。前9集各种甜腻！看的人分分钟想找个男神谈恋爱;)
海外党们直接youtube搜索就行。国内目前是乐视独播，每周2和5更新5集，一共38集。youtube更的也很迅速。
小麦mm关注微信号"严肃八卦"吗？每次推剧很及时，剧评也挺靠谱。
把男女关系比主人与狗，太经典了。哈哈。我的一条狗。其实万事的道理都是通的
很欣赏你的性格，drama but not crazy lol，希望自己也能成为这样的人，因为我觉得自己太无趣了啊
在这里回复一楼也没什么问题要问，算是小小支持一下麦子楼主你吧～
我遇到自己喜欢的 会主动
然后见面几次后就不主动了
聪明又热心 罕有的好妹子！
跟现任在一起挺好的，也有讨论今后在一起，结婚什么的(但是都同意不是现在，还太早)。
如果能够算出来跟他真能成，那最好不过啦。。。
拜托拜托，谢谢啦！
我这不是算命啊大姐
怎么我给你抽的牌 完全不如你在你自己帖子里表现的那么积极。。看起来你俩之间有金钱矛盾吧。或是在金钱上有谈不拢或是意见不统一的地方。明显看出来你对这段感情的进度是有失望的。。反正就是不如你预设想的那么美好。
建议牌，the star rx.. 你俩之间有距离，如果不是physical的，那就是内心的距离。。。。只有你自己明白这是啥意思。
4张牌，没有代表感情的圣杯牌，说明你俩感情交流并没那么紧密。2张星币牌，说明你俩之间物质强调的挺多，只可惜都是逆位，说明物质啊金钱什么的带给你们关系有不好的一面。有不满，不平衡，你或对方有疑惑所有的付出努力是不是值得。
代表行动力的权杖8，也是逆位，说明行动力不足或是停滞或是进展速度不如你设想的。建议牌，星星逆位。刚才解答了。
你应该们心问问，求婚是不是真的是你目前最需要的。
我先不说 等你反馈
我原来从来没有接触过塔罗牌，不知道是那种需要什么生辰八字还是什么什么信息才能算的。看起来好像是直接抽牌，也不需要本人在场或者什么的，感觉好神奇啊。
金钱矛盾:在上周日谈清楚之前，一直是我自己心里很烦恼的一个问题。他收入比我预想的高，但是非常注重理财，再加上还房贷车贷什么的，导致手上的流动资产比较少(特别是上这两个月又有房贷又有房租)。不过我也不觉得他是那种特别节约让人无法忍受的人，但也不是那种大手大脚花钱特别爽快的人。不过现在谈清楚了，而且已经可以看到有所改变(这一点真的做的很好)。不过现在时日还短，还要继续观察。
距离:我们两家相隔2/30分钟车程，如果从我家去上班只要半小时，从他家离开去上班要一小时或者更糟。我们之前都是基本上我去他家附近吃饭玩然后也有一两周(特殊原因)直接住他家。前一次比较认真的谈话后，现在都是周中他过来我家吃饭玩(puzzle或者一起出去逛下什么的)。
感情交流/进度:这个不太明白是什么意思啊？我们韩国回来之后，他某天离开我家前说u know i love u right?自此我们都是开始用love了(之前会说i like u a lot)。然后因为我们exclusive特别快，但是我有段时间不确定我们是否算男女朋友，可是也可以算我刚刚开始concern我们到底什么关系他就确定的说我们其实早就可以算男女朋友了。
我们没有具体或者严重的财务纠纷啊(就是之前有几次他会突然结账的时候问do u wanna pay，让我非常的惊讶，不过我脸皮薄，总是就付了，但是心里肯定是不爽的，因为觉得他赚的比我多多了，而且我的钱是我们一家三口用，他就一个人再加上我们一起吃饭的钱)。这也就是我们周末讨论的问题。
我觉得总体来说，从我们认识到现在我都对我们的进度还是比较满意，没有发展太快让人觉得是荷尔蒙作祟，但是也没有特别慢。而且我之前其实是很想你帮我"算"(知道你不是算卦啦)if he is the one，其实更多的是一种哇，如果抽牌也说he is my perfect match那就是一种reinforcement吧。说实话，如果他现在求婚我会答应，但是觉得有点早。起码圣诞或者明年吧。不过如果明年一周年纪念日还没反映，那估计就会觉得慢了。
我啥时说你俩有严重或是具体的经济纠纷了？你能仔细看清楚我的占卜结果不
我是看到这个提到的经济纠纷。其实主要是因为跟ex离婚就是因为经济问题，所以我会非常介意这一方面。不是说我们欠对方钱或者什么的经济纠纷。不过现在我俩正在work this out，他也清楚了我的期待值。而且我们这么大都有自己的history都受过伤，现在正在学习信任对方，更加敢付出，去照顾对方。起码趋势是好的。。。
你俩明明经济上有谈不拢的地方。还有需要磨合的地方。你脸皮薄 你男人脸皮也薄 我昨天抽的牌，比较可以肯定的说，你男人希望你在你俩关系中你还能再多添一分子，钱上。
你俩有表白说i love you， 不代表现阶段你俩的感情流露充沛啊。。。跟你说话咋那么费劲呢姐妹
你也别问我抽的啥牌了。你要是想知道你俩在未来三个月是否能定下来，我觉得不会。他也不会求婚。你男人看待你俩的关系，觉得你俩还是没到那个份上。思想上，你俩根本不是一个level的。你天天别老整一堆 future talk或是什么严肃认真的对话， 只会把小哥推的很远。star rv,放在建议牌里，其实是建议你们适当分开一下，别天天黏糊在一起。比如一周见4次的 现在改成一周见2次，3次。小别胜新婚，懂不。欲速则不达。才恋爱多久啊，还有那么多事儿没撸清楚呢就急急忙忙的想着嫁人了。还真当闪婚是常态啊。
不知道为什么，我有种不好的预感。。。小麦mm现在能告诉我了么？
很显然，你在未来会更多的审视这段关系是否值得你继续投资。而对于他而言，他则不想按部就班。。他期望的恋爱走势是自由的，无拘无束的。显然他觉得结婚还是很遥远的事。
有意思的是，我在洗牌时，掉出一张牌，星币5. 这张牌也从一个侧面表明，你俩之间有钱的问题。看来一方或是双方经济都很拮据，而这种资金紧张的状态也在一定程度上影响了感情。
如果我是你，我不会再搞什么talk. 人家赚的多，不代表就该都撒你身上。你还不是他老婆呢，凭什么对人家工资如何分配指手画脚。你要是真的很爱他离不开他，那就在多负担一些约会开销吧。先不去想什么结婚的事，享受当下。
就这样了吧。
你这个如果放在周日我们回家路上讨论之前的预测，我就要说实在是神准了。真的是超级超级贴切(除了他脸皮薄，他基本上是不满意会直接说)。不过我们已经就钱的问题讨论得蛮清楚了，希望今后不再会是问题。
下面这段是我在看到你最后一条回复之前写的，又是超级准啊，你说我在审视是否值得。而且你说的拮据，也是我之前提到他这两个月(literally这两个月)会拮据，年底或者明年发bonus他手头就宽多了。
我也觉得还没到时候，只是心里偶尔会想如果命里不是他，不如早点分开(但是其实也理解不管成功或者失败的感情都是一种成长和收获)。我们也很少讨论什么严肃的话题，第一次是确定我们都想build our relationship，然后就是这次讨论钱的问题。
谢谢小麦啦。
入门啊 我入门看的英文的。。biddy tarot自己编的。后来又看了国内很火的什么塔罗葵花宝典（怎样，这个名字是不是很醉），你已经很塔罗了。你还可以更塔罗。。塔罗逆位精讲，78度的智慧。。等等等等。。很多很多。
塔罗这个就是入门简单，想学精难。塔罗的确什么都能测，健康，生死都能测。不过呢，那也是射覆练的很神武的神人才敢测。如果只看牌意，显然塔罗不适合看健康看生死。
塔罗 你也不能说是怎么解答都行。很多还是有规则可循的。塔罗最实用的就是给人指明方向。趋吉避凶。至于结果，人跟上努力了，结果还不是水到渠成吗。
我就拿马甲姑娘的事例举例 什么叫指明方向。
你这事啊，你现如今知道你男人比较在乎的点了。那就试着多负担些开销。不要一出去就想当然的希望他全支付。当然了，你也不要傻不拉几的和他沟通，哎呀我知道你可能有经济压力，虽说我赚的也不多，但我这之后会多付些。。这样的话千万别说，，男人要脸。他就算希望你多付，也不希望自己女人觉得自己很incapable. 一个好女人是要永远给足男人面子的。你行动上这么做就行了。让他崩的很紧的这根筋放松下来，没了这个障碍了，我觉得也会利于你俩感情的发展。到时说不定小哥比原计划提前决定求婚呢。这也不是没可能啊。
你觉得给你这样的占卜结果比什么简单的他是不是the one 更有意义啊。是the one又如何。是也不代表你俩就一定能成。你要是一直作，再正缘的男人也作没了。这世上哪有什么一成不变的结果。
其实这就是我喜欢塔罗的地方。结果根本不重要。重要的是这个过程 我该怎么走
还有关于你的工作，你最近是不是在忙乎什么或是等待什么结果？看来有喜事发生呀～～别激动 我说的是工作方面 ^^
明白了一些。我之前买的书也是英文的，但是感觉没找对，现在也忘记名字了。指明方向这个很有用啊！顺带问一句，mm昨天特意提到要我注意学业事业方面，是塔罗给了什么指示么？我现在心里没底究竟12月的大坎能不能顺利过去~~唉。谢谢mm
w我给你抽了几张牌
关于你的学业，目前是不是进度挺快的，感觉刷刷的，有点应接不暇？感觉挺demanding的
环境因素，你目前学业环境是不是竞争很激烈啊，或是同学之间什么的那种紧张，不怎么友好的。
障碍，看来你目前内心里对生活有很多不满意。尤其是感情上的。而这种内心占战也在一定程度上对你的学业造成了负面影响
建议牌：非常有趣的组合，page of pentacles reversed + 3 of cups. 简易解答，relax and have some fun. have a girls night, party and drink. 放松紧张的身心 对你有好处的。
至于结果，我不乐意说，哈哈哈～～～
小麦mm塔罗牌可以问方向问建议吗?还是看现状和预测的?
我心里有我应该不应该现在。。。这种问题。
关于过程:
人到30真的觉得很多事想开了许多。最近老妈会有点类似旁敲侧击问我们么时候结婚么时候生小孩的问话，很难不被她的言语影响到开始觉得有点焦躁。其实我非常享受现在跟他在一起的感觉，我们认识这三个多月以来，从一开始对他profile不怎么感兴趣，到慢慢互相了解互相吸引真的是一个很美妙的过程。而且就算他不是the one又怎样，起码我们现在是开心的。而且我并非一定要小孩，这样也没有短时间结婚的压力。我会更坚定自己的路，不要让他人的言语影响到我的心情/思路。
而且你说的关于塔罗牌能够帮助指导我们如何去做一件事，而不是像算命一样直接测算结果，其实挺好的。比如你现在告诉我了，我就更加知道能够怎样跟他相处，了解他的顾虑想法(其实他蛮vocal，相反是他会直接提出最近手头紧，不能去很贵的餐馆，然后我会建议我们在家一起买菜做饭)。
他的事业:
他工作压力还蛮大的，我们经常会讨论各自工作方面的事情。然后他们公司最近可能会被收购，他有开始找后路，怕万一新的management不好，就会换家公司。每个人工作都会有一些烦恼，没觉得他对现在的公司或者工作有什么特别不满之处。
我的工作:
最近工作中有一方面有特别大的变动，让我的日常工作变得特别烦恼(不过很多同事都收到影响，大家都在抱怨希望情况有所改变)。然后我一直希望能够加薪或者换一个薪水更高的职位(一直在留意但是还没有找到)。我们review要到明年春天呢，加薪肯定是有的，就是不知道会加多少。所以还真想不出来近期会有什么好事咧。不过承你吉言，要是真有好事我再来给你update告诉你哈。
谢谢小麦。
我以前好奇过这些，现在，除了生死，真觉得没啥大事了 ^_^，就不好奇了。当时mitbbs有个版面上有几个mm会解出生命盘，不过找她们排队特别难，我就跑到淘宝上搜了下，真的有卖这个的！别笑我，我！真！的！买！了！
天哪，好神阿！总觉得超级聪明的妹子才能懂塔罗牌这么深奥又神秘的东西。
好想请小麦mm帮我看看前男友还会回来找我吗？过了好久还是哭还是难过的不行。
我说的关于你的好事 倒没有加薪的信息，当然不是说不会发生，只是我的牌上没有这样的信息。牌面更多的信息是一种肯定。比如说你老板在开会时当着很多人的面表扬你呀或是发群信里称赞你呀，或是你得了个类似最佳员工一类的，可大可小。你自己注意下咯。反正是很件很让人开心让人想得瑟的事儿。
我又给你看了下你的工作。嗯，11月，好像你的干劲挺足的吧，而且待人接物蛮直接的，sharp tongue,不是啥坏事，反正就是一种我冲冲冲的工作态度，精力旺盛。如果这个说法不符合你，那就是你工作环境里在11月里会遇到一个这样的人，如果是这样的话，那你就要注意和这人相处时，你多忍让点吧，对方可能相处起来蛮challenging的。明年1月你会有一个很让人兴奋的新工作或是新项目上马。关键词就是new!!!!还有就是这个工作或是项目是和你目前做的不太一样。你会很喜欢的。恭喜了哦。12月注意感情吧。看来你12月还有点想作的倾向。牌给你的建议是，少花钱。年底了，粉板花生版少去。。。勒紧裤腰带。
其实你工作目前来看，是有机会的对不？只是你兴致不大，懒得搭理。有点无聊。不想做选择。
我的塔罗只会为我自己服务。
淘宝开店才能赚几个钱。。。要指望这个养活自己，这辈子都不可能。
不过谢谢mm夸奖哦。你的心态很好。
哈哈，小麦你说的工作方面的我会注意。其实我从上周三开始到现在一直在做一个很大的project，所以压力还蛮大的(自己给的)，估计还要一两周才能结束。
感情方面我也会注意，其实我性格蛮不做的，属于那种不如意情愿撤退都不想去直面问题的人(不过也因为知道这样不行所以才会在这段感情中试着先去解决问题而不是直接放弃)。
的确是要省钱，黑五也不准备买特别的东西，到时候直接用之前买好的gc就好了。我觉得你能够通过牌看出我在金钱上有问题真是太准太神奇了。
谢谢小麦哦，周末快乐。