I never agreed to stonebench's argument on this topic. It is perfectly OK to ignore my related comments, but then you shouldn't invent a position for me as if you know me. You don't.
By the way, those good things you did as listed are indeed good. congratulations for making your student life more meaningful than that of those from your circle but had chosen not to do anything. But I don't think these good things are materials for 凡爾賽 since I have stories that are better and harder from a few people I know closely. So, your stories are good, but they didn't impress me much.
Of course, I am very very poor myself and have no money, therefore I can't do these myself, and that is why I think what you did was good.
To make Elon poorer, just don't buy tesla. To make Bazos poorer, just don't use Amazon. To make ourselves poorer, just blame others. To make Biden poorer, just impeach him. To make Trump poorer, just elect him.
when I said snowandlotus is hypocritical? You asked me what I have done for my homeland in that post when you called me stupid, right? I chose to ignore at that time because you and your biased comments are always unworthy of my responding time: do you know me? You like judging people by calling them stupid even you know nothing about them, huh?
Who is pretending? Who is hypocritical? Who does not have integrity? I am still telling you I love America more than China. If I don't, I would have gone back to China. That's called integrity - being reconciled between your claim and your behavior. You people have any faith to either country? Your love is conditional and you are trying to find all kinds of stupid excuses for not going back, like I did not find a job, 祖国嫌我老，中国是赤裸裸的年龄歧视，我买了房子得还房贷，blar blar blar. Ain't you sick of those lies? People like me are consistent inside out. We are far from perfection but we have faith to the oath we took. You were poor so you could not give 1 yuan to poorer Chinese people in China and you are still poor so you can't donate 1 buck to poorer people here. How do you understand "不以善小而不为”？Who is “贫二代”？
金钱至上的我谈钱
我爱钱，爱挣钱，爱花钱。真的，我跟钱没仇。
钱是个不错的东西，第一次认识到这一点时是在上高中后不久。从五岁起学了近十年的舞蹈，如果按部就班那么走下去，我即使不跳舞也会进演艺圈。可是家长不让，软硬兼施算是把我拉回到了“正轨”——做一个一心只读圣贤书的高中生。突然不跳舞了，这青春的活力无处安放啊，正好邻居家小姑娘非要找我学跳舞，于是就做起了小老师。本来说好是免费的，但小姑娘的家人过意不去就说：你要用不到这钱就捐希望工程吧。于是，以后几年甚至到了大学，我一直把自己打零工挣的钱捐希望工程。每年，我都能收到我资助的孩子们的亲笔书信。我惊讶于在外面一顿下馆子的饭钱就相当于一个孩子一年的学费。也初次感觉到，平时我并不在意的钱对另外一个人是多么的重要。
因为高中参加的各种竞赛，我是被报送上的大学。在大学里，遇到了许多贫困地方来的高考成绩佼佼者们。我第二次被惊讶到了，这次不只是物质和钱上的差别，也感受到了社会资源和机会分配的不平等所造成的差别。记得那时候，我们有个小圈子，到现在我仍然记得那个圈子里的师哥师姐们经常无奈地说：居然还跟一帮靠考试进来的人一起上课。我很少住校，也不好给别人钱，怕伤了自尊心，就变着法地把一些生活贫困的同学拉到家里去做功课，随后就借机留下他们吃饭。我在外面找到勤工俭学的机会就借口说去不了好让他们顺水推舟地“帮我一个大忙”。我从来没差过钱，可是钱对我的这些同学太重要了，所以对我也重要起来。
等出国留学，人还没到美国呢，亲戚就准备了一台车给我代步。我以为这里的学生人人都会有车，结果还是比较惊讶地看到并非如此。于是，我这台车成了同学中的公车。人生真正有一段捉襟见肘的时候是家人为了一件事惩罚我，断了我的银两，没钱的日子还是挺难过的，深刻体会到了英雄难免也会为五斗米折腰的。之后毕业找工作，凭本事吃饭养家，再也不需要娘家的钱了。
疫情期间，开始在家上班，心虚地看看自己从来没绿过的手指开始蠢蠢欲动，然后就是一发不可收拾地把阳台变成了花花草草的世界。野心不断地膨胀，居然还在大花盆里种起菜来，西红柿，各种辣椒，甜椒，灯笼椒，Zucchini, 各种香料——罗勒、百里香、迷迭香等等。我爱咖啡，还心血来潮从加州买来一颗咖啡树苗，为她写了一首酸诗。花草也是有灵性的，感恩她们陪我们度过了那段郁闷的居家隔离的日子。我有时会想，当出不了门，买不了食物，这一方阳台上土地里长出的东西就可以让人存活下来。我突然理解了农民对土地的感情。只要有土地人类就能生生不息。尤其在那时，不知疫情将把世界带到何处的惶恐和沮丧中，更加体会到什么叫做“民以食为天”。
“民以食为天”这样朴素的话让我很有感触。有人会说怎么总想着吃，民就是这么贫穷的素质，居然把食物当成上帝！太物质，追求太低！就像有人在大言不惭地指责别人满脑子就是金钱，典型的资本主义的金钱之上思维的时候一样的嘴脸。可是普通的民，你没见过钱和粮对他们是多么的重要。想起我曾经资助过的那些希望工程的孩子，我那些偏远农村来的同学，我在美国经常去做志愿者的地方见到的那些民，我的心仍然会痛。食物就是他们的天，你们看不上的金钱就是他们的地！看看2021年全球人道主义善款排名，没有钱，没有资本行吗？全球还有无数的企业、机构和个人的人道捐助走向世界每个需要援助的角落。没有钱，没有资本行吗？你们可以用各种小人之心去嘲笑这些企业、个人、政府，甚至去怀疑这些钱的来源，扯着你们的破锣嗓子、暴着你们脖子上的青筋质问这些资本的原始积累是不是从殖民时代就开始的！此时，在你们骂着、嘲笑着的时候，有一个快要饿死的俄塞俄比亚的小孩因为这些你们看不起的资本家的钱活下来了，一个生命得救了。而你们在干些什么？在床上翘着二郎腿，划着苹果手机，用着在资本主义国家诞生的互联网，在资本主义国家的土地上大骂着这些取财富于社会、还财富于社会的人、企业和国家。
记得苏格拉底说如果一个人是用正当手段挣到钱，并且赚钱之后的态度是行善，取之于社会，用之于社会，那么这样的人越多越好。赚钱必定需要能力、努力、聪明和运气。一个头脑贫穷没有能力，成天抱怨别人总是多么的不公和剥削他的人，才会去想着瓜分别人的私人财产、占为己有。一个健康、鼓励劳动致富的社会一定要扶持企业，特别是中小企业，让他们多盈利就能多交税多回馈社会，而不是象某些国家和政府，在把一些私人中小企业扶持起来之后就把 他们的资产占位公有。在这样的公有企业工作的人，从上到下大多会走上一条已经证明走不通的回头路，变得懒惰、自私甚至贪婪，而企业会衰败，社会会不稳定，人民会贫穷。历史已经给了我们无数的教训。没有钱，人会没有吃的，民的天就没了。
你问我？我爱干净的钱，爱挣亲手劳动而获得的钱，爱花钱给需要他们的人们。
有錢有才人又好
誰娶回家揀到宝
居然让家长严厉惩罚了。
家长一定是更加出色的家长。
开个玩笑，确实能感觉到是好孩子，好家长。
当然，也可能坏蛋。
不一定。
俺都是空谈，实际生活中肯定没有你做得好，惭愧。
坦诚自己爱钱的人往往非常大方，乐施好善。声称自己不爱钱的，十有八九非常虚伪，也很小气。
我觉得，大家都少唱高调，少谈什么大公无私匹夫有责，该挣钱挣钱，每月拿出哪怕二三十块，资助困难儿童或给SPCA就是do sth. for your country. 本人可以大言不惭的说，我就是这样做的。
在帖子中說的那个圈子裏，你算很温暖的清流了。
好文，楼主出生很好家庭，起点高，天赋也很好，但依然心怀善良，关心弱势群体；这要比那些以爱国自诩，却伪善，冷血，对底层苦难视而不见的人强太多
I never agreed to stonebench's argument on this topic. It is perfectly OK to ignore my related comments, but then you shouldn't invent a position for me as if you know me. You don't.
By the way, those good things you did as listed are indeed good. congratulations for making your student life more meaningful than that of those from your circle but had chosen not to do anything. But I don't think these good things are materials for 凡爾賽 since I have stories that are better and harder from a few people I know closely. So, your stories are good, but they didn't impress me much.
Of course, I am very very poor myself and have no money, therefore I can't do these myself, and that is why I think what you did was good.
To make Elon poorer, just don't buy tesla.
To make Bazos poorer, just don't use Amazon.
To make ourselves poorer, just blame others.
To make Biden poorer, just impeach him.
To make Trump poorer, just elect him.
(发自我的文学城离线浏览器)
那些高喊打倒资本主义解放全人类实则贪婪无度的骗子（中共高官差不多都是这个德行），如尚有一丝良知 ，看到您的这篇文字， 应该感到羞愧！
很惭愧， 没有参与过社会捐助。 出国前我在国内城里有几处房产， 出国后都租出去了， 所有收入都转给了几位至亲，他们都在农村， 生活劳作十分艰难， 收入极少， 每想到她们就感到心疼， 因此鲜有心情参与社会捐助—— 而且，对于社会捐助的真实内幕我也深怀戒心。
一般我们不谈钱但依然工作劳动心底诚实守信并回馈社会，这就够了。
经济与物质决定的。
中国从七0后贫二代思维就在减少，80后比较少，90后非常少，00后已经相当自信。
对洋人的态度是一个很重要的观察指标
鼓掌围观卿宝扁你
when I said snowandlotus is hypocritical? You asked me what I have done for my homeland in that post when you called me stupid, right? I chose to ignore at that time because you and your biased comments are always unworthy of my responding time: do you know me? You like judging people by calling them stupid even you know nothing about them, huh?
Who is pretending? Who is hypocritical? Who does not have integrity? I am still telling you I love America more than China. If I don't, I would have gone back to China. That's called integrity - being reconciled between your claim and your behavior. You people have any faith to either country? Your love is conditional and you are trying to find all kinds of stupid excuses for not going back, like I did not find a job, 祖国嫌我老，中国是赤裸裸的年龄歧视，我买了房子得还房贷，blar blar blar. Ain't you sick of those lies? People like me are consistent inside out. We are far from perfection but we have faith to the oath we took. You were poor so you could not give 1 yuan to poorer Chinese people in China and you are still poor so you can't donate 1 buck to poorer people here. How do you understand "不以善小而不为”？Who is “贫二代”？
why don't you label yourself? :)
我的经验啊，说到嫁娶，小谢这种凤凰男不能找啊：）
我有切身体验，太可怕了，往事不堪回首。经常地以那颗小人心来揣度你的任何有意或无意的行为，你做的对的时候，说你凡尔赛，他感到你稍稍怠慢的时候，说你看不起他。老话说得太对了，要门当户对！当然，有好的，但是少之又少。原生家庭的影响太深刻。
我辈分高，早就是奶奶级的人物了~~~
你做得已经很好了，一点都不应该感到羞愧！
I don't read your posts.
原来如此。