Give her lots of love and encourage her to further her career gr
so that she will have more opportunities to meet varieties of successful professionals and ............ On the other hand discourage her to have children early on in her marriage. Honestly I feel that you pushed your daughter away by not inviting him coming into your home, by not having deep/subtle conversation with him, by not respecting her and treating her as an adult. Anybody have their own faults. Only after you spend time with him, your points of views(finding his faults), which is likely opposite of hers, carry weight, and you would have better chance to convince your daughter. Right now, the most important thing is to give her lots of love, so your daughter will come back to you and will know what she should do eventually. 只能把爱放在心里了!让她吃点苦去! - You are hurting her. Pls do research on the subject of LOVE.
女儿今年五月去了夏威夷结婚,我没去。
主要是不喜欢那女婿。他没进过我家门,我也没过他们的家。
不过我还是把他们在夏威夷的开支付了(预先没告诉她,婚礼当天转给她银行)。
女婿是半个黑人,如奥巴马。学的是文科,大学读了五年(明显是笨和懒),与女儿同年毕业。
本来孩子的事,也不想干涉,但他大学毕业五年没工作。
在我的建议下,自学计算机,最近二年才有工作。目前工资与女儿差不多。
由于他一直没收入,大学毕业后一直开女儿的车(我的名字),去年撞黄灯,被一个下班警察撞了。
车废了,我的保险还付了2万元给那个无懒警察。
婚后他们租了公寓,一个卧室,租金每月达$1800。原想买房,但他们买不起。
男方家庭是普通平民,父亲己退休,母亲尚有5年退休,他父母无钱给儿子(三个儿子,一个女儿)。
几年前,曾想为女儿买个镇房,我们付20%首付,她自己付房贷。
距她公司仅20分钟,她竟嫌太远,不要!现在房价已涨了30%!
不过,他们虽然不富裕,好像生活得很幸福,女儿有当家作主的感觉。
婚后,对女儿说,你可以带他回家。虽然以前说过:我们不欢迎一个没有自食其力的人。
女儿聪明美丽,却栽在牛粪上。
不过也是我们的错,从小鼓励不够,而我们周围的孩子都很优秀。
加上我们的高学历背景,她有压力。
因此她自信心不足,找个比她差点的男孩,自信心又回来了,
儿孙自有儿孙福,只能随她了!
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我没空,要不然我写下我父母当初做的事(和你一模一样),和我的现状,你就知道你这些话说得太早了。
我父母现在后悔死了。
你怎末就敢对年轻人这样呢?你27岁时在干什么?
请详细说一下为了找工作, 自学计算机课程的详细情况, 谢谢
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鲜花映衬得牛粪也光亮,牛粪滋润得鲜花更娇艳。。。
有没有谁是H1b自己办绿卡成功的呢?我需要做labor certificate,那个kit里面的信息表格都挺全的。我听说办绿卡不一定要请律师,也不知道这种说法对H1b身份需要做labor certificate的人来说是否对。员绝对是可以自己办的。朋友们能不能把经验建议分享一下?
孩子“没出息”;婚嫁找了个另类。
参加婚礼的人会怎么看?
his father did not have money to go!
非常理解同情你的感受,但是我们真管不了子孙后代了,总是会有反骨的。
可是通常子女的婚姻观和父母也差不到哪儿去吧。真的让父母特不满意的对象,还是少数。
是个了不起的妈妈。
女儿就是故意和你们对着干,但你的钱照拿。
找的,就根本不用担心他们整天素质。那个男孩现在不是挺努力的吗
我的情况跟你的一模一样,只是她找的是华人。矮穷丑!唉,女儿可是白富美!可能也是我在家高学历给她压力太大了。母强儿弱啊。她说与矮穷丑一起,她没有压力。她们还没结婚,但是我都不知道怎么办才好了。随着她吧。只是希望以后她的财产不要被骗。准备做个家庭基金来帮她守护财产
so that she will have more opportunities to meet varieties of successful professionals and ............ On the other hand discourage her to have children early on in her marriage. Honestly I feel that you pushed your daughter away by not inviting him coming into your home, by not having deep/subtle conversation with him, by not respecting her and treating her as an adult. Anybody have their own faults. Only after you spend time with him, your points of views(finding his faults), which is likely opposite of hers, carry weight, and you would have better chance to convince your daughter. Right now, the most important thing is to give her lots of love, so your daughter will come back to you and will know what she should do eventually. 只能把爱放在心里了!让她吃点苦去! - You are hurting her. Pls do research on the subject of LOVE.
得到你的祝福。她永远不会忘记。
大话谁都会讲。
Once you turn black, you will never go back. 4. 不说了。
有个给我打工的老黑,他是他爸37个孩子中的一个。俺只是说事,LZ别生气诅咒我。我闺女从小就听惯了我扔黑人房客上街的事,黑人满嘴跑火车,黑人工人偷东西,黑人胡搅蛮缠。她小时候被她们年级唯一的黑女孩BULLY过。她说以后坚决不要俺的破生意。High END房客也有混蛋的,但是少。海边的房子她也听多了付3000块一星期的挑事头,什么床底下有根头发没清干净之类的。。。。
对女儿,她的灵魂才是她。只不过借了你的肉身来这世界。尊重她的选择。不要主动出手帮忙。等他们求上门。不然你以后麻烦不断。。。。。
儿孙自有儿孙福,莫与儿孙做马牛。人生七十古来稀,问君尚有几春秋?
你是赔了女儿又折兵
女儿幸福的过着自己想过的日子,看不顺眼;一定要孩子按父母认为的幸福标准过日子,那才舒服。还可怜天下父母心,这样的父母心不可怜,到比较可恨。你在帖子里也说了从小对女儿鼓励少,女儿没自信,所以找个不如自身的感觉有自信,吸取教训了吗?继续伤害着女儿,还摆出比女儿委屈,是苦心的奉献的父母姿态,没丁点儿自知之明。