Do you know how much money you need to be happy? This is a timeless question. The truth is that we don’t need nearly as much money as most people think. There is plenty of research that says most of the happiness you can obtain can be achieved at a basic standard of living. More money can contribute to more happiness, but only to a certain point. This makes sense to me: does anyone honestly believe that people were not happy thousands of years ago, before the invention of the iPhone? I believe that beyond the basics, everything else is FLUFF. The most important things in life, the things that bring us basic happiness – most of those things are free, or virtually free.
Shouldn't use what you see here in this forum to set a standard
for your own children. They'd feel it is out of reach and wouldn't even try.
Their idea of an easy life may be too "rosy." Visit an apartment complex in the neighborhood and find out what the rent is. Ask them what kind of job they need to get in order to afford living here, after all the taxes.
If they think they know everything there is to know, that's a proof that they know too little.
说就想找一个简单不stress的活干干。学医太辛苦，责任性大，说再多钱也没不想去干。对藤校也没兴趣。小娃现在做tutor，很满意$10／hour的收入。说以后就找这种轻松的工作。俺大娃当时很轻松就进了USNCO前50名。数学比赛全州前几名，但也是不求上进，就想找一份简单的活干，钱够吃饭的就行。
看别人家娃都很努力学习工作，忙得很。我家娃闲得很，说enjoy life。我真觉得他们没一点进取心啊。
这里虎妈虎爸多，想知道你们是如何让孩子有上进心的。
以回报社会为己任
https://www.highview.com.au/the-story-of-a-fisherman/
Do you know how much money you need to be happy? This is a timeless question. The truth is that we don’t need nearly as much money as most people think. There is plenty of research that says most of the happiness you can obtain can be achieved at a basic standard of living. More money can contribute to more happiness, but only to a certain point. This makes sense to me: does anyone honestly believe that people were not happy thousands of years ago, before the invention of the iPhone? I believe that beyond the basics, everything else is FLUFF. The most important things in life, the things that bring us basic happiness – most of those things are free, or virtually free.
估计也只能去旗舰州大，但UCB, UMich可能还进不去。
孩子都不一样，各有各的满足，挺好的。不想争破头的孩子，未必不是有担当认真生活享受生活的孩子。
希望一毕业就几十万上百万？
多少人的职业中值都未必到得了这个数目。
我的要求简单，大学毕业，找到白领工作不就行了。
上完大学的，不想搬回父母那里被唠叨，被限制游戏时间的，不想被父母成天喊着洗碗洗澡的孩子，自然以后就会想办法尽量独立出去了。
真的很多东西都是天生的，包括可不可教－有些孩子会听父母意见，有些根本听不进。所以给自己一个break。只要孩子自食其力，自己的选择自己高兴就好。
作为父母，关键看孩子能不能成家立业，幸福不幸福。做自己喜欢的工作，又收入不错当然好。
只要不是学啥无用的social worker的工作。
但是你别说，做social worker，也有混得不错，甚至当了总统的，比如奥巴马。。。。
就去爱钱。。哈哈。。路过搭热帖。 看在小朋友的面子上，给你开付药。。
for your own children. They'd feel it is out of reach and wouldn't even try.
Their idea of an easy life may be too "rosy." Visit an apartment complex in the neighborhood and find out what the rent is. Ask them what kind of job they need to get in order to afford living here, after all the taxes.
If they think they know everything there is to know, that's a proof that they know too little.
Have them do chores.
我儿子也对金钱一般，够吃饭就行。成长环境不一样。美国孩子奉献爱心更多些。
主要他们没有受过苦。没有对金钱的那种迫切。70后的父母国内不富裕的环境长大，来这里也是奋斗，不奋斗饿肚子。
我儿子也不羡慕富人，满足基本生活就可以。我儿子理想不是钱，说一辈子应该活得对人类有意义，理想化，恨不得改造世界。也不喜欢当医生。对马斯科这种类型的人欣赏。说一眼望到老的工作没有积极性。
政治学很多打算律师。或商业，医生。
我是佩服奥巴马，我不觉得这里学理工科就比奥巴马厉害。
大部分学政治也赶不上奥巴马，奥巴马学理工科也不会差。人家就是牛逼，聪明人，奥巴马的父母就是聪明人，远远超过这里大部分。