She is an unhappy kid. Growing up without a father around is tough. She must have memories of being with her father when she was 10. A lot of sadness accompanied her young life. How better life could have been with him around, especially for a girl?
That sadness, over time, became a reflex. She tends to have negative feelings toward things/people, which in turn made her life more difficult. It then reinforced her sadness and frustration. A vicious cycle.
Her own experience made her more sympathetic to the sufferings of others, even have strong reactions. Your different political opinion, in her mind, became your uncaring about the suffering. She wanted to see more sympathy from you, because your sympathy toward BLM is your sympathy toward HER.
You may have slaved after her all her life to attend to her every need, in order to compensate for her less-than-ideal situation. But how much of her inner world she can share with you? (not a criticism of you.)
She has been encouraged to blame the society by the education system. In the process, her own sadness got mixed in. That's the reason for her "vicious words." She wanted to feel that feeling in the bottom of her heart, and she didn't have to be responsible for her words because that burden is now on BLM.
Remind her to love herself because she is worth it. Value herself and not wait for others to value her. Be responsible for her own words and deeds and not wait to get hints from others.
When she is being disrespectful: "When you have a job, you cannot talk to anyone like that with that kind of emotion in your mind. Then you will be affraid of saying something wrong. Then you will say nothing."
thank you for taking the time to analyze the situation, I agree with you. "That sadness, over time, became a reflex. She tends to have negative feelings toward things/people, which in turn made her life more difficult. It then reinforced her sadness and frustration. A vicious cycle",
can't agree more.
That's why I really feel her pain, she doesnt' want to be sad, but couldn't help.
She needs to be more self-aware. When she feels something, she needs to ask herself: why do I feel this way? It's OK to feel, but she needs to stop dwell on the feeling and move on to asking the reason for such feeling. She needs to look inside herself. To do that she needs first quit blaming things that are outside.
Hope she realizes that her mom needs more sympathy from her. Her sympathy toward BLM is a cry for sympathy from others toward herself. She has no room for sympath for her mom, at least for now.
Do you know what's kind friend/people that your daughter social
I think that you need to talk with your daughter nicely. Many times, you talk nicely would be much better.
I give your an example, I asked my daughter help to clean other house. She said, "no". I did not say any word then go by myself. However, a minute later, she told me that she will go with me.
The someone who gave people wrong idea that make entire sociaty, people against each other. I think that later people will know that's wrong. Good luck.
美國嘅手太長，全世界嘅事都要管，如今“美國黑警”將手伸到嚟香港“美國黑警”必須返去，world cops are bad cops！（世界員警係壞員警），黑人喬治·佛洛德嘅死亡喺美國引發大規模嘅反對種族主義暴力嘅示威遊行，美國員警同國民警衛隊隨即暴力鎮壓示威人群，使用大量催淚瓦斯，仲毆打記者，一名CNN記者仲喺眾目睽睽之下被拘捕。
我觉得父母子女18年以后真的就讲缘分了。孩子大学，工作，结婚，生子等等跟我们就没有什么关系了。缘深的能互相往来相互惦记。缘浅的就各自自己的生活吧，没必要刻意维持亲密的关系。你已经尽力抚养她成人，问心无愧。
She is an unhappy kid. Growing up without a father around is tough. She must have memories of being with her father when she was 10. A lot of sadness accompanied her young life. How better life could have been with him around, especially for a girl?
That sadness, over time, became a reflex. She tends to have negative feelings toward things/people, which in turn made her life more difficult. It then reinforced her sadness and frustration. A vicious cycle.
Her own experience made her more sympathetic to the sufferings of others, even have strong reactions. Your different political opinion, in her mind, became your uncaring about the suffering. She wanted to see more sympathy from you, because your sympathy toward BLM is your sympathy toward HER.
You may have slaved after her all her life to attend to her every need, in order to compensate for her less-than-ideal situation. But how much of her inner world she can share with you? (not a criticism of you.)
She has been encouraged to blame the society by the education system. In the process, her own sadness got mixed in. That's the reason for her "vicious words." She wanted to feel that feeling in the bottom of her heart, and she didn't have to be responsible for her words because that burden is now on BLM.
Remind her to love herself because she is worth it. Value herself and not wait for others to value her. Be responsible for her own words and deeds and not wait to get hints from others.
When she is being disrespectful: "When you have a job, you cannot talk to anyone like that with that kind of emotion in your mind. Then you will be affraid of saying something wrong. Then you will say nothing."
thank you for taking the time to analyze the situation, I agree with you. "That sadness, over time, became a reflex. She tends to have negative feelings toward things/people, which in turn made her life more difficult. It then reinforced her sadness and frustration. A vicious cycle",
can't agree more.
That's why I really feel her pain, she doesnt' want to be sad, but couldn't help.
I agree with you for the most part, hope you can share more of your knowledge.
She needs to be more self-aware. When she feels something, she needs to ask herself: why do I feel this way? It's OK to feel, but she needs to stop dwell on the feeling and move on to asking the reason for such feeling. She needs to look inside herself. To do that she needs first quit blaming things that are outside.
既然他要搬，随他去。
晾他一段时间，早晚会回头的。
你要有信心和耐心!
保重!
你想让她理解你是正常女人，是有尊严的女人，是保护女儿的女人，你需要在她面前骂川普是流氓啊。她们有自己的尊严，这不是政治立场，是人的尊严。你去调查一下年轻女性，不论种族肤色，问问她们听到grab the pussy后的感受。
你女儿无法跟你谈这个话题，只能谈黑人的事，毕竟川普是白人至上种族主义者。你女儿不是白人，当然无法接受川普啊。表明你女儿的思维是正常的。那是你的骄傲，你有一个成熟的、不因个人利益而决定立场的，有人性尊严的女儿。你为何痛苦？她看到你的痛苦后她比你痛苦多了。她在社会上亲身感觉到了自己不是白人而遭受到的歧视，她就必然站在少数民族一方。她为有如此不明事理的妈妈而苦恼。
注意：润涛阎不是民主党。只是站在旁观者的立场帮你分析事情的缘由。你要么失去女儿的心，要么在她面前表现出你是有女性尊严的人、不跟随强势有权的人。你才能得到她的认可，她的尊重。你没其它选择。当然，你可以为了当川粉而失去女儿的心。这是很多华人干得出来的傻事。你自己的孩子远比川普亲。你需要明白这一点。在年轻女性眼里，川普是流氓早就定性了。你我他任何人都无法改变这个事实。
Hope she realizes that her mom needs more sympathy from her. Her sympathy toward BLM is a cry for sympathy from others toward herself. She has no room for sympath for her mom, at least for now.
笑死了，这么简单的道理需要网友来教育
希望她冷静下来之后，会来和你道歉。虽然一般情况下，母女关系最亲；但有时候，母女也比较容易吵的很凶。孩子目前不懂事，再大一些，会好的。
和女儿谈话时就听听她的观点，附和一些她的观点，你听进去她的了，她也就能听你的了，家里是讲爱的，不是讲理的，下一代在美国长大，想法肯定不同，这不是说你付她学费就要听你的，
尽力设法重建你自己的生活和爱好，从心理上补偿自己，充满自己的需要，而不是全部放在孩子身上。
距离会产生美感，如果她不是一个丧尽天良的人。
年轻人轻信极左，在某种程度上，应该算是一个有良心的人，只是喝了迷魂汤。
她已经是成人了，应该开始应付一个成人必须面对的社会，即使栽跟头，也是学习，你无权没收这样的机会。
社会实际生活会教会她做人的道理，这些大道理，过去的生活中，已经被你不知不觉中没收了很多，是你的错。
放开你的手，让她自己飞。社会和生活会叫她飞回你的怀抱，你需要做的，是保持乐观和足够的耐心。
有自己独立生活和思想的母亲，是最可爱，最漂亮的母亲。
这需要努力，从现在做起。
我看这位润楼主的脑子的逻辑才出了问题呢。
I think that you need to talk with your daughter nicely. Many times, you talk nicely would be much better.
I give your an example, I asked my daughter help to clean other house. She said, "no". I did not say any word then go by myself. However, a minute later, she told me that she will go with me.
The someone who gave people wrong idea that make entire sociaty, people against each other. I think that later people will know that's wrong. Good luck.
Black Lives Matter!Say No Together! HK democrats and pro-Beijingers stay together and say no to Trump's police state. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF HONG KONG!
2020年6月21日，香港不少地方发生针对美国的示威活动，抗议美国警察的种族主义暴力。部分示威者在中环的美国领事馆门前聚集，手中举着Black Lives Matter，SAY NO TOGETHER（黑人的命也是命，一起对美国暴力说不）的标语。
一名不愿意透露姓名的示威者表示，美国对内是黑警治国，对外则是世界警察，美国警察对黑人的暴力执法，对当下的香港来说更有特殊含义。美国务卿蓬佩奥威胁取消香港特殊地位，就是把膝盖压在香港的脖子上，他就是白人警察沙文，我们不能呼吸了！
他认为，美国的手太长，全世界的事情都要管，如今美国黑警把手伸到香港来了，美国黑警必须滚回去，world cops are bad cops！（世界警察是坏警察）
黑人乔治·弗洛伊德的死亡在美国引发大规模反对种族主义暴力的游行示威，美国的警察和国民警卫队随即暴力镇压示威人群，大量使用催泪瓦斯，并殴打记者，一名CNN记者在众目睽睽之下被逮捕。
另有示威者指出，美国的执法机构不再保护市民，美国成了警察国家，现在美国已经被黑警统治，为了维护所谓的“稳定”，可以不顾及市民的生命，可以打压记者，总统带头践踏宪法第一修正案规定的言论自由。
他表示，全世界爱好自由的人们都在抗议美国，香港市民也必须声援，所以大家来此抗议。
除了美领馆门前，示威者还在其他地方表示抗议，分别是IFC、立法会、最高法院、政总等地方。
我哋係一班香港嘅普通市民，對於美國近排發生嘅黑人慘遭黑警蓄意謀殺嘅事件，我哋認為：美國對內係黑警治國，對外就係世界員警，美國員警對黑人嘅暴力執法，對當下嘅香港更有特殊嘅含義。美國國務卿威脅香港逾取消香港特殊地位，就是將膝頭壓喺香港嘅頸度：他就係白人員警沙文，我們呼吸唔到！
美國嘅手太長，全世界嘅事都要管，如今“美國黑警”將手伸到嚟香港“美國黑警”必須返去，world cops are bad cops！（世界員警係壞員警），黑人喬治·佛洛德嘅死亡喺美國引發大規模嘅反對種族主義暴力嘅示威遊行，美國員警同國民警衛隊隨即暴力鎮壓示威人群，使用大量催淚瓦斯，仲毆打記者，一名CNN記者仲喺眾目睽睽之下被拘捕。
仲有示威者指出，美國嘅执法機構不再保護市民，美國成咗員警國家，依家美國已經被黑警統治，為咗維護所謂的“穩定”，可以不顧及市民嘅生命，可以打壓記者，總統帶頭踐踏憲法第一修正案規定嘅言論自由。
我哋呼籲全世界愛好自由嘅人都一齊抗議美國，所以我哋香港市民都會聲援，所以大家係度抗議。除咗嚟美領館，示威者仲係其他地方表示抗議，分別是IFC、立法會、最高法院、政總等地方。