Its going to be hard on you if you are mostly concerned about what benefit he is going to get out of it. A lot of sacrifice is involved, for both of you.
If he joined to serve the country, to be counted on for his comrades in arms, hed have an easier time, than if he is there for the concerns that you have expressed here.
Your concerns make total sense, any sensible parent would have such concerns. But you should be more concerned about whether he knows what he is getting himself into. If he has a romantic ideal for what it shoud be like, he will be disappointed, or even crushed by reality.
Make sure he has an identity of his own, a healthy sense of himself as a person, so that he can hold his own in order to contribute to the team. If he goes there to look for other peoples approval to feel that he belongs to something, hell have a difficult time.
Have him read up on naval history, from John Paul Jones to Nimitz. Also, on George Washington and people around him.
Congratulations! He has achieved so much so young. You should be very proud of him. We are all very proud of him.
周边环境怎样? 安全吗? 就业前景怎样?毕业后需要服务5年,儿子坚决要去,老妈有点担心。 有孩子就读这所学校的家长可以聊聊你们的看法吗?
怎么融洽同子女的关系?
·不要监控孩子的电话,尊重其隐私权。
·对孩子的朋友要和蔼可亲,但不要同他们过于亲近。不要侵入他(她)的天地。
·不要在他人面前夸奖孩子,这样会使其尴尬。
·不要在他人面前批评或斥责孩子。如果必须要这样做的话,应该在无人的时候。
·母亲在他人面前要注意服饰。母亲的形象不整洁,孩子会感到羞耻。
·如果你的孩子参加学校的演出,他(她)在舞台上时你不要打手势,这样会令他(她)紧张,甚至出错。
·孩子和你一起坐自己家的车出门时,不要把汽车收音机调到你所喜爱的频道。让孩子挑选电台,但可要求他调低音量。
·在子女需要帮助时要给予帮助,但要注意方法。
·子女在一定的阶段就像需要食品一样需要爱抚,但是爱抚要适可而止,不要在公开场合这样做,更不要在朋友面前这样做。
·不要让你的孩子在外人面前表现他的“本事”,如朗诵、唱歌、跳舞或弹钢琴。如果你为他的本领自豪并希望让人家看到,那就对他提出请求。如果父母坚持让他们在外人面前表现本领,有的孩子会感觉自己像马戏团的猴子。
·不要向他的朋友和亲属讲他的怪癖,尤其不要当他的面前。任何孩子都不愿意别人知道自己的隐私。
·不要让他失去对你的信赖。他向你透露的秘密,你不要告诉别人。你一定要完全尊重他的意愿。
·在他面前不要说谎。他看到自己的父母说谎或弄虚作假,就会感觉不好。例如,父母在某人背后说坏话,而当面又装出热情的样子,孩子就会反感。
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我有2个同事那里毕业的,很踏实能干。
海军应该是美国所有军种中最安全的吧。
估计治安不成问题吧,都是军人,学生应该不会小偷小窃,喝酒闹事之流。外人应该更不敢动他们吧,想找死吗?
veterans待遇
终身有美利坚合众国做后盾
卡特总统母校
高中生物老师,后来做了一个重点高中的校长.
我儿子的游泳教练,是海军学院游泳队的,曾经拿过全美open swim 冠军.
可见,他们的职业方向也是丰富多彩的
要担心的是,和平时期五年服务,非和平时期随时被召唤。就和这次很多退休医生被召回,还有个78 岁的。但医生可以拒绝回去,军人就不可以。了解情况后,觉得可以随时为国献身,那就可以心安的上了。
自己去考量,每个人的经历不一样,决定就不一样。
我想起了我娃曾经给我说过他enrichment class的老师说过。我看到过那么多有才华的中国孩子,本可以成为优秀的作家,画家,艺术家,可是最后上大学的时候都选择了science. 这到底是为了什么?
1. 你准备好为国家服务了吗?危险到不大
2. 你的身体素质是否足够好?不然太幸苦了
3. 就业到不愁,但你是否耐得住挣低工资几年?
海军军官三年轮换,三年船上三年基地工程。而且全世界海军基地到处转换,对小孩子成长非常不利,经常转学。婚姻家庭也不稳定,还有娶日韩酒吧女的军官
权衡一下。再看一下孩子想学什么专业和录取的别的学校 ,综合考虑吧
蝴蝶夫人千古流芳
平克尔顿挺爽,不吃一点亏
一个去年毕业的.目前在西班牙服役。据说去哪里服役是根据成绩选。她是班里top6. 以后想学医 她妈妈说学校生活非常苦(她妈妈本人西点军校)每次去看闺女都感觉她很忙,从早5点起连吃饭都像在赛跑。
海军的读了医学院, 空军的在军队空军基地工作二十年, 拿全福利退役到FeDex工作。
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Its going to be hard on you if you are mostly concerned about what benefit he is going to get out of it. A lot of sacrifice is involved, for both of you.
If he joined to serve the country, to be counted on for his comrades in arms, hed have an easier time, than if he is there for the concerns that you have expressed here.
Your concerns make total sense, any sensible parent would have such concerns. But you should be more concerned about whether he knows what he is getting himself into. If he has a romantic ideal for what it shoud be like, he will be disappointed, or even crushed by reality.
Make sure he has an identity of his own, a healthy sense of himself as a person, so that he can hold his own in order to contribute to the team. If he goes there to look for other peoples approval to feel that he belongs to something, hell have a difficult time.
Have him read up on naval history, from John Paul Jones to Nimitz. Also, on George Washington and people around him.
Congratulations! He has achieved so much so young. You should be very proud of him. We are all very proud of him.
any military schools. We brain washed him when he was 10 years old.
May he became an Admiral in furture!
我的一个美国同事的儿子前几年从那个学校毕业,学工程的。其它都好,就是要出征,一毕业就去了阿富汗一年,去年又去了一趟。人没事,就是老妈一直很担心。不知他是什么军官,和家里联系都要由他通过特殊渠道发起的。今年我女儿的同学也要去那里。非常好的学校,也特难进。恭喜你们了!
可以QQH你的联系。电话可以share我家experience。