"Son, thank you for the fish. I'll enjoy it even more knowing that you were thinking of me while having a good time there.
Next time you are in this situation, think more about your responsibility as a guest. Your presence should enrich the experience of your friend and the host family, just as their invitation enriched yours. Show that you are having a good time, and your happiness will brighten their day.
We may be poorer material-wise, but in spirit, we are equal. They are very generous, not because they are rich, but because they have a generous spirit.
When you are there, you represent yourself. Focus on what you need to do. I know I am always in your heart, even without the fish."
Well formulated. Self-esteem and sympathy is the most precious t
The child has the empathy for his mother.
LZ vividly portrayed her own self-esteem by backing up her arguements with her social status, job title, circle of friends, education, income, and her delusion of self-virtue supposedly distinguishing her from average Chinese/Asians.
医生肯定会理解,甚至会鼓励农场里还有什么可带的。医生真的物质富有精神富有的话,根本不会在意这个穷小孩带了几条鱼回家。他会看到这个穷小孩对他妈妈的关心。这就是真正的高度决定的,那真远远超过你我争这几条鱼该不该带回家的高度。
有两个13岁的男孩,他们在这个故事里是群众。或许他们对烤鱼吃有一定欲望。
有两个15岁的男孩,故事主人公是被邀请作客的男孩。此15岁男孩非彼15岁男孩。
医生的朋友就是我的朋友,简称朋友。(其实,我和医生也是朋友)。但这故事不是医生本人告诉我的,而是医生的朋友,亦是我的朋友,告诉我的。听了之后很惊讶。
医生没有讥讽的意思。他根本没有认为把鱼带给妈妈吃是占便宜,只是想孩子懂事。
医生说了这个孩子没有问过他,鱼可不可以带回家给妈妈吃吗?反倒觉得从医生的谈话中早已谈过此事,只是没给楼主强调而已。
里面两个15岁男孩,写上A或B才容易懂
嫌贫爱富的人。在楼主及其朋友眼里,穷就是有罪。有钱人家的孩子节约叫美德,穷人家的孩子节约那叫贪婪,没教养。
虽然不知道真实的情况,读到“这个当客人的孩子不用花一分钱却度过了一个愉快的春假。 医生是一个很慷慨的人。……”毫不掩饰的歧视一个孩子!
邻居女娃来我家吃饭,临走带走四个饺子说留给弟弟吃。把我们全家感动坏了。我家老大生性贪吃,有好吃的很少想到妹妹。一对比就觉得邻居小女娃太懂事了。我觉得这个十五岁孩子很有家教。懂得心疼妈妈。
如果我是那个医生,也许会叫男孩带一些鱼回去,因为我不喜欢清理鱼。总之,要看前前后后吧。另外,不管怎样,这个小男孩蛮想着家人的,不偷不抢就行。
这个男孩子看到鱼塘,第一想到的是妈妈,一个人去钓鱼,带回给妈妈。好感动。他对生活的艰辛,母亲的付出比其他的孩子理解的深。其他的孩子也没有去钓鱼给大家吃,也没对聚会做贡献。不能单单指责这个男孩子。这个男孩子放弃了玩耍享乐的时光,去给妈妈分忧,有几个这个年龄的孩子能做到。
“朋友讲给我听的意思是这个孩子很能干。 但是听到这里我有一种别样的感觉。”
医生自己都没在乎,旁人在那里干着急。可能主人家都忘记了呢。如果儿子的朋友有这种举动,我会让我儿子好好向他朋友学。楼主没看到孩子这么大的一个闪光点,反而吹毛求疵,说明楼主活得太小心,太谨小慎微了。很多人表面看上去教养不错,其实自私冷血的很。
常听说你喜欢一个人,他干什么你看了都觉得好。你讨厌一个人,他干什么你都会觉得不对。其实就是这么简单。
行为与占便宜之举,若简单用好坏来划分,没有性质差异,
朋友的父亲带我们去钓鱼,我钓到了自然就认为是我的,想起家里的妈妈有鱼吃该多高兴,多单纯的孩子啊。
对于道听途说的事情在这里对一个孩子上岗上线,出发点又是什么?楼主那么有情商,有没有想过如果孩子或他妈妈如果有机会看到您的帖子会有什么感受?15谁的孩子世界观还没形成,是心理最脆弱的时候。尤其是楼主使用的语言:“他们家实在是太破烂”,“妈妈是waitress(亚裔)“,“如果是我孩子一定会拿出来分享的”,言语充满歧视和优越感。这个世界本来已经对孩子和她的妈妈不公平了(人家可能在原生家庭、智商等老天给的条件上跟您无法比,所以没有您优越的工作和生活条件),孩子和妈妈跟家境境遇好的楼主比本来已经够可怜的了,楼主没有一点同情心,还在这里用刻薄的言语伤害一个跟您毫无纠葛的孩子和她的母亲。您觉得是您的问题大,还是孩子或他妈妈的问题大?您要想积德的话建议把帖子删掉。
but obviously not by the host or the "friend". Sigh!
"Son, thank you for the fish. I'll enjoy it even more knowing that you were thinking of me while having a good time there.
Next time you are in this situation, think more about your responsibility as a guest. Your presence should enrich the experience of your friend and the host family, just as their invitation enriched yours. Show that you are having a good time, and your happiness will brighten their day.
We may be poorer material-wise, but in spirit, we are equal. They are very generous, not because they are rich, but because they have a generous spirit.
When you are there, you represent yourself. Focus on what you need to do. I know I am always in your heart, even without the fish."
The child has the empathy for his mother.
LZ vividly portrayed her own self-esteem by backing up her arguements with her social status, job title, circle of friends, education, income, and her delusion of self-virtue supposedly distinguishing her from average Chinese/Asians.
现在社会均富,你以为还是王子和贫儿的时代?
息。就是个钓鱼的事,楼主根本没有亲眼见到或亲口跟当事人证实。还扯什么“我们从来不把自己定位于穷人的行为层次”, “中国人成群结队地去, 这其中的大部分听分裂的单词都费劲”。
,看问题想问题做事情也只会从自己角度出发 。
倒是感觉楼主在没在现场的情况下就作居高临下的姿态不合适。现在人都不缺吃的,如果自家产的东西,都是很乐意分享的。孩子能想到妈妈,这样的孩子不会没有礼貌到不问主人家的允许。