I sent out my kid's birthday party invitation almost one month ahead, within one week I sent out reminder, the friend acknowledged that they will come, then one day before he sent me weChat telling me that they just realized their kids had no school the following Monday, so they decided to take advantage of the long weekend to go ski, therefore will not come to my kid's birthday party. Hello people?! When he sent out his daughter's birthday invitation, I accepted but right after I accepted I realized the school has a mandatory performance, I immediately notified this family which was 3 weeks before the party, and as a courtesy, I still sent them a present. For them, there is no such thing as common courtesy, they just have to please themselves first, well, they are not worth my time in the future.
I sent out my kid's birthday party invitation almost one month ahead, within one week I sent out reminder, the friend acknowledged that they will come, then one day before he sent me weChat telling me that they just realized their kids had no school the following Monday, so they decided to take advantage of the long weekend to go ski, therefore will not come to my kid's birthday party. Hello people?! When he sent out his daughter's birthday invitation, I accepted but right after I accepted I realized the school has a mandatory performance, I immediately notified this family which was 3 weeks before the party, and as a courtesy, I still sent them a present. For them, there is no such thing as common courtesy, they just have to please themselves first, well, they are not worth my time in the future.
To be honest, they are setting a very bad example for their kids as well. Their kids will grow up thinking they do not have to do what they promised either for anything they want to do, it is not even something that is out of their control, but they chose to break it. I really do not care their presence at the party, the only hard part was to explain it to my kid, why someone could choose to break their promises so easily, well, it maybe a good lesson for the kids how to tell if someone is trustworthy to be their friends.
I sent out my kid's birthday party invitation almost one month ahead, within one week I sent out reminder, the friend acknowledged that they will come, then one day before he sent me weChat telling me that they just realized their kids had no school the following Monday, so they decided to take advantage of the long weekend to go ski, therefore will not come to my kid's birthday party. Hello people?! When he sent out his daughter's birthday invitation, I accepted but right after I accepted I realized the school has a mandatory performance, I immediately notified this family which was 3 weeks before the party, and as a courtesy, I still sent them a present. For them, there is no such thing as common courtesy, they just have to please themselves first, well, they are not worth my time in the future.
还有一次，是另一个朋友，也是说好周五一起带娃看电影，结果到了周五晚上要去电影院了打她电话，她说不去了，改去别人家吃饭。我周三还和她确认过的。娃很失望，我也很不高兴。不是不能改主意，就不能早点通知别人吗？
越想越堵得慌，大家如果改主意也都是这样不告诉别人吗？亏的我还像个傻子一样，充满期待，认真计划着出去玩的一些细节。我只想知道这种事很正常吗？如果是我就自认倒霉吧
即使陌生人约好的见面如果去不了也应该告知一下啊。我和这两个人其实不算很熟的朋友，是因为娃玩得比较好才有交集的
不过楼主 我觉得PLAYDATE约大项目其实很难达成的
I sent out my kid's birthday party invitation almost one month ahead, within one week I sent out reminder, the friend acknowledged that they will come, then one day before he sent me weChat telling me that they just realized their kids had no school the following Monday, so they decided to take advantage of the long weekend to go ski, therefore will not come to my kid's birthday party. Hello people?! When he sent out his daughter's birthday invitation, I accepted but right after I accepted I realized the school has a mandatory performance, I immediately notified this family which was 3 weeks before the party, and as a courtesy, I still sent them a present. For them, there is no such thing as common courtesy, they just have to please themselves first, well, they are not worth my time in the future.
I am with you, that is my practice in life too.
安慰一下，这种朋友以后知道了就不和他们一起玩了呗。天涯何处无芳草。
我这人可能也是爱较真，今天一中午都自己生闷气，也没地方说只好来这里说。通常大家遇到这种比较堵心的事，多久能过去？我就比较慢，得心塞好几天。
也许是吧。所以我挺难受的，觉得自己做人也是失败，别人根本不拿你当回事
要看看自己的communication 是否会容易被别人认为没有confirm
你以为confirm 了
人家以为你没有的那种感觉
如果确定你没有这个问题
那一次就够了
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最讨厌last min 爽约的人了
但是有时真的是有的人communication 有问题
我一同学就这样
他经常不经意的说个啥
人家还以为他就那么一提
但是他自己觉得他说过了
就是confirm
直接拉黑吧。
我也是被别人放鸽子几次，心都冷了，以后不联络
lz我在这方面和你一样，以前也总是问为什么，后来我自己释然了，根本就没有为什么
要尊重物种多样性
不仅仅是对你不重视，这种人是本质上有问题，没有诚信，自私自利，继续做朋友就等着继续被坑吧。。。
不是人人都这样。以后如果是小date，提前一到两天跟人确认，大的约定，适当提前这个确定日期。
你要学会如何manage不同风格的朋友。不然你的圈子会局限在某一个小圈子。 ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
这种人 基本可以友尽了
发展其他人吧
我个人也非常讨厌爽约的人
有事不来
至少提前通知一下
被爽约了, 当时要抱怨, 出出心中的气.
然后显然她们没把你当回事, 以后不用再做朋友了.
或者你也爽她们一次约.
我也碰上这种，娃幼儿园好朋友妈妈周日早上主动问我要去什么地方玩，她们要一起去，我说了要去的地方，她回了ok,结果下午就她们没去，娃很失望，还好还碰到了其他朋友一起玩。后来碰到她问怎么回事，她说下午有人去她家，所以就没去了。拜托，你自己主动说要去，有情况不去不能说一下吗？我周六还刚帮忙她看小孩因为她有事。之前也有这种最后爽约的事，为了娃忍了，现在忍不下去了，再见面我就只走过场了，以后也决定再也不帮她忙了
说好的 允许有改 但是必须告诉