Her negative thoughts accumulated need an outlet. You provide such an outlet.
Her negative thoughts help her to remove herself out of the picture, thus she bears no responsibility for herself and the situation she is in. It offers her psyche a great relief by distracting her attention away from herself and what she really needs to do (i.e., taking responsibility for herself.)
Not suggesting you say or do anything when interacting with her, just a possible explanation for what you are dealing with.
(Not everyone is willing and capable. But everyone has his own way of dealing with it.)
假如见面聊天，讲的就是生活中的磨难，工作啦，生活啦，觉得活着真没劲，巴拉，巴拉可以倒苦水好长时间。
每次见面都如此。
你会如何处理？
培养一些爱好，找出忧郁的原因并解决，病情就会好转。 但有的人是能力不够又没勇气，这种人比较麻烦，基本无解。
200多人在飞机上！ 这种病人估计心里早已经明白没有办法能解决他们的心理问题，所以都懒得讲了。
我自认不那么强大。。。
我会劝他或她去旅游，看专科医生。。。
就像名人对婚姻的期望和自己要的不一样，又无任如何走不出来。
旁人觉得好简单的事情，但是，就是卡在一个点上，走不通。
每次见面，哭哭啼啼的，硬的建议，软的建议都没用。
是不是无解？
有没有勇气和决心改变现状。女人精神上比较弱的人比较多，有的人知道自己的问题所在，但没有勇气解决。作为旁人的我们就只能安慰了。
我们每个人都尽量去看看心理医生。我和心理医生做咨询有十多年了。
看心理医生不是要有明显问题才去看，而是像保健一样去，条件好的人都去看。即使在一个时期感觉自己状态好，还可以把做心理咨询作为个人成长的捷径来加以利用。现在很多公司都有很好的医疗保险，有条件去试试，真的会受益。
遇到你怀疑有抑郁倾向的人，尽量少出主意，尤其是那种直接的建议。你为什么不去这样那样等等？你能想到的101办法，八成人家早就想过了。别老觉得自己比别人聪明。如果非要帮助对方，征得同意的情况下陪伴就好了。陪着坐着，一起走路等等。他不需要你的建议，陪着就行。
有可能的情况下，劝对方去进行心理咨询才是正解。
是psychologist 与 physiatrist 的·区别·
他最后和我说，啥用没有，就是每周早下班几小时的福利。
最后就不看啦
培养爱好以及家人关爱，慢慢才能好起来。
Her negative thoughts accumulated need an outlet. You provide such an outlet.
Her negative thoughts help her to remove herself out of the picture, thus she bears no responsibility for herself and the situation she is in. It offers her psyche a great relief by distracting her attention away from herself and what she really needs to do (i.e., taking responsibility for herself.)
Not suggesting you say or do anything when interacting with her, just a possible explanation for what you are dealing with.
(Not everyone is willing and capable. But everyone has his own way of dealing with it.)