父母和孩子，我喜欢100年前的这首诗

On Children Kahlil Gibran - 1883-1931              Your children are not your children.
     They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
     They come through you but not from you,
     And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.   You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
     For they have their own thoughts.
     You may house their bodies but not their souls,
     For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
     You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
     For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
     You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
     The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
     Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
     For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

 

Nice one!

好诗！分清love 和 thoughts 很对头

投坛必须说钱哈“If you want your children to turn out well, 花双倍的时间、一半的钱”

“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.” Abigail Van Buren

Thanks, zero hedge怎么说？

小贝贝的父母过十年再来吧

不求回报的投入和投资

和孩子岁数没关系，怀孕时我就下定决心了，你没看看越王前面讲他妈还不放过他吗

自己做了青蛙就忘了曾经是蝌蚪？

如果当年在你在国外求学的时候，你父母只付一半的学费和生活费，你什么时候才能拿到学位？或者说你还能顺利拿到学位找到工作吗？

这首诗并没有说不给孩子任何帮助，什么都有个度，。。。中心思想

是你的孩子并不属于你。。。孩子和孩子也不一样，也许你的孩子很感激你包揽很多事替他们买房装修，你的先生很感激你的推，我们家不是这么操作的。each to their own...

孩子是我们带来的，我们感激他“选择“了我们做父母，我们的孩子很善良会思考会行动，我相信他。。。不是小贝贝了：-）

尽力帮到小孩大学毕业。以后的日子他们自己去经历。

这个目标不错。。。如果孩子有理想比如要学音乐练体育，在还没有能力自立的情况下要帮的，

我不会说我出钱你必须按我的想法选择专业，当然是有度有限的，大学毕业是最晚了。。