孩子自小心思重，看书多，知道的多，不喜体育运动。总是担心一些未发生的事情，高中也一直看学校的心理咨询，现在刚上大学被学业压得更厉害了，严重到失眠，每天特别累，如果吃药会不会有别的副作用。 家长从未给过压力，一直劝导，不行就换专业，但是孩子自小的性格就老是WORRY TOO MUCH.作为家长还能做些什么，距家不近，不方便随时探视，真的很担心，谢谢所有的建议。
may be a distraction from the present, which is harder to deal with. By worrying about the future, time and energy to be devoted to the present become limited, resulting in a curtailed present, which might fit his ability.
If not worrying about the future, he might have to devote all his being to the present, thus taking full responsibility (or blame) for the outcome.
Since he was younger, when he worried, he felt safer.
Not a professional analysis. Not sure what will help, other than getting him to be more realistic, to be more focused on the present, to have the courage to be responsible for himself, to not blame himself or anyone else.
第二， 最好是转学。敏感的孩子一般都是比较聪明的。现在发挥不出来更可能是心理障碍的缘故， 而不是本身智力不行。 需要做一做鸡首 to build up confidence . 大学不过是四年， 真正工作了， 很少有那种非要像考试一样一定要在特定的几个小时内出成绩的， giving time, everything body can fisnish a job decently!
Just tell your kid that you are available anytime or anything he/she needs you. Try to get help from the university mental health support services. If you can get the advice to allow you kid to reduce some work loads, work with (write/call/ meet) the faculty, top down, from the falculty chairman/president/dean, to someone in charge with the student affair, to student counselor. The student counselor will coordinate the student workload with individual professors to rearrange assignments, deadlines, specific exam arrangement, etc. to meet the student's situation. This may help to take off some workload related anxiety/depression. Be proactive and take actions as early as possible. Helps always there but you need to act.
孩子自小心思重，看书多，知道的多，不喜体育运动。总是担心一些未发生的事情，高中也一直看学校的心理咨询，现在刚上大学被学业压得更厉害了，严重到失眠，每天特别累，如果吃药会不会有别的副作用。 家长从未给过压力，一直劝导，不行就换专业，但是孩子自小的性格就老是WORRY TOO MUCH.作为家长还能做些什么，距家不近，不方便随时探视，真的很担心，谢谢所有的建议。
知道一个学computer 的，大学数学不行，休学一年，转college ，还是computer，现在在政府部门。
他的性格也不好，太敏感！
从10岁起，我就开始对小朋友唠叨人生是马拉松了。总是说小朋友比我努力，比我好。我一点都没给压力。整个中学我没关心过小朋友的成绩，我都没有家长的帐号。整个中学期间我们没与老师说过话。考大学全是自己计划，高一就让带去参观大学。现在大学要毕业了，我还在唠叨身体第一。天生的。只能帮着缓解缓解。这样的小朋友只往上看，我常引导着一起往下看看。
https://www.hypnotherapy-directory.org.uk/approach/hypnopsychotherapy.html
他选的专业还是改专业。
他到底选的啥专业啊？最好，不是医，不值！太苦！
may be a distraction from the present, which is harder to deal with. By worrying about the future, time and energy to be devoted to the present become limited, resulting in a curtailed present, which might fit his ability.
If not worrying about the future, he might have to devote all his being to the present, thus taking full responsibility (or blame) for the outcome.
Since he was younger, when he worried, he felt safer.
Not a professional analysis. Not sure what will help, other than getting him to be more realistic, to be more focused on the present, to have the courage to be responsible for himself, to not blame himself or anyone else.
貌似门槛儿也不那么高。 只有sports 比较容易让人跳出个人小圈。
第二， 最好是转学。敏感的孩子一般都是比较聪明的。现在发挥不出来更可能是心理障碍的缘故， 而不是本身智力不行。 需要做一做鸡首 to build up confidence . 大学不过是四年， 真正工作了， 很少有那种非要像考试一样一定要在特定的几个小时内出成绩的， giving time, everything body can fisnish a job decently!
Best of luck!
人与人的能力个性，身体和所能承受的压力都不同，认清自己，做力所能及之事，当目标达不到时，退而求其次也没啥，孩子将来的路还很长，毕竟身体才是最重要的。 “超越自我”也都是有前提条件的。
别人都last minute 做事情，这位总是未雨绸缪地过分。
GABA 帮助睡眠很管用，没副作用，另一种就是色氨酸，对忧郁症很好，吃了开心，我感觉有点副作用就是有点恶心，所以平常是天天吃一粒GABA, 忧郁时加一颗色氨酸。非常管用，健康药品店都有卖
Just tell your kid that you are available anytime or anything he/she needs you. Try to get help from the university mental health support services. If you can get the advice to allow you kid to reduce some work loads, work with (write/call/ meet) the faculty, top down, from the falculty chairman/president/dean, to someone in charge with the student affair, to student counselor. The student counselor will coordinate the student workload with individual professors to rearrange assignments, deadlines, specific exam arrangement, etc. to meet the student's situation. This may help to take off some workload related anxiety/depression. Be proactive and take actions as early as possible. Helps always there but you need to act.