请不要放弃,我的朋友!

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windfalls
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我和安安是在北卡UNC念书的朋友,我搬到DC后我们鲜少联系。直到初夏的一天我突然
接到她的电话,我笑着说怎么样,德州当金融教授的日子爽吧。她沉默了一下说,”我没去。我。。。 生病了“。癌症是去年她毕业前夕发现了,她现在要来DC动手术。
“为什么没早点告诉我?”
“你不是结婚吗。。。我不想冲了你的喜。。。”

我三天后见到了她,形容枯槁地坐在轮椅上,头发没了,肚子大地是我见过的孕妇的两倍,胳膊却只有我手腕那么粗。这是那个一头秀发爱穿长裙爱练瑜伽的安安吗?我别过脸去,不想让她看见我眼眶里的泪。

手术安排在三天后,安安签了生死状。她问我说,你说医生会取出肿瘤吗?我好怕她放弃我。之前的医生打开后看到肿瘤这么大就把我缝上了。。。她黯然地说,不愿意再回想两个月前希望破灭的经历。听说安安爸爸心痛地追问那个医生怎么会连肚子里肿瘤有多大都不知道就动手术呢。
我第一次见到安安爸爸是NIH医生成功从她肚子里取出了肿瘤之后。重症监护室里,他
熬红了双眼,目不转睛地盯着女儿。每次医生护士进来,一句话都听不懂的他都冲到前面,试着从面部表情读出什么。他和安安妈妈买了一箱方便面守在医院里。"叔叔,你
咋能整天吃方便面呢?“ ”安安要是能好,我去吃草都行。“他头也不抬。

那次手术安安失去了百分之四十的血,医生用了一个多小时才抱出那个重达二十多斤的肿瘤。她看见我来了微微睁开眼,嘴里还插着管子微微吐出纸笔两个字。我慌乱地给她找来,她用英文草草地写了一句话,我仔细辨认是Give my dad a chair. 我红着眼睛
对安安说,你放心,叔叔晚上睡觉有个躺椅,在你的床的后面,你看不见。

出院之后安安不愿意在我家修养,她带着身上两个大大地还缝着线的伤口坐飞机回到了AZ。她说,我要回去陪我老公。她老公得知她生病时说要把自己的肝捐给她,当下在冰冷的医院里向她求的婚,她老公带着她跑遍美国各大医院看病,花光所有积蓄也决不放弃,她老公请假太多不得不加班顶班,每天都熬夜到深夜。记得出院那天晚上,我请他们出去吃饭。他搂着她笑着说,等她好了就让她包养我。这是两个多么相爱的年轻人,我多么希望世界对他们温柔相待。

如今,我们找到了Dr.Sugarbaker愿意救安安,可对十五万美金的私人诊所手术费束手
无策。我想,如果你听了安安的故事,会不会愿意伸出援手,愿意对我的朋友说一句请不要放弃。你有这么多爱你的家人和朋友,请一定一定不要放弃。

Name (姓名):Anan Zhuang (庄安安)
捐款方式
Gofundme:https://www.gofundme.com/teeq2vw4
Paypal : [email protected]

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感谢大家的支持!!我们在短短三天就收到了足够的募捐,已经关闭了募捐平台。有治疗癌症方面信息的朋友请继续联系我们。安安下周就能在DC开始治疗。所有的费用我们都会保存好收据,由没有参加募捐的人士审计。安安病情的情况,我会在这里继续和大家汇报。真的很感谢你们,慷慨的好心人,是你们,把我们的不可能变成了可能。
下面是安安今天下午写在gofundsme上面的
“Thank you for the great support. We have already reached our goal from
other resources and this link. Therefore, we don't need any donation. Please don't donate any more. Will start to close this playform. Love you all! ”

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flyingdragon
2 楼

财力有限,捐了100,聊表寸心。祝姑娘早日好起来!
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michigander
3 楼

多谢分享, 也捐了不多, 但已转贴了.
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Maisy
4 楼

Just did. Bless!

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haibugui
5 楼

wuyueliuhuo呢?业务来了
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GSJTW
6 楼

是不是真的?怎么写成这文体。。能不能简单说清楚什么事?
受不了。
【 在 windfalls (zaozao) 的大作中提到: 】
: 我和安安是在北卡UNC念书的朋友,我搬到DC后我们鲜少联系。直到初夏的一天我突然
: 接到她的电话,我笑着说怎么样,德州当金融教授的日子爽吧。她沉默了一下说,”我
: 没去。我。。。 生病了“。癌症是去年她毕业前夕发现了,她现在要来DC动手术。
: “为什么没早点告诉我?”
: “你不是结婚吗。。。我不想冲了你的喜。。。”
: 我三天后见到了她,形容枯槁地坐在轮椅上,头发没了,肚子大地是我见过的孕妇的两
: 倍,胳膊却只有我手腕那么粗。这是那个一头秀发爱穿长裙爱练瑜伽的安安吗?我别过
: 脸去,不想让她看见我眼眶里的泪。
: 手术安排在三天后,安安签了生死状。她问我说,你说医生会取出肿瘤吗?我好怕她放
: 弃我。之前的医生打开后看到肿瘤这么大就把我缝上了。。。她黯然地说,不愿意再回
: ...................

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Farmermitbbs
7 楼
https://www.gofundme.com/teeq2vw4

【 在 GSJTW (gsw) 的大作中提到: 】
: 是不是真的?怎么写成这文体。。能不能简单说清楚什么事?
: 受不了。

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GSJTW
8 楼

Top 5 Fundraising Legal Tips
Do fundraising professionals have to think about legal compliance and risk
management? Absolutely.

Do they spend an appropriate amount of organizational resources in these
areas? Probably not.

Law-related programs at fundraising conferences tend to be some of the least popular. What accounts for this? I'm guessing that the general lack of
popularity results in part from fear that the presenter will add to the
already heavy burdens and challenges faced by the fundraiser rather than
provide solutions to help make the fundraiser's job easier or more effective.

The failure to be informed is no excuse for the failure to comply with the
law and protect the organization and its donors.
Here are 5 fundraising legal tips to get you started:

Make sure the mission stated in your fundraising campaigns is consistent
with the charitable or exempt purpose statement in your governing documents (e.g., articles of incorporation and bylaws). See our previous post on the Charitable Trust Doctrine.
Initiate a plan to register in all states in which you are actively
fundraising that require registration (39 states and the District of
Columbia). See Nonprofit Risk Management Center's Fundraising and
Charitable Registration FAQs.
Adopt a gift acceptance policy to help ensure that the organization doesn't accept an asset that results in greater burdens than benefits (e.g., land
with hazardous waste issues; carrying or maintenance costs that will drain
cash flow).
Properly account for and manage restricted gifts and endowment funds. See
Nonprofits Assistance Fund's Managing Restricted Funds.
Provide proper receipts to your donors; the form of such receipts may depend on the type of solicitation and gift. See Charitable Organizations –
Substantiation and Disclosure Requirements.

See also:

Association of Fundraising Professionals

CODE OF ETHICAL PRINCIPLES AND STANDARDS

Standard No. 5 - Members shall comply with all applicable local, state,
provincial, and federal civil and criminal laws.

Guidelines



a. Members recognize that compliance with applicable laws and regulations is a clear standard. Nevertheless, laws regarding fundraising are
proliferating, and ethical practitioners, remembering the admonition that
ignorance of the law is no excuse, must be alert to new laws.

b. Members consult the legal counsel involved with their own organizations. Most nonprofit organizations have access to legal counsel, either paid or
volunteer. Member consultants and suppliers of fundraising services also
consult legal counsel regarding their contracts and practices.

Examples of Ethical Practice:

1. Undertaking personal responsibility for keeping up with changes in
applicable laws and regulations.

2. Recognizing that one's employer may not be in compliance with applicable laws due to lack of knowledge, and bringing this to the attention of
appropriate organizational leadership.

3. Ensuring that reports which are a part of regulatory requirements for
which the member may have some responsibility are completed accurately and
in a timely manner.

4. Maintaining appropriate licensure, registration, or certification
requirements.

5. Filing copies of contracts where appropriate.

Examples of Unethical Practice:

1. Having knowledge of a law or regulation, knowing one's organization is
not in compliance, and choosing to ignore possible remedial action.



2. Completing reports that are a part of regulatory requirements
inaccurately or in such a way as to distort fundraising results or costs.

3. Having knowledge of legal requirements for consulting practice and
failing to comply.

【 在 Farmermitbbs (小农) 的大作中提到: 】
: https://www.gofundme.com/teeq2vw4

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GSJTW
9 楼

一个女孩子和我打电话了,因为我pm留电话号码了,我有同情心。。。
但是,我很珍惜我老公每一个汗水挣来的钱,所以我要对他们提供的网站做个research, 自己也学习一下,关于这方面的管理条例。。。

【 在 haibugui (昵称太短!) 的大作中提到: 】
: wuyueliuhuo呢?业务来了

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Icare
10 楼

捐了,这女孩真不容易,希望她能康复!
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poise
11 楼

链接说donation is closed. GOD bless her

【 在 Farmermitbbs (小农) 的大作中提到: 】
: https://www.gofundme.com/teeq2vw4

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Farmermitbbs
12 楼

我猜很多人象我一样用Paypal,所以3天就收到15万.
中国人还是很团结的嘛。

【 在 poise (紧急下潜 . 。o O有事PM) 的大作中提到: 】
: 链接说donation is closed. GOD bless her

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michigander
13 楼

嗯, 大家都能给力. 主要还是在gofundme上捐的.

【 在 Farmermitbbs (小农) 的大作中提到: 】
: 我猜很多人象我一样用Paypal,所以3天就收到15万.
: 中国人还是很团结的嘛。

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jiayouba
14 楼

祝你早日康復!
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paul198247
15 楼

我看华人网那边对这事的质疑,因为我没有那边的账号,只能在这边澄清。
全部是真实的,我和我老婆都去看望过,以前肚子大得跟怀孕一样,后来去切除了肿瘤。
安安今天来DC这边治病,王藻人很好,每次安安过来治疗都是她安排住宿和接送,把自己房子安排给安安住。
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eeguy
16 楼

华人那边质疑方实在太恶心了。各种造谣都有,fb更新了就说账号是假的,临时银行卡也说是假的,还恨不得把人家全家上下一共家底多少都挖出来。还有不懂装懂的质疑手术的可行性,质疑医生技术的,要求dispute的,反正是令人脑洞大开啊。只要是支持
募捐的就是诈捐者的马甲,天天大字报不停,而且质疑的很多人还是一分钱没捐的。华人上的大妈真可怕,相比起来竟然觉得买卖提是一方净土。。

【 在 paul198247 (S.Battier) 的大作中提到: 】
: 我看华人网那边对这事的质疑,因为我没有那边的账号,只能在这边澄清。
: 全部是真实的,我和我老婆都去看望过,以前肚子大得跟怀孕一样,后来去切除了肿瘤。
: 安安今天来DC这边治病,王藻人很好,每次安安过来治疗都是她安排住宿和接送,把自
: 己房子安排给安安住。

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eeguy
17 楼

现在情况怎么样了?听说是今天手术?华人那边简直不能看了

【 在 paul198247 (S.Battier) 的大作中提到: 】
: 我看华人网那边对这事的质疑,因为我没有那边的账号,只能在这边澄清。
: 全部是真实的,我和我老婆都去看望过,以前肚子大得跟怀孕一样,后来去切除了肿瘤。
: 安安今天来DC这边治病,王藻人很好,每次安安过来治疗都是她安排住宿和接送,把自
: 己房子安排给安安住。

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Cua
18 楼

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