Wertheimer wasn't independent, I thought. In many respects more refined than me but, and this was his biggest mistake, ultimately endowed only \emph{with false feelings}, actually a \emph{loser}, I thought. ... If he'd become a businessman and thus an able administrator of his parents' empire, I thought, he would have been happy, happy in his sense of the word, but he lacked the courage for such a decision, was incapable of performing \emph{ the small about-face} that I had often spoken of in his presence but that he never attempted. He wanted to be an artist, \emph{an artist of life} wasn't enough for him, although precisely this concept provides everything we need to be happy if we think about it, I thought. Ultimately he was enamored of failure, if not even a little smitten, I thought, had clung to this failure of his until the end. I could actually say he was unhappy in his unhappiness but he would have been even more unhappy had he lost his unhappiness overnight, had it been taken away from him from one moment to the next, which is again proof that basically he wasn't unhappy at all but happy, and by virtue of and with his unhappiness, I thought. Many people are basically happy because they're up to their necks in unhappiness, I thought, and I told myself that Wertheimer actually was happy because he was continually aware of his unhappiness, could take pleasure in his unhappiness. All at once this thought struck me as not at all absurd, that is to think that he was afraid of losing his unhappiness for a reason I couldn't know and for that reason went to Chur and to Zizers and killed himself. It's possible we have to assume that the so-called unhappy person doesn't exist, I thought, for we first make most of them unahppy by taking \emph{their unhappiness} away from them. Wertheimer was afraid of losing \ emph{his unhappiness} and killed himself for this and no other reason, I thought, with a subtle sleight of hand he withdrew from the world, kept a promise so to speak in which no one believed anymore, I thought, withdrew from a world that actually always wanted only to make him and his millions of other suffering companions happy, a condition he however always knew how to prevent with the greatest ruthlessness toward himself and everybody else, because like these others, in deadly fashion, he'd grown more accustomed to his unhappiness than to anything else.
我敲了那栋老房子的门,另外一个同学出来的,他叫下来了你。于是我们第一次见面,我带你熟悉了校园,办了学生卡,银行卡,还去了城东的中国城吃了饭。想起过去的种种,只是觉得那是别人的故事了。
昨天跟你的新欢打了电话。 7月底的时候,我就跟他打了电话。希望他不要再反对,禁止我和你做朋友,见面,或者只是时不时的短信问候。他当时说他还在外州实习,说要等他回来伯克利再说,他当时开出的条件就是,我要有bf,对你放下,有自己的朋友圈子云云。当时我就说了,我现在条件都满足,只是想和你做回普通朋友,一年见一次面,节日的时候发个短信问候一下。
现在想想,他当时这只是缓兵之计,他当时在外州,怕我们贸然见面了吧。昨天他也再次无情得拒绝了我的请求。他虽然口头说他有自信你绝对不会变心,但是依然说不能接受我和你见面,联系。任何的见面联系,他大概都要如去年4月底那次那样,祭出分手
的大招吧。
距离上一次见你,也已经有10个月了。那天在pier 1对面的车站,你也承认和我远距离的那几年也是爱情。但是你的现任总是以为过去五年都是我对你苦苦相逼,我们没有感情,说你在苦苦挣扎。
我现在只是想和你成为普通朋友,就像你去年12月20日见我的时候,临走的时候要和我握手,改善我们的关系那样子。我只是想和你如此。毕竟五年的感情,在读书的那两年,我们同住在一起,朝夕相处,为了一个梦想留在美国,奋斗过。这样子的经历都和亲人差不多了。
对于我ex的现任,我想说,我希望你可以理解我的心情,我可以写保证书,做任何的事情得到你的信任,我只是希望我的ex以一个普通朋友的感情支持我,毕竟家人远在中国也在重病之中。而且,你已经赢了,得到了我曾经珍爱的一个人。况且你和我ex在一起的时间已经马上可以超过了我和他在一起的时间了。我和我ex其实只有21个月在一起过。而你们从去年2月甚至更早,马上就要超过我和他的时间。你也有自信他不会变心,
你也有自信你的各项条件都比我好,长相,身高,学历,学校出身。况且他都宁愿舍弃我对他的苦苦等待,我和他的几年感情选择你,这样子的坚决,这个世界上有几人可以做得出来呢?你又有什么不放心的呢?即使明年你毕业,他也是会跟你一起去外州的。
希望你可以同意我和我ex重建联系,成为朋友。
期盼你有胜利者的风采,也有胜利者的风度。
的人分手就是绝交,我觉得没必要,大家都是成年人了.
看来你的EX怕你打搅他的个人生活,他对自己和他的BF还不是很自信, 你还是先把他凉
一边吧,只要有个联系的方式, 过年问个好就算了, 专注把自己的个人生活搞好,找个比他更好的BF.
人生苦短,请不要没事揭自己的伤疤玩,我蛮同情你EX的,找上你这样的
真是倒了血霉了。
做什么朋友,有病
楼主EX的现任看样子也是个极品
何不聚焦到努力提升自己上,健身养颜读书,先实现自我价值的提升。就好像你被大公司fire了,难道还跪在门口赖着不走?马云还要感谢那些把曾经自己看轻的人呢。竞争市场决定,优秀的人总在跳槽,如果自己不提升竞争力,迟早会被淘汰。恋爱中也一样,七年之痒之类都是没有自我提升的恶果。要像一本读不完书,要像一口挖不完的井。照照镜子,给自己一个脱胎换骨的目标,身材不好就去健身,颜值不够就整啊(三分长
相七分打扮),内涵太低就多看文艺电影音乐书籍。一两年之后,该你看不上他了。
还是友情支持一下。
这位cal的博士,你和我ex的时间已然超过我和我ex的感情。何苦继续为难呢?只是见
一面而已。我的ex哪里是你没下咽的台湾,是已经被你吃到嘴巴里面的东西,都吃了一年多了。现在只是求你吐出来,给我瞧一眼,如此而已。望你额外允许。
issues.
他们也常来逛这个版(YAO)面(ZI)么?
再耐心等等。
你要留给ex电话,说有任何困难都找你。等他们自己的矛盾激化,你ex找你倾诉,你再从中挑拨,希望就大了。你现在是他们共同对付的对象,你这样做只会增加ex对其男友的依赖。
你那么爱你ex,想来这点耐心是应该有滴
不想见,就一定能找到借口。。。
想见他的是你,不想见你的是他,那个博士只是个借口,这都看不明白?
你做的无非是给自己创造条件,他做的无非是给自己找借口。。。
不在一个维度的,世界永远不会有重合。
所以,相见不如怀恋。
与其在这里没有尊严的哀号,不如挺起胸堂迎接风雨后的阳光。
你其实应该看看心理医生了。。。
不想见,就一定能找到借口。。。
想见他的是你,不想见你的是他,那个博士只是个借口,这都看不明白?
你做的无非是给自己创造条件,他做的无非是给自己找借口。。。
不在一个维度的,世界永远不会有重合。
所以,相见不如怀恋。
与其在这里没有尊严的哀号,不如挺起胸堂迎接风雨后的阳光。
你其实应该看看心理医生了。。。
君身不可远离。
不明白你一而再再而三的在这里怀恋什么?
约个心理医生看看吧
你非让人家吐出来让你看看
真够恶心的
是不是吐出来看完了你还打算让人在吃回去啊?
连吃瓜群众都觉得够恶心的
干脆,光着下半身,到他们同居的地方,静坐示威。
其实,也许比较合适的做法,可能是忽视这个帖子。自生自灭。
咱对牛谈情只是为了好玩
我是有个恶趣味
我喜欢将最丑陋的人性
摊在阳光下欣赏
如此而已
顺便说一下,你应该知道摊的不是别人,是你自己吧。
亮出你的下半身
楼上这一贴刚好可以回答你。
你还活在文革吗?不站我这边就是站在对方一边?
觉得不用了,你认为不是就不是?
我微信里有个人,也是天天发一些小悲伤的文字,什么往事如作啊,之类的。开始我还以为他心情不好,也去劝他往前看,后来我才发现,有的人,他就是喜欢这样的情绪,就是喜欢这些安妮宝贝风格的文字,我也就不会再劝了。每个人都有自己的生活,他爱干嘛就干嘛吧,而我屏蔽了他的朋友圈,也就不会再看到那些depressing的文字了。
你能说这是爱么?这是想弄死他ex啊
印象里记得,楼主当时还要父母给ex下跪,求他回心转意,我当时看到,真是恨。要知道,在这个世界上,最爱你的人还是父母,如此糟践自己的父母,来换取一个外人的冷眼,唉。不过还是那句话,偏执的性格,造就了偏执的人生。琼瑶小说里,都是整天谈恋爱不为生计发愁的男男女女,但是以为那是现实,要把自己的生活过成那样,整天也纠结于爱不爱,爱谁的苦恼里,我也不知道说什么好了。
than me but, and this was his biggest mistake, ultimately endowed only \emph{with false feelings}, actually a \emph{loser}, I thought. ... If he'd
become a businessman and thus an able administrator of his parents' empire, I thought, he would have been happy, happy in his sense of the word, but he lacked the courage for such a decision, was incapable of performing \emph{
the small about-face} that I had often spoken of in his presence but that he never attempted. He wanted to be an artist, \emph{an artist of life} wasn't enough for him, although precisely this concept provides everything we
need to be happy if we think about it, I thought. Ultimately he was
enamored of failure, if not even a little smitten, I thought, had clung to
this failure of his until the end. I could actually say he was unhappy in
his unhappiness but he would have been even more unhappy had he lost his
unhappiness overnight, had it been taken away from him from one moment to
the next, which is again proof that basically he wasn't unhappy at all but
happy, and by virtue of and with his unhappiness, I thought. Many people
are basically happy because they're up to their necks in unhappiness, I
thought, and I told myself that Wertheimer actually was happy because he was continually aware of his unhappiness, could take pleasure in his
unhappiness. All at once this thought struck me as not at all absurd, that is to think that he was afraid of losing his unhappiness for a reason I
couldn't know and for that reason went to Chur and to Zizers and killed
himself. It's possible we have to assume that the so-called unhappy person doesn't exist, I thought, for we first make most of them unahppy by taking \emph{their unhappiness} away from them. Wertheimer was afraid of losing \
emph{his unhappiness} and killed himself for this and no other reason, I
thought, with a subtle sleight of hand he withdrew from the world, kept a
promise so to speak in which no one believed anymore, I thought, withdrew
from a world that actually always wanted only to make him and his millions
of other suffering companions happy, a condition he however always knew how to prevent with the greatest ruthlessness toward himself and everybody else, because like these others, in deadly fashion, he'd grown more accustomed to his unhappiness than to anything else.
是我ex要我跟我父母出柜, 还要父母跟他下跪,就答应和我继续trial date 3周。 后来,我跟我父母出柜了,可惜,他不守信用了。
基佬情,薄如纸。 旧爱怎比新欢。
其实你也不需要我的祝福,毕竟你这样优秀的基佬都是甩别人,不会被甩的。
己,我不知道这是自虐还是痴情。不过,我也不想知道了。
那你以前和他到底是情侣关系还是约会关系?
无论哪种关系,一方难道没有权利中止吗?
真是不明白你的逻辑?你既然说出:“基佬情,薄如纸。 旧爱怎比新欢?”,那么你
在这里苦苦要求那个凉薄的人是为了啥?
真的,去看心理医生吧。。。。。。
湾区唯一一次性的不如意,因为我的拖延症,导致他去旧金山报税,他打开了jackd,
被某博士勾搭上。5月初,他和我最终绝交了。
那位博士最安全的做法,就是严禁他和我见面。哪怕我满足他提出的任何条件,他都是不会允许我和我ex见面的。哪怕,他和我ex在一起的时间,在一起同居的时间,已经远远超过我和我ex在一起的20个月了。
我看到了最令人失望最卑微人性。看到世界上每天发生的事情,无论哪里的小孩子被生化武器炸死,哪里的难民死在海滩上,无论形式多么残忍,无论过程多么惨烈,原因都是类似的。为了占有得到的,为了占有别人的,为了获得安全,为了获得资源,任何手段都可以使用,
mark一下。
各位要来骂的可以跟帖。
我很抱歉。我今天是作为一个在感情中的不如意者跟你们讲,我不是在感情中如意者。但是我见得太多了。我有这个必要告诉你们一点。人生的经验。
君身不可远离
再次获知你仍沉浸其中,放心多了。
那个博士是真爱,搁谁也不会把自己心爱的人去面对一个病人......
说给众人的怀恋不是珍藏在心的感情,而是一败涂地失去尊严后不甘。
去看心理医生吧
我不禁被感动了……
再说你怎么知道他每天蹉跎,说不定约炮和骚扰旧爱两不误
还是不要想的太黑暗嘛
居之后呢,就game over了。一点机会都没有了。 毕竟身边有一个人,每天吹着枕头风,肯定是不会见我了。
而且呢,每天睡一起,那种事情又方便。而我和ex因为在湾区的唯一一次sex因为低血
糖,被误以为有ed,所以,也没机会证明自己了。
那个博士呢, 反正跟他说呢, 他就是翻来覆去,两句话,我ex不想见我,不想和我继续做朋友。其实呢,他就是在身边发挥影响力嘛。 说他自己很自信,其实也不然。我
和我ex去年10月21日见面,要谈话,他非要也在旁边。后来以为他走了。原来,他坐在落地玻璃后,实时监视。某地域的人,是不是控制欲特别强?还有,就是喜欢吹牛逼,虚张声势?
明示一下呗。
好像知道了
反正血糖这事,得重视。
血糖的事,不能忽视。
你说的肉,我不知道,也不关心。
专程找我掐来的?
姆们忙着呢。