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lisafish
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以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 3:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     其实有很多老公吭哧吭哧干活挣钱养老婆还很开心的。但是人家价值观一样啊,人家enjoy啊,就不成为问题。
     如果一个老公吭哧吭哧干活,就希望老婆在家做家庭主妇,但是娶了一个女强人性格的,还是不work out。
     所以match太重要了,婚前把这事谈妥了,省了多少事啊?
      
      
    
这个也不容易呢。比如有的女的答应老公来美国做家庭主妇,但是一旦做了发现家庭主妇不好做,很boring;或者答应老公过来读书,结果发现G,T不是那么好考得。
其实关键还是看两个人是不是都愿意为家庭努力,互相妥协。
602 楼
以下是引用lisafish在7/10/2010 3:25:00 PM的发言:

这个也不容易呢。比如有的女的答应老公来美国做家庭主妇,但是一旦做了发现家庭主妇不好做,很boring;或者答应老公过来读书,结果发现G,T不是那么好考得。
其实关键还是看两个人是不是都愿意为家庭努力,互相妥协。
嗯,家庭主妇难道是好做的吗?
生养孩子,还要做多少家庭计划,家务?
如果英语原先不好,又生活比较封闭,或者性格害羞,很难扩大交际圈,融入大家的生活。很容易抑郁的。
 
做一个活泼健康的家庭主妇学问大了。
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lisafish
603 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:25:00 PM的发言:

    
     哀莫大于心死,
      
     I want to be a positive wife and lead a hamonious family.
      
     I am gradually disappointed and then desperate.
      
     He never respect my parents, which is my main pain.
      
     Even if I can bear all his fauts, this one, I can't bear.
      
     When we have quarrel, he always mentioned that my parents are powerless and weak,sometimes, bad words..... When we came back china, he refused to visit my parents  with the excuse that he hates the bus, hated long journey visit, hated my small hometown. when my parents asked for visit him, he also refused. He never called my parents, even if my parents call me and ask him to talk something, he also was unwilling to.
    
如果是这样,我支持你离婚。其实不尊重你父母就是不尊重你呀。
可以不喜欢父母,那就少往来,但是起码的礼数还是要的。
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Daphne
604 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:25:00 PM的发言:

哀莫大于心死,
 
I want to be a positive wife and lead a hamonious family.
 
I am gradually disappointed and then desperate.
 
He never respect my parents, which is my main pain.
 
Even if I can bear all his fauts, this one, I can't bear.
 
When we have quarrel, he always mentioned that my parents are powerless and weak,sometimes, bad words..... When we came back china, he refused to visit my parents  with the excuse that he hates the bus, hated long journey visit, hated my small hometown. when my parents asked for visit him, he also refused. He never called my parents, even if my parents call me and ask him to talk something, he also was unwilling to.
 
 
Then what stops you from seriously considering a divorce?  You are boneless to do that?
 
 
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jenny6
605 楼
你老婆可是上海人????????????
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jenny6
606 楼
是上海人就不怪聊/////////////
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lisafish
607 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 3:29:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,家庭主妇难道是好做的吗?
     生养孩子,还要做多少家庭计划,家务?
     如果英语原先不好,又生活比较封闭,或者性格害羞,很难扩大交际圈,融入大家的生活。很容易抑郁的。
      
     做一个活泼健康的家庭主妇学问大了。
    
可是很多没有做过家庭主妇的人比较容易觉得家庭主妇好做。
很多人来美国或者加拿大,对情况不了解,往往会做一些不切实际的决定。
所以家庭能不能维持,还得看两个人共同的努力。
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vinobianco
608 楼
以下是引用jenny6在7/10/2010 3:30:00 PM的发言:

    
     你老婆可是上海人????????????
    

你看帖了么?有事没事挖地域坑有意思么?
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jenny6
609 楼
你老婆不做家务不是一天二天的事了,,你怎么现在才领悟
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jenny6
610 楼
衣服分开洗,,浪费水,,,,,,,,,,,,
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jenny6
611 楼
找个理由让你家人断了寄钱给你,,看她如何办
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maibaobao
612 楼
写了好多呀。。。。lp是你自己选的。。。。
她那1万刀除去她自己的机票学费其实也不剩啥了吧,如果她家里不想支援她也确实负担不了呀。mm不是很上进你也没办法,你自己选的不是。。。。组建了小家总得有一方负责任。。。。
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jenny6
613 楼
不知你这娶滴是啥,,不像老婆,不像老娘滴,,,,,
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Daphne
614 楼
以下是引用maibaobao在7/10/2010 3:35:00 PM的发言:
写了好多呀。。。。lp是你自己选的。。。。
她那1万刀除去她自己的机票学费其实也不剩啥了吧,如果她家里不想支援她也确实负担不了呀。mm不是很上进你也没办法,你自己选的不是。。。。组建了小家总得有一方负责任。。。。

 
 
Parasite thought.
 
 
猪大姐
615 楼
I marry him not on the purpose to go abroad.
 
We knew each other in china, i am studying and he is working.
 
I never know he plans to go abroad until his departure.
 
He never told me that.
 
After my graduation, getting a job is not easy, I tried every means to get a job. I only worked for several month, he told me that we need to go abroad. then, i compensate for my violation of agreement. 
 
 
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Caffeine
616 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 3:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     其实有很多老公吭哧吭哧干活挣钱养老婆还很开心的。但是人家价值观一样啊,人家enjoy啊,就不成为问题。
     如果一个老公吭哧吭哧干活,就希望老婆在家做家庭主妇,但是娶了一个女强人性格的,还是不work out。
     所以match太重要了,婚前把这事谈妥了,省了多少事啊?
      
      
    

关键是任何一方都不能take it for granted.楼主两口子恰恰相反。不互相领情。说白了还是没有爱。真是不明白为什么不离婚,女方回国过自己有地位有收入的生活。
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iThwl
617 楼
 I will just assume this is not a "fake post".

LZ, if you do not want a divorce, then do not do it. However as you do not have a baby, ur husband is so much older than you are and he does not respect your parents, you can choose to file for divorce. It is difficult practically coz you have to go back to China to do it, but you should at least consider it and do it when the right time comes.

I support ur not paying for rent and daily stuff. From your husband's post, I can see that your parents may not be as wealthy as his parents, thus it is fair for him to pay for more. Usually couples share household cost, but in that case, your husband should help you with half of your school fees, air ticket, cosmetics fees, etc. You may want to save on clothes and cosmetics though.

Furthermore, both of you should really try to look for jobs, either here or in China. if you and ur husband do not want to try,then divorce and get a new husband who are better positioned financially. Another possibility is that when you finally have a job, you husband want you to support him, what will you do? Morally, you should support him, but you may not want to do it.  
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Daphne
618 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:41:00 PM的发言:

I marry him not on the purpose to go abroad.
 
We knew each other in china, i am studying and he is working.
 
I never know he plans to go abroad until his departure.
 
He never told me that.
 
After my graduation, getting a job is not easy, I tried every means to get a job. I only worked for several month, he told me that we need to go abroad. then, i compensate for my violation of agreement. 
 
 
 
 
So you are saying -- several years ago, you were a saint and made great sacrifice for your marriage, without any slight thought whether this is really good for you.  And now you refuse to make any slight sacrifice.  You make money and don't even want to pay half of the rent and daily expenses for the family.   Wow, that's a dramatic change, is it?
 
You're not considering the option of divorce, are you?
 
 
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iThwl
619 楼
 btw, tell ur husband you do not want to support him, because he is not making you happy. He is not making you feel you are loved.

[此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 15:47:49编辑过]
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cheroot
620 楼
一个女人少干了点家务,少关心了点她老公,男人就诉苦成这样。我想处于这样地位的女的远远多于男人吧!
猪大姐
621 楼
以下是引用iThwl在7/10/2010 3:44:00 PM的发言:
 I will just assume this is not a "fake post".

LZ, if you do not want a divorce, then do not do it. However as you do not have a baby, ur husband is so much older than you are and he does not respect your parents, you can choose to file for divorce. It is difficult practically coz you have to go back to China to do it, but you should at least consider it and do it when the right time comes.

I support ur not paying for rent and daily stuff. From your husband's post, I can see that your parents may not be as wealthy as his parents, thus it is fair for him to pay for more. Usually couples share household cost, but in that case, your husband should help you with half of your school fees, air ticket, cosmetics fees, etc. You may want to save on clothes and cosmetics though.

Furthermore, both of you should really try to look for jobs, either here or in China. if you and ur husband do not want to try,then divorce and get a new husband who are better positioned financially. Another possibility is that when you finally have a job, you husband want you to support him, what will you do? Morally, you should support him, but you may not want to do it.  

 
thanks,
 
I am considering of returning china soon and begin a new life. I am the only child of my parents. because of me, my father still works hard now. I feel very sorry for them. Yes, I need to be real independent. not only financially, but also mentally.These years is really a nightmare for me.
 
 
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AmandaNN
622 楼
以下是引用iijing在7/10/2010 10:39:00 AM的发言:
坑吧。你们俩都不工作也不上学?

你老婆能自己负担自己的学费,化妆品,回国机票和请客吃饭,已经很不错了。


请问LZ,你们怎么保持合法的居留身份?
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lisafish
623 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:52:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     thanks,
      
     I am considering of returning china soon and begin a new life. I am the only child of my parents. because of me, my father still works hard now. I feel very sorry for them. Yes, I need to be real independent. not only financially, but also mentally.These years is really a nightmare for me.
      
      
    
支持你。
624 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:52:00 PM的发言:

 
thanks,
 
I am considering of returning china soon and begin a new life. I am the only child of my parents. because of me, my father still works hard now. I feel very sorry for them. Yes, I need to be real independent. not only financially, but also mentally.These years is really a nightmare for me.
 
 
那你就好好计划一下自己以后的人生吧。我不觉得你和你先生有共同语言和目标,也感觉不到你们之间的爱情。祝你早日真正独立和找到真正的幸福。不管回国与否,都要早日自己找到工作孝顺父母。
 
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lisafish
625 楼
以下是引用AmandaNN在7/10/2010 3:53:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     请问LZ,你们怎么保持合法的居留身份?
    
我觉得他们应该是投资移民。加拿大的身份问题不是很懂。
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flyingheart
626 楼
if you don't tell us, I have no idea you two are couples. Just like roommate.
猪大姐
627 楼
In fact, that I  refuse to pay the rent and the other daily expense is
 
after that
 
he refused a joint account, and gave me back the money i brought from China,
 
he takes me away when i saw something i like and i want on the shelf (the same as the former post),
 
he refuse to pay my tuition and my air tickets,
 
he said he has no money to buy when i saw a beautiful cloth because he has paid the rent which is too much......
 
then, i refuse to pay the rent, because i am a newcomer, i have no income at first.
 
what i brought is my parents blood and what i face is a really complicated future.
 
[此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 16:05:43编辑过]
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AmandaNN
628 楼
不是LZ精分了,就是我精分了,怎么一个ID,两个人在说话?
柳涵欣
629 楼
以下是引用aucura在7/10/2010 2:52:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     能把自己都认为清纯简单的老婆变成母夜叉,男人也功不可没呀
    
哈哈,乐死了
猪大姐
630 楼
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[此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 16:06:26编辑过]
神仙啊神仙
631 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 3:00:00 PM的发言:

 
I can do everything to help him if he really wants to fight for something.
 
He always said that his career is in China, but he stays here, Ok, after got the identity, but when I ask him what is his plan, future plan. He said, "I never have a plan, i don't need a plan, you can't compare me with the other's husband, never count on that I will earn .......per year,never. I am nearly 40, have you ever considered my health? my age? In your eyes, only money."
 
 
 
这事说女主人亲自来说话了?
还是我精分了?
神仙啊神仙
632 楼
以下是引用AmandaNN在7/10/2010 4:02:00 PM的发言:
不是LZ精分了,就是我精分了,怎么一个ID,两个人在说话?
而且还男的中文,女的英文
 
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ilovebeauty
633 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:01:00 PM的发言:

    
     In fact, that I  refuse to pay the rent and the other daily expense is
      
     after that
      
     he refused a joint account, and gave me back the money i brought from China,
      
     he takes me away when i saw something i like and i want on the shelf (the same as the former post),
      
     he refuse to pay my tuition and my air tickets,
      
     he said he has no money to buy when i saw a beautiful cloth because he has paid the rent which is too much......
      
      
    
他说的也不是没有道理啊。你们俩个没有工作,没有收入,精神压力大也很可以理解啊。你希望他哪儿来的钱给你付机票衣服?
柳涵欣
634 楼
以下是引用说你不傻你就不傻在7/10/2010 12:10:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     UGG也不会要他,UGG还等着攒钱买豪宅呢
    
UGG已经成了众多ws抠门男的最佳搭配类型
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joyandpeace
635 楼
离了吧..这不是你能养得起的老婆..有点自知之明不要找那么high maintenance的..换个朴实点的..不要彼此拖累
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ilovebeauty
636 楼
以下是引用iThwl在7/10/2010 3:47:00 PM的发言:

    
     btw, tell ur husband you do not want to support him, because he is not making you happy. He is not making you feel you are loved.

     [此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 15:47:49编辑过]

    

我怎么觉得有问题?到底他们俩谁在support谁?

在我有限的理解看来,应该是男方父母在support他们俩个吧?这个老婆又做了什么贡献呢?
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isabella88
637 楼
     离开一会,女主角也出现了?
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Daphne
638 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:01:00 PM的发言:

In fact, that I  refuse to pay the rent and the other daily expense is
 
after that
 
he refused a joint account, and gave me back the money i brought from China,
 
he takes me away when i saw something i like and i want on the shelf (the same as the former post),
 
he refuse to pay my tuition and my air tickets,
 
he said he has no money to buy when i saw a beautiful cloth because he has paid the rent which is too much......
 
 
 
BOTH of you are depending on parents' money.  BOTH of you do not have the independency to live in a foreign country. 
 
So STOP complaining about each other! 
 
 
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joyandpeace
639 楼
以下是引用神仙啊神仙在7/10/2010 4:05:00 PM的发言:

而且还男的中文,女的英文
 
英文这么差就别英文了...
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ilovebeauty
640 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 2:44:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     He concealed his real age and environment changes many things .
    

你们俩不是认识很多年了吗?结婚前都不知道他的真实年龄?怎么结的婚呢?也太神奇了吧?
柳涵欣
641 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:07:00 PM的发言:

    
    
我怎么觉得有问题?到底他们俩谁在support谁?

在我有限的理解看来,应该是男方父母在support他们俩个吧?这个老婆又做了什么贡献呢?

    


老婆承担她自己的学费,回国机票,买衣服,化妆品和偶尔请她同学吃饭。这老公没啥贡献到是真的,老婆自己管自己,衣服、化妆品也没让老公买。
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ilovebeauty
642 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 2:48:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     I am not showing off. I just tell the truth that I am not a dependent person.
    

我不是故意要挑刺,但是我觉得你老公有问题,你也有。你怎么independent呢?你说你的化妆品衣服都是自己买,可是房租水电呢?是他一个人的责任,还是你和他一起分担?两个人是夫妻,生活不都是一起的吗?
神仙啊神仙
643 楼
以下是引用joyandpeace在7/10/2010 4:09:00 PM的发言:

英文这么差就别英文了...
估计能比我好点
 
我看见英文头大,就直接无视了
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ilovebeauty
644 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:10:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     老婆承担她自己的学费,回国机票,买衣服,化妆品和偶尔请她同学吃饭。这老公没啥贡献到是真的,老婆自己管自己,衣服、化妆品也没让老公买。
    

生活不仅仅是机票学费衣服化妆品吧?还有其他的开销吧?她不吃不睡的吗?
柳涵欣
645 楼
说实话40岁还啃老的男人真没见过几个,他40了,还能再啃几年老人,不是钱多到下辈子都花不完,还赶紧回国找工作是正紧
646 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:10:00 PM的发言:


老婆承担她自己的学费,回国机票,买衣服,化妆品和偶尔请她同学吃饭。这老公没啥贡献到是真的,老婆自己管自己,衣服、化妆品也没让老公买。
嗯,用老婆自己的话说,她自己买衣服化妆品和同学吃饭的钱是她父母的blood。
既然是父母的血,怎么花的下去?
我还真不信,正儿八经移民来加拿大的,有身份可以打工的,两个成年人就养活不了自己了?
啃着父母抱怨对方,说不像一对吧,还真是一对。
 
 
柳涵欣
647 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:12:00 PM的发言:

    
    
生活不仅仅是机票学费衣服化妆品吧?还有其他的开销吧?她不吃不睡的吗?

    
我接触的大部分真的都是老公负责这方面的开销,几个未婚同居的也是 男人的要求就是养家,女人自己赚钱自己花就行
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ilovebeauty
648 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:13:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,用老婆自己的话说,她自己买衣服化妆品和同学吃饭的钱是她父母的blood。
     既然是父母的血,怎么花的下去?
     我还真不信,正儿八经移民来加拿大的,有身份可以打工的,两个成年人就养活不了自己了?
     啃着父母抱怨对方,说不像一对吧,还真是一对。
      
      
    

对啊,我看这俩人谁也不比谁高尚,还手指头都指着对方,可笑不可笑。
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vinobianco
649 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:14:00 PM的发言:

    
     我接触的大部分真的都是老公负责这方面的开销,几个未婚同居的也是 男人的要求就是养家,女人自己赚钱自己花就行
    

有人说了。。。介个不叫独立叫寄生虫
神仙啊神仙
650 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:15:00 PM的发言:


对啊,我看这俩人谁也不比谁高尚,还手指头都指着对方,可笑不可笑。
咱在旁边看笑话就行啦
 
冷老板怎么不来卖瓜子
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ilovebeauty
651 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:14:00 PM的发言:

    
     我接触的大部分真的都是老公负责这方面的开销,几个未婚同居的也是 男人的要求就是养家,女人自己赚钱自己花就行
    

你接触的那是正常人。这俩看起来象正常夫妻吗?

这老婆明知道老公啃着父母的老,还心安理得的花着老公的钱,美其名曰的说自己很独立。这俩谁也不比谁强啊。
猪大姐
652 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:13:00 PM的发言:

嗯,用老婆自己的话说,她自己买衣服化妆品和同学吃饭的钱是她父母的blood。
既然是父母的血,怎么花的下去?
我还真不信,正儿八经移民来加拿大的,有身份可以打工的,两个成年人就养活不了自己了?
啃着父母抱怨对方,说不像一对吧,还真是一对。
 
 
 
I have bursary when i study.
柳涵欣
653 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:13:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,用老婆自己的话说,她自己买衣服化妆品和同学吃饭的钱是她父母的blood。
     既然是父母的血,怎么花的下去?
     我还真不信,正儿八经移民来加拿大的,有身份可以打工的,两个成年人就养活不了自己了?
     啃着父母抱怨对方,说不像一对吧,还真是一对。
      
      
    

我没爬他老婆说的,这两口子在啃老方面还真是,不是一家人,不进一家门。 我可不可以理解成她老公要求老婆把啃父母的钱,也用来花在小家庭比如房租、水电等开销上,而不是自己买衣服买化妆品?
神仙啊神仙
654 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:17:00 PM的发言:


我没爬他老婆说的,这两口子在啃老方面还真是,不是一家人,不进一家门。
我可不可以理解成她老公要求老婆把啃父母的钱,也用来花在小家庭比如房租、水电等开销上,而不是自己买衣服买化妆品?


要求的是均等的啃
 
很讲究平等啊
柳涵欣
655 楼
以下是引用vinobianco在7/10/2010 4:15:00 PM的发言:

    
    
有人说了。。。介个不叫独立叫寄生虫

    
额,女人把什么都负责了,还要老公干啥
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ilovebeauty
656 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:17:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     I have bursary when i study.
    

你有奖学金,可是不舍得拿出来付家用,是把?因为觉得男人有责任要养家。可是你知道你男人的钱是他爹妈辛苦挣来的,你照样也心安理得,就心疼你爹还work hard。男人该养家是不错,女的也需要有付出的啊。两个人至少互相要有感情吧?要关心爱惜对方吧?要过xx生活吧?你们俩有什么?就指着对方出钱承担生活的责任。你们就是一对儿自私的人。
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vinobianco
657 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:17:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     我没爬他老婆说的,这两口子在啃老方面还真是,不是一家人,不进一家门。 我可不可以理解成她老公要求老婆把啃父母的钱,也用来花在小家庭比如房租、水电等开销上,而不是自己买衣服买化妆品?

    

她老公抱怨她不去打工。。。。也不肯把父母得钱拿出来补贴家里。。。
当然做男人也觉得自己40了年级大了8合适出去找工作
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ilovebeauty
658 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:17:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     我没爬他老婆说的,这两口子在啃老方面还真是,不是一家人,不进一家门。 我可不可以理解成她老公要求老婆把啃父母的钱,也用来花在小家庭比如房租、水电等开销上,而不是自己买衣服买化妆品?

    

我觉得男的也是个loser,觉得女的拿啃老的钱,奖学金的钱自己爽了。他拿自己家的钱贴补家用,心里不平衡。

女的呢,估计也理直气壮,觉得男的没出息,不给自己买衣服化妆品,拿当然要拿“自己”的钱来享受。
神仙啊神仙
659 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:18:00 PM的发言:

额,女人把什么都负责了,还要老公干啥
偶觉得一个小家,男女各负责一半,女的负责差不多三分之一,男的负责三分之二,就挺好的。
柳涵欣
660 楼
以下是引用vinobianco在7/10/2010 4:19:00 PM的发言:

    
    
她老公抱怨她不去打工。。。。也不肯把父母得钱拿出来补贴家里。。。
当然做男人也觉得自己40了年级大了8合适出去找工作

    
所以我爬了男人的话,觉得真tmd jp,自己不工作啃自己爸妈也就罢了,还惦记上老丈人的钱
[此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 16:21:14编辑过]
一个人玩儿
661 楼
现在的男人呀, 真是越来越退化了.
猪大姐
662 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:18:00 PM的发言:


你有奖学金,可是不舍得拿出来付家用,是把?因为觉得男人有责任要养家。可是你知道你男人的钱是他爹妈辛苦挣来的,你照样也心安理得,就心疼你爹还work hard。男人该养家是不错,女的也需要有付出的啊。两个人至少互相要有感情吧?要关心爱惜对方吧?要过xx生活吧?你们俩有什么?就指着对方出钱承担生活的责任。你们就是一对儿自私的人。

 
I paid almost all my expense, only except the rent and the food.
 
Do you think that it is ok only if i pay everything? and he just stays at home, think about nothing, do nothing ,just use his parents' money?
 
if so,
 
he will be content!
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joyandpeace
663 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:12:00 PM的发言:
说实话40岁还啃老的男人真没见过几个,他40了,还能再啃几年老人,不是钱多到下辈子都花不完,还赶紧回国找工作是正紧

40还上华人网complain lp就狠loser了..别的都不用说了...
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izimijuju
664 楼
致LZ的老婆,自己去闯吧,这个男人没救了,何苦消耗自己的有限的青春跟他耗!!!
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wiggle
665 楼
以下是引用vinobianco在7/10/2010 2:48:00 PM的发言:


大男子主义可不会觉得养老婆都是负累

这就是一个猥琐小男人,别的不知道,左一条右一条唧唧歪歪爱算计的会是什么好鸟才怪了。
 
话说女的赚不赚钱是另一回事,一个男的先要有把家撑起来,为女的和小孩遮风挡雨的心胸。没有这种气魄就不要怨没有lp疼。
 
另外我觉得lz写的这事不是不付账单不找工作一两句话这么简单,都是日积月累的事,也不知是哪根稻草把骆驼压塌了。
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ilovebeauty
666 楼
以下是引用神仙啊神仙在7/10/2010 4:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     偶觉得一个小家,男女各负责一半,女的负责差不多三分之一,男的负责三分之二,就挺好的。
    

我觉得谁负责多,谁负责少,只要两个人都乐意就行了。感情好的夫妻,一方都负责了,心平气和,心情愉快,也很多啊。

问题是这俩人根本不象夫妻,连roommate都说不上,就指着对方出钱负责生活。
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joyandpeace
667 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:16:00 PM的发言:


你接触的那是正常人。这俩看起来象正常夫妻吗?

这老婆明知道老公啃着父母的老,还心安理得的花着老公的钱,美其名曰的说自己很独立。这俩谁也不比谁强啊。

男的就应该挣钱养家天经地义..将来女的生孩子的时候女的就是受罪大..这是自然决定的..男女自始至终不能平等..这男的就不应该拿父母的钱..主因在这男的身上
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vinobianco
668 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:21:00 PM的发言:

    
     所以我爬了男人的话,觉得真tmd jp,自己不工作啃自己爸妈也就罢了,还惦记上老丈人的钱
[此贴子已经被作者于2010/7/10 16:21:14编辑过]

    

偶反正就是觉得男人觉得老婆该去打工补贴家用。。自己8适合打工8该完全负责家用得调调很是JP
猪大姐
669 楼
以下是引用izimijuju在7/10/2010 4:22:00 PM的发言:
致LZ的老婆,自己去闯吧,这个男人没救了,何苦消耗自己的有限的青春跟他耗!!!
 thanks, that's what i think
神仙啊神仙
670 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:22:00 PM的发言:

 
I paid almost all my expense, only except the rent and the food.
 
Do you think that it is ok only if i pay everything? and he just stays at home, think about nothing, do nothing ,just use his parents' money?
 
if so,
 
he will be content!
别辩解了
你俩绝配,真的。离了可惜。就这么过吧
柳涵欣
671 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
我觉得男的也是个loser,觉得女的拿啃老的钱,奖学金的钱自己爽了。他拿自己家的钱贴补家用,心里不平衡。

女的呢,估计也理直气壮,觉得男的没出息,不给自己买衣服化妆品,拿当然要拿“自己”的钱来享受。

    

这个不需要讨论,肯定的。 女的心理落差挺大的,趁着没娃赶紧分开算了
柳涵欣
672 楼
以下是引用神仙啊神仙在7/10/2010 4:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     偶觉得一个小家,男女各负责一半,女的负责差不多三分之一,男的负责三分之二,就挺好的。
    
嗯,男人挑大头,女人也出点力
永夜樱
673 楼
我来小总结
男方列举的女方罪状,在首页就有
女方列举男方罪状:           1.40岁了,没钱,尤其不肯把钱花在她身上;
                                    2.没工作,不肯出去打工,对未来没有计划,一提这事还说是女方只爱钱不爱惜他的身体,还指望女的出去打工
                                    3.隐瞒自己的年龄
                                    4.不尊重她的父母,连通个电话都不肯,更不用说屈尊去女方家里
猪大姐
674 楼
 
I can't bear that a woman support a man!
 
that's the point!
 
if he is fighting for something, and has no money, i can support him.
 
he stays at home, no plan, no will,
 
i won't support him
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ilovebeauty
675 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:22:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     I paid almost all my expense, only except the rent and the food.
      
     Do you think that it is ok only if i pay everything? and he just stays at home, think about nothing, do nothing ,just use his parents' money?
      
     if so,
      
     he will be content!
    

没让你pay everything,rent and food多少钱?你自己说rent 钱不少的。其实我就是看你这种心态,觉得你们俩半斤八两。谁都不舍得对家庭做付出,就看着对方,心里不忿,不平衡。

我有时候真的觉得挺纳闷,不理解有的人结婚的基础是什么。婚姻都这样了,还勉强维持着。
柳涵欣
676 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:27:00 PM的发言:

    
      
     I can't bear that a woman support a man!
      
     that's the point!
      
     if he is fighting for something, and has no money, i can support him.
      
     he stays at home, no plan, no will,
      
     i won't support him
    
要离趁早,真的
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ilovebeauty
677 楼
以下是引用joyandpeace在7/10/2010 4:23:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     男的就应该挣钱养家天经地义..将来女的生孩子的时候女的就是受罪大..这是自然决定的..男女自始至终不能平等..这男的就不应该拿父母的钱..主因在这男的身上
    

可怜那些不天经地义的和睦夫妻了。
678 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:29:00 PM的发言:


没让你pay everything,rent and food多少钱?你自己说rent 钱不少的。其实我就是看你这种心态,觉得你们俩半斤八两。谁都不舍得对家庭做付出,就看着对方,心里不忿,不平衡。

我有时候真的觉得挺纳闷,不理解有的人结婚的基础是什么。婚姻都这样了,还勉强维持着。

嗯,我白白劝了好几贴,也没看出老婆有想离婚的意思。
我不说话了。
 
柳涵欣
679 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:31:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,我白白劝了好几贴,也没看出老婆有想离婚的意思。
     我不说话了。
      
    
那我也走了,包馄饨去了
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wiggle
680 楼
以下是引用神仙啊神仙在7/10/2010 4:24:00 PM的发言:

别辩解了
你俩绝配,真的。离了可惜。就这么过吧
你都看了?看到女主上芝麻英文我就跳了。
神仙啊神仙
681 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:32:00 PM的发言:

那我也走了,包馄饨去了
我的爱
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vinobianco
682 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:31:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,我白白劝了好几贴,也没看出老婆有想离婚的意思。
     我不说话了。
      
    

你们灌水都太不认真了。。。人家说了要回国重新开始新生活了
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ilovebeauty
683 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:26:00 PM的发言:

    
     嗯,男人挑大头,女人也出点力
    

关键还是感情问题啊。夫妻俩有感情,怎么着都行,也就是个分工的问题。

这俩自己都舍不得,都看着对方,心里都不平衡。
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ilovebeauty
684 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 4:27:00 PM的发言:

    
      
     I can't bear that a woman support a man!
      
     that's the point!
      
     if he is fighting for something, and has no money, i can support him.
      
     he stays at home, no plan, no will,
      
     i won't support him
    

你support他什么了啊?就是说你分担生活开销,就是support他了?
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ilovebeauty
685 楼
以下是引用旻在7/10/2010 4:31:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     嗯,我白白劝了好几贴,也没看出老婆有想离婚的意思。
     我不说话了。
      
    

她不说要回国吗?

我说啊,这种夫妻,如果要离婚早离了,就是心里又恨,又不甘心,所以只是说说抱怨而已。
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Daphne
686 楼
以下是引用柳涵欣在7/10/2010 4:10:00 PM的发言:



以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:07:00 PM的发言:


我怎么觉得有问题?到底他们俩谁在support谁?

在我有限的理解看来,应该是男方父母在support他们俩个吧?这个老婆又做了什么贡献呢?


老婆承担她自己的学费,回国机票,买衣服,化妆品和偶尔请她同学吃饭。这老公没啥贡献到是真的,老婆自己管自己,衣服、化妆品也没让老公买。
 
 
She is asking what "contribution (to the family)" the wife has done.  Feeding oneself is not a contribution.  It's a necessity you have to do to be alive.
 
 
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ilovebeauty
687 楼
以下是引用wiggle在7/10/2010 4:33:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     你都看了?看到女主上芝麻英文我就跳了。
    

我看了,本来我觉得男的实在很极品,后来看了女的之后,觉得他们俩挺合适的。

另外啊,女苦主,你们俩在国内就认识那么多年,然后结婚,你不知道他对你爹妈有啥看法啊?
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daisyxdaisy
688 楼
hehe..........................
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ilovebeauty
689 楼
以下是引用Daphne在7/10/2010 4:37:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
      
     She is asking what "contribution (to the family)" the wife has done.  Feeding oneself is not a contribution.  It's a necessity you have to do to be alive.
      
      
    

还是你理解我。
永夜樱
690 楼
以下是引用ilovebeauty在7/10/2010 4:37:00 PM的发言:


我看了,本来我觉得男的实在很极品,后来看了女的之后,觉得他们俩挺合适的。

另外啊,女苦主,你们俩在国内就认识那么多年,然后结婚,你不知道他对你爹妈有啥看法啊?

我跟你相反
我本来觉得这女的是不咋样,后来看了女苦主的英文陈述,觉得男的也半斤八两
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ilovebeauty
691 楼
以下是引用永夜樱在7/10/2010 4:41:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     我跟你相反
我本来觉得这女的是不咋样,后来看了女苦主的英文陈述,觉得男的也半斤八两
    

哈哈哈哈,男的先跳出来自爆家丑嘛,然后女的才跳出来的。

这俩人真是一对,很合适。虽然女方显得更悲情一些,因为至少她还读书,还很悲愤觉得是男的没出息才这样对他的。但其实俩人没什么区别,没有高低之分。婚姻搞成这样,谁也不比谁强。
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lilinda655
692 楼
女主也上啦???
永夜樱
693 楼
以下是引用lilinda655在7/10/2010 4:47:00 PM的发言:
女主也上啦???

你OUT了
星之碎片
694 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 2:20:00 PM的发言:

    
    
      
     I never want to depend on him. All his complaints were made while I am studying and having my income. Yes, I refuse to pay the rent and all the other fees because i do believe that's a man's responsibility! What I only depend on him are rent and daily food, actually sometimes I pay my food, the food i like and he hates. If a man always negotiate the basic expense with his wife, how can I be generous?
      
      
      
    
自己有收入还能这么赤裸裸地说不愿意分担房租和生活费的人,把自己当啥了?
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lilinda655
695 楼
以下是引用永夜樱在7/10/2010 4:49:00 PM的发言:

    
    
     你OUT了
    
nod nod
鲜花越来越好玩了 前两天wsn 那个已经很惊爆了 。。。今天这个更是兼容并包啊。。。。
玲珑望秋月
696 楼
这坑挖的,还是双语的,有水平有潜力,够昂~~~
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lilinda655
697 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 10:28:00 AM的发言:

    
    
      
     她已经不是当年的她了,当年漂亮,单纯,情绪很清纯,我说什么她都听。不像现在,像个母夜叉,不能碰不能摸。
    
啧啧啧。。。。。
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lilinda655
698 楼
以下是引用猪大姐在7/10/2010 10:47:00 AM的发言:

    
    
      
     老婆很小,不到30
    
也许人家觉得婚后和婚前差距太遥远了 。。。。。
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lilinda655
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 不爬了  累死了 
坐下等总结陈词
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semidear
700 楼
 你没有工作,那呆在家里干什么?