1. Playing hard does not equal to play tough, or play not care Playing hard to get is completely different from "i don't care about having a relationship/marriage". That is mis-leading her dates and she will end up with only those she does not want to choose from. She should be straightfoward about what she is looking. To play hard to get, a girl should: a) make yourself very, very attractive b) let him know that your standards are very high, and c) let him know you want to be "taken". yet, make it clear that whether HE will be the one to take/get you is up in the air until you say yes to the big rock.
The hard to get girl is very careful, and takes more time to observe her date before moving forward. And she maintains same, if not more, level of due-diligence after each step moving forward. As for the process for the man to proof they're what the girl is looking for, let it be long. That is "hard to get"
2. Trust Trust must be earned and constantly maintained, and should not be given blindly. Milestones in a relationship, such as exclusivity, engagement, marriage, indicates different levels of trust. Trust can be 100%, but it should never be blind. always be aware of whether the person deserves your trust. If in doubt, talk about it or find out the truth, but never allow yourself be blind.
3.用发展的眼光看问题 I have no doubt that xx was crazy for me around the time of exclusive, and I assumed it all the time instead of checking the current situation. Things change, ppl change, and if you have assumptions and don't follow up with developements, your judgment will have wrong basis. This is what a girl should do: a) things change; people change; perform a "reality check" from time to time. b) look forward, think about the future (say, in 10 years), and ask yourself whether you would still like to be with this perosn, or you would still be fretting about whatever issue you are fretting about right now, etc. etc.. it helps keep things in perspective, you know, that 30,000 feet view.
4. 知己知彼，百战不殆. You gotta know yourself first, then you need to know your "target" inside and out, which takes time and persistent due diligence investigation.
5. Due diligence investigation: listen to what he says, watch what he does for you and more importantly, for others. don't express your opinion too easily. observe without letting him have your judgment. people tend to behave closer to their true selves when they don't feel being judged.
6. What a guy says is not too important, what he does is. (护法) 7. Find a guy who place his girl in front of everything else. 这样你才会心甘情愿地对他好，然后才能越来越好。(仙女) 8. Being positive does not equal to 逆来顺受. Praise lavishly when praise is deserved, and only when deserved. 9. Make a list of characteristics of your ideal man. This forces you to think about the important qualities you were looking for.
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All makes sense, though this play-hard-to-get thing I really have no experience nor opinions on.
我不会用yet
我用了一个 不过没用在bikini area。。还行 特光溜。。就是刚弄完痒痒
我用了一个 不过没用在bikini area。。还行 特光溜。。就是刚弄完痒痒
疼不？
可以用在脸上么？
今天谁见过鹿肉？
还木有呢 估计是为他lg跑前跑后呢
今天谁见过鹿肉？
从上星期就没见过了
疼不？
可以用在脸上么？
我就用身上了 没用脸上。。怕过敏啊
疼，还红。不过很干净
要多久才消阿
疼，还红。不过很干净
真吓人。。。俺用的那个在身上倒是没有红诶 就是痒痒 俺冲了好久的水
真吓人。。。俺用的那个在身上倒是没有红诶 就是痒痒 俺冲了好久的水
看样子，你的皮比较厚
看样子，你的皮比较厚
俺用得那个说不定比你的好呢 切！
俺用得那个说不定比你的好呢 切！
我还没用过啊！！！！！！！！！！！！
我是拿你跟如花护法比较
我还没用过啊！！！！！！！！！！！！
我是拿你跟如花护法比较
有啥生日愿望？
有啥生日愿望？
ewwwww
他们都叫你锅贴姐？
ewwwww
必须跟鼹鼠无关d
ys不算是俺男宠
ewwwww
人啊~ 太有魅力 挡都挡不住列~
他们都叫你锅贴姐？
人家都叫俺 甜甜姐~
那个survey的result发给我看看
要进行no.2 survey
人家都叫俺 甜甜姐~
britney也是小甜甜
8 婆 fay
那个survey的result发给我看看
要进行no.2 survey
发过去了
britney也是小甜甜
俺做妈妈了以后也比她苗条
发过去了
谢谢~~~~~~~~
第2轮survey,
我把题目出好，能不能你来弄？
谢谢~~~~~~~~
第2轮survey,
我把题目出好，能不能你来弄？
你email给俺~~ 俺给你做 hiahia 瞧俺这效率
你email给俺~~ 俺给你做 hiahia 瞧俺这效率
帮服你星期5应该会收到
帮服你星期5应该会收到
老三我写好了。
1. Playing hard does not equal to play tough, or play not care
Playing
hard to get is completely different from "i don't care about having a
relationship/marriage". That is mis-leading her dates and she will end
up with only those she does not want to choose from. She should be
straightfoward about what she is looking. To play hard to get, a girl
should:
a) make yourself very, very attractive
b) let him know that your standards are very high, and
c)
let him know you want to be "taken". yet, make it clear that whether HE
will be the one to take/get you is up in the air until you say yes to
the big rock.
The hard to get girl is very careful, and takes
more time to observe her date before moving forward. And she maintains
same, if not more, level of due-diligence after each step moving
forward. As for the process for the man to proof they're what the girl
is looking for, let it be long. That is "hard to get"
2. Trust
Trust must be earned and constantly maintained, and should not be given blindly.
Milestones in a relationship, such as exclusivity, engagement, marriage, indicates different levels of trust.
Trust
can be 100%, but it should never be blind. always be aware of whether
the person deserves your trust. If in doubt, talk about it or find out
the truth, but never allow yourself be blind.
3.用发展的眼光看问题
I
have no doubt that xx was crazy for me around the time of
exclusive, and I assumed it all the time instead of checking the
current situation. Things change,
ppl change, and if you have assumptions and don't follow up with
developements, your judgment will have wrong basis.
This is what a girl should do:
a) things change; people change; perform a "reality check" from time to time.
b)
look forward, think about the future (say, in 10 years), and ask
yourself whether you would still like to be with this perosn, or you
would still be fretting about whatever issue you are fretting about
right now, etc. etc.. it helps keep things in perspective, you know,
that 30,000 feet view.
4. 知己知彼，百战不殆. You gotta know yourself
first, then you need to know your "target" inside and out, which takes
time and persistent due diligence investigation.
5. Due
diligence investigation: listen to what he says, watch what he does for
you and more importantly, for others. don't express your opinion too
easily. observe without letting him have your judgment. people tend to
behave closer to their true selves when they don't feel being judged.
6. What a guy says is not too important, what he does is. (护法)
7. Find a guy who place his girl in front of everything else. 这样你才会心甘情愿地对他好，然后才能越来越好。(仙女) 8. Being positive does not equal to 逆来顺受. Praise lavishly when praise is deserved, and only when deserved.
9.
Make a list of characteristics of your ideal man. This forces you to
think about the important qualities you were looking for.
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All makes sense, though this play-hard-to-get thing I really have no experience nor opinions on.
我知道有几条是为我写的，嘻嘻。尤其是盲目的信任。我觉得这个已然不会重现，因为我再也不是十八岁的我的持续，跌倒一次，知道看路了。
cindi你太厉害了，把想法写成文字的能力一流～ 你所说的，绝大多数我都想过，但是不会像你这样严肃的generalize还写得这么好。赞啊
10月份最多人同意
7，什么爱情不爱情，我从来没有那么高尚过。
就算和金毛做锅贴的那段，我心里时刻都有秆称，我得到我想要的，高兴干嘛干嘛。只不过后来慢慢地想安定下来了，金毛能提供的不能满足我需要了，才分了。。。
嘴硬吧你就，明明是自己技术不纯熟
今天俺生日~ 胖子12点给俺发了个小clip 他给俺唱的生日歌~~
哇，生日快乐啊，甜心～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～
嘴硬吧你就，明明是自己技术不纯熟
jarvi来了~~
嘴硬吧你就，明明是自己技术不纯熟
技术不纯熟和不高尚不矛盾啊！
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唉，老三。我都知道
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匝地了这是？
唉，老三。我都知道
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mor mor
你怎么啦
mor mor
你怎么啦
请大家忽略我。我差点忍不住想involve了。
大家一致认为去肥羊家
10月份最多人同意
内阁。。。俺要说下啊。。。10月份最好周末来~~ 因为刚好那个月是俺一个大客户 每天工作时间是10+hours 所以周末来最好 要么平时俺没法招待大家
哇，生日快乐啊，甜心～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～～
内阁。。。俺要说下啊。。。10月份最好周末来~~ 因为刚好那个月是俺一个大客户 每天工作时间是10+hours 所以周末来最好 要么平时俺没法招待大家
当然只能周末去~~~
一时间，我有种想扁人的冲动。
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我操，我给你找的图不喜欢啊？
当然只能周末去~~~
re
切，我的假珍贵着呢，才不留给去见你呢！
请大家忽略我。我差点忍不住想involve了。
怎么了？难道TT同时在跟你汇报我们在谈什么？
怎么了？难道TT同时在跟你汇报我们在谈什么？
木有。
但他昨天汇报了，然后我跟他说以后不许汇报了。
又说个郁闷的，刚才跟一女死党吃饭，8卦，完了人由衷地说：
一时间，我有种想扁人的冲动。
哈哈，我懂你的感觉。那这时候呢，我觉得，你可以试着，少想一点。
又说个郁闷的，刚才跟一女死党吃饭，8卦，完了人由衷地说：
以下内容需要威望达到3才可以浏览
一时间，我有种想扁人的冲动。
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知道啥么 装b就这也过 出来混迟早要还的 你要是这么让人觉得 那丫根本就不算得上你闺蜜~ 斧头帮随便一8po都比你这所谓的闺蜜了解你
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木有。
但他昨天汇报了，然后我跟他说以后不许汇报了。
哦？所以你昨天跟我说的那套话？
有啥可汇报的呀？我们又没啥进展。
没关系
我们来安慰你
当然只能周末去~~~
那木有问题啊
那木有问题啊
我还是等等路肉吧
等她交了
我再做细一点的survey
知道啥么 装b就这也过 出来混迟早要还的 你要是这么让人觉得 那丫根本就不算得上你闺蜜~ 斧头帮随便一8po都比你这所谓的闺蜜了解你
[此贴子已经被作者于2010/3/24 15:37:26编辑过]
知道啥么 装b就这也过 出来混迟早要还的 你要是这么让人觉得 那丫根本就不算得上你闺蜜~ 斧头帮随便一8po都比你这所谓的闺蜜了解你
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也不要踩着别人提升自己嘛，肥羊，咱有电梯。
8po cin
没关系
我们来安慰你
帮主真好~~~你们前几天还有前前次都好温柔地安慰我啊。
我还是等等路肉吧
等她交了
我再做细一点的survey
re
帮主真好~~~你们前几天还有前前次都好温柔地安慰我啊。
该认真的时候，我们还是很认真d
谁叫你外强中loli
表侮辱loli~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
俺是不耻你 张口闭口个闺蜜 其实都是利用你！
帮主真好~~~你们前几天还有前前次都好温柔地安慰我啊。
谁叫你外强中loli
也不要踩着别人提升自己嘛，肥羊，咱有电梯。
俺脑残 至少表里如一 丫cin跟这一会儿清醒一会糊涂 跟外面装清醒 委屈了吧跟这儿哭 做人真实点儿 人才把你当真
俺是不耻你 张口闭口个闺蜜 其实都是利用你！
她买单就好了啊。哪像你！
我提议minimize period会不舒服而且刚好那时来period的人数。
那俺门第二轮survey就调查下period的时间吧
我提议minimize period会不舒服而且刚好那时来period的人数。
会10月份的每个周，开放选项~
大家自己定夺
她买单就好了啊。哪像你！
切 你咋就知道俺不买单的！ 我呸
谁叫你外强中loli
你也是个过于体贴的典型。
跟你说，自己人贴贴算了，别人啊，要不时的reality check看值得你体贴否！
切 你咋就知道俺不买单的！ 我呸
re
肥羊最爱买单了~~~~~~~~~~~~
re
肥羊最爱买单了~~~~~~~~~~~~
妈逼的 你们来老娘请你搓 唯独不管cin的！ 哼哼哼
你也是个过于体贴的典型。
跟你说，自己人贴贴算了，别人啊，要不时的reality check看值得你体贴否！
你又来了 大道理一篇篇的 你哪个做得到啊 一天到晚放屁 还光有响没味道
他说他喜欢我了，
他基本都随我，他希望date，如果我不愿意当然也木关系，就按照我的标准来。太好了，俺最喜欢坦诚了。呵呵。
切 你咋就知道俺不买单的！ 我呸
好，以后就都你买单了！
正在跟TT深谈，都谈开了。
他说他喜欢我了，
他基本都随我，他希望date，如果我不愿意当然也木关系，就按照我的标准来。太好了，俺最喜欢坦诚了。呵呵。
妈逼的 你们来老娘请你搓 唯独不管cin的！ 哼哼哼
正在跟TT深谈，都谈开了。
他说他喜欢我了，
他基本都随我，他希望date，如果我不愿意当然也木关系，就按照我的标准来。太好了，俺最喜欢坦诚了。呵呵。
他老人家的道德观我已经跟你讲了，希望不是你自以为是就好。
你又来了 大道理一篇篇的 你哪个做得到啊 一天到晚放屁 还光有响没味道
7，就你那英文，你还看得懂我是在讲道理？
你也是个过于体贴的典型。
跟你说，自己人贴贴算了，别人啊，要不时的reality check看值得你体贴否！
是…… 老大教育的极是。
你又来了 大道理一篇篇的 你哪个做得到啊 一天到晚放屁 还光有响没味道
妈B的，信不信老子不带钱包拉你和压寨去吃饭？最后丢去喂鱼？
7，就你那英文，你还看得懂我是在讲道理？
我英语不好 看到英文就打瞌睡~ 你写的俺看都不看 俺直接看8po门的读后感 切！ 我才不浪费内时间呢
他老人家的道德观我已经跟你讲了，希望不是你自以为是就好。
切～ 跟俺道德观不矛盾
妈B的，信不信老子不带钱包拉你和压寨去吃饭？最后丢去喂鱼？
好啊~~
看最后谁丢脸。。。。
妈B的，信不信老子不带钱包拉你和压寨去吃饭？最后丢去喂鱼？
你敢 我扒光了你 扔我们SA alamo 跟前示威 一刀一摸~
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其实是要看上下文的
我就上来逗逗你们，嘿嘿
你敢 我扒光了你 扔我们SA alamo 跟前示威 一刀一摸~
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太贵了
大家听好了，肥羊喜欢很臭的屁，响一点也可以，但她最不喜欢响的但没有味道的。
关键，就是一定要臭！
太贵了
光pp摸~~~ 不贵！一点都不贵~
你确认大众审美观乐意摸图钉而非32D?
有的摸总比没的摸好
你敢 我扒光了你 扔我们SA alamo 跟前示威 一刀一摸~
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你确认大众审美观乐意摸图钉而非32D?
我今天晚上去跟同事们聚会，靠，整个一控诉大会啊。这是我说辞职后第一次见他们。个个都想跳槽，都觉得这组里是完全不能待了。
都是傻B。要不都有退路了。或者都喝高了。
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我今天晚上去跟同事们聚会，靠，整个一控诉大会啊。这是我说辞职后第一次见他们。个个都想跳槽，都觉得这组里是完全不能待了。
还好你跑得快
最后一个跑得通常就是无情无义的那个
bb cream连起来根本是乱七八糟。
都是傻B。要不都有退路了。或者都喝高了。
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问题就一个，就是我们老板。
问题就一个，就是我们老板。
老板木有一个好的，天下乌鸦那啥。
考了一下古，BB意思是blemish balm。如果是cream，应该叫blemish cream = bc
bb cream连起来根本是乱七八糟。
棒子英文不好