Tried and true solutions for separation anxiety and sleep disruption
There are a variety of things you can do to help your child manage her anxious feelings about her increasing individuation from you:
Play peek-a-boo games. Play lots of games with your baby during the day that allow her to practice object permanence, or learning that when people or things are out of sight, they still exist. Engage her in activities that focus on disappearing and reappearing, such as peek-a-boo, jack-in-the-box, or hiding a toy under a blanket and then taking away the blanket so she can see it again. This way, she’ll learn that Mommy and Daddy, too, go away but always come back. Always tell your child when you’re leaving. You’ll want to communicate all of your separations to your child for the time being. Although it can be tempting to sneak out of the house to avoid a traumatic, tear-filled separation of Scarlett and Rhett proportions, doing so will only make your baby’s anxiety worse; at some point he’ll look to find you, won’t be able to, and won’t understand where you’ve gone, why you’ve gone, or whether you’re ever coming back. Instead, be sure to tell him that you’re leaving – and if his anxiety id very strong, you’ll want to do so even if you’re just going to the bathroom or into the kitchen to make dinner. Get right down on his level, make eye contact, and say, “Hi, sweetie. Mommy’s going to the bathroom for a few minutes, and I’ll be right back!” let him fuss and squawk for the few minutes that you’re gone, then come back and check in again: “Here I am, honey! I missed you, too.” It’s not a good idea to keep him attached to your hip all throughout the day, even if he seems to prefer that right now, because if he has no chance to practice feeling apart from you during the day, you can bet he’ll save it all up for sleep time. Give your child a lovey. If you don’t already have, this is an excellent time to introduce a transitional object or a lovey (small blanket or stuffed animal) that your child forms an attachment to because it reminds her of you. Lengthen your bedtime routine. Plan to spend a little extra time with him at nap time and bedtime, tacking on an extra 5 to 15 minutes to your normal routine. Give him lots of lap time; hold and cuddle and kiss him so he really feels your closeness. The extra time will also help him wind down his busy body before sleep.
真是奇怪这些pp们怎么都这么不会做人. 好歹你婆婆还帮你照顾了那么久, 这件事算是小事情了. 要说带东西, 我婆婆一件东西都没给fanfan准备, 也不愿意过来.我才知道她直接和我妈讲她怕累. 当奶奶到这种水平真是极品了
deal queen 怎么还不来show啊?
不过我婆婆人其实不坏 也挺善良的 ,对宝宝也好 只是有时候觉得不爽
我要睡觉了,明天再来等deal queen了 fanfan妈,上了录像先别s哦,我明天可能会晚回来
咱们明天都把金家杀个片甲不留.
我婆婆比较以自我为中心, 而且很娇气, 一点事就烦, 就闹情绪. 像个小孩子, 经常还理直气壮地提一些不合理要求, 比如要人送她回家, 要人几天内把什么什么寄回家...
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咱们明天都把金家杀个片甲不留.
我们都上当了, deal queen 在外头奔了, 也不进来只会一声. 啊,在外面奔啊!
给我吧, 每次我去店里从没捡到和大家同样水平的白菜. 不行的话只能考虑网上.
我怎么跳amazon玩具导致对跳deal上隐了啊?
我觉得ross经常有白菜,还不用抢。tjmaxx也sale玩具了。如果路过可以去看看。 我在Marshall看了一眼, 还是Amazon当时便宜
嘻嘻,果然啊。哪一级的?有可能我真认识呢? 不会吧, 8月又有熟人碰见熟人了?!
终于回来了, 一会儿再来汇报!
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sleep disruption
There are a variety of things you can do to help your child
manage her anxious feelings about her increasing individuation from you:
Play
peek-a-boo games. Play lots of games with your baby during the day that
allow her to practice object permanence, or learning that when people or
things are out of sight, they still exist. Engage her in activities that
focus on disappearing and reappearing, such as peek-a-boo,
jack-in-the-box, or hiding a toy under a blanket and then taking away the
blanket so she can see it again. This way, she’ll learn that Mommy and
Daddy, too, go away but always come back.
Always
tell your child when you’re leaving. You’ll want to communicate all of
your separations to your child for the time being. Although it can be
tempting to sneak out of the house to avoid a traumatic, tear-filled
separation of Scarlett and Rhett proportions, doing so will only make your
baby’s anxiety worse; at some point he’ll look to find you, won’t be able
to, and won’t understand where you’ve gone, why you’ve gone, or whether
you’re ever coming back. Instead, be sure to tell him that you’re leaving
– and if his anxiety id very strong, you’ll want to do so even if you’re
just going to the bathroom or into the kitchen to make dinner. Get right
down on his level, make eye contact, and say, “Hi, sweetie. Mommy’s going
to the bathroom for a few minutes, and I’ll be right back!” let him fuss
and squawk for the few minutes that you’re gone, then come back and check
in again: “Here I am, honey! I missed you, too.” It’s not a good idea to
keep him attached to your hip all throughout the day, even if he seems to
prefer that right now, because if he has no chance to practice feeling
apart from you during the day, you can bet he’ll save it all up for sleep
time.
Give
your child a lovey. If you don’t already have, this is an excellent time
to introduce a transitional object or a lovey (small blanket or stuffed
animal) that your child forms an attachment to because it reminds her of
you.
Lengthen
your bedtime routine. Plan to spend a little extra time with him at nap
time and bedtime, tacking on an extra 5 to 15 minutes to your normal
routine. Give him lots of lap time; hold and cuddle and kiss him so he
really feels your closeness. The extra time will also help him wind down
his busy body before sleep.
外婆只养了一个女儿啊,而奶奶养了4个子女3个孙子女。恩,经验不是最重要的。
就是他爸每次唠叨——多浪费啊,这么多水能洗多少人的澡啊。。。昨天更是跟我算立方数,大致算了算一次300升以上,快100个牛奶桶了
小葱头昨天第三次游泳。居然自己figure out 了仰着游 -》 侧着游 -》 趴着游,好玩啊
就是他爸每次唠叨——多浪费啊,这么多水能洗多少人的澡啊。。。昨天更是跟我算立方数,大致算了算一次300升以上,快100个牛奶桶了
(其实已经十点多,不早了。)
上我们回家后喂两次泰勒,说是减轻痛,大家喂了吗,看到前面你们写的怕怕啊。
还有,医生说一定要喂辅食了,先迷糊再马上加stage 1的蔬菜了,说母乳已经太稀了,一定要加才会营养根上。
还有说要给宝宝淘耳朵,要到耳朵里面一点点,用棉签,啊,我不敢弄啊。
大家有什么好推荐的棉签吗?
早,体检回来了,体重15LB1.5OZ,说是75--90%之间?身高75%,头围只有25%,小头姑娘啊,打了4针,
上我们回家后喂两次泰勒,说是减轻痛,大家喂了吗,看到前面你们写的怕怕啊。
还有,医生说一定要喂辅食了,先迷糊再马上加stage 1的蔬菜了,说母乳已经太稀了,一定要加才会营养根上。
还有说要给宝宝淘耳朵,要到耳朵里面一点点,用棉签,啊,我不敢弄啊。
大家有什么好推荐的棉签吗?
QQ长得很好。金兰妈,你好强啊。
医生怎么知道你的母乳已经太稀了的,真是。不过,加辅食也挺好的,对宝宝来说也有新鲜感。
关于掏耳朵,我觉得还是不要掏,宝宝太小了啊。给她耳朵周围擦擦就行了。
恩,费水、所以我偶尔才让她游一次
早,体检回来了,体重15LB1.5OZ,说是75--90%之间?身高75%,头围只有25%,小头姑娘啊,打了4针,
上我们回家后喂两次泰勒,说是减轻痛,大家喂了吗,看到前面你们写的怕怕啊。
还有,医生说一定要喂辅食了,先迷糊再马上加stage 1的蔬菜了,说母乳已经太稀了,一定要加才会营养根上。
还有说要给宝宝淘耳朵,要到耳朵里面一点点,用棉签,啊,我不敢弄啊。
大家有什么好推荐的棉签吗?
为什么要两次啊? 我觉得不烧就不用喂。 上次我们是打针前医生就给喂了, 后来还是烧了。 这次医生没有事先喂, 事后因为没烧我也没喂。
ureach,你给小面包买了那么多漂亮衣服,给她换上多照些像吧。 后妈我买的都是12-18mo的阿。
后妈我买的都是12-18mo的阿。
Amelie is still cute as ever!
和我一样。
刚走,其实也还好 就是一天到晚得陪着她
说是减痛哦,不过看到前面大家的讨论怕怕的,如果不发烧,我就不喂拉 我当时给喂了的,2个月和四个月都喂了,没有什么不对 我觉得泰诺引起的负面反应很小的 那么小的剂量我觉得基本不可能会让宝宝fussy
如果耳廓上有东西,就擦擦,不是的话,我也不敢往里头弄。
QQ长得挺好,为啥要这么快家副食呢? 加水果吗? 先加哪些呢? 还是没有先后?
亲家母,香蕉很甜,合适最先加吗?
以后宝宝每年都要穿过季衣服。
家里是你的天下拉,哈哈哈
送上飞吻一个~~
QQ长得真好! 不烧还是别吃药了吧,暂时。
如果耳廓上有东西,就擦擦,不是的话,我也不敢往里头弄。
QQ长得挺好,为啥要这么快家副食呢? 加水果吗? 先加哪些呢? 还是没有先后?
亲家母,香蕉很甜,合适最先加吗?
如果要加辅食,需要先加米糊,加几天适应了再加其他的
Amelie真漂亮!! 小J也特别漂亮呀 我还没见过小J的大照片呢,每次都只能在头像里看
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小J也特别漂亮呀 我还没见过小J的大照片呢,每次都只能在头像里看 就是。 小J奔一个吧。
我们家就没有windows,老公是忠诚的linux fan, 家里的服务器都是linux的,笔记本也都是,办公室里是unix的。。
我想奔小J啊,可是我一直没整明白怎么用firefox发照片,要我输入网址,哪有什么网址啊?
我们家就没有windows,老公是忠诚的linux fan, 家里的服务器都是linux的,笔记本也都是,办公室里是unix的。。
firefox不能上传照片吗? 或者你有网上相册的话直接copy paste就好了。
没有网上相册,大家都在哪个网站存相册?
如果都不行的话,我就多多更新头像好了,放大点,能看清吧
回来了~ 快上录像。
快上录像。 啥录像啊,对了上次买个那个pizza elmo来了 声音好大啊,有点吓着宝宝了,怎么录这么大的声音,每次玩还要隔的远远的?
啥录像啊,对了上次买个那个pizza elmo来了 声音好大啊,有点吓着宝宝了,怎么录这么大的声音,每次玩还要隔的远远的?
帖子都掉第二页去了,踢一脚。 这几天可能没有时间来了,所以提前祝各位圣诞快乐。
今天偶在外面漂着的衣服包裹基本都到了, 很失败呀! Macys买了两件竟然才寄了一件! 现在还在解决当中。
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今天偶在外面漂着的衣服包裹基本都到了, 很失败呀! Macys买了两件竟然才寄了一件! 现在还在解决当中。
fanfan妈,和小狮子妈还没有逛回来啊?想看fanfan录像。[em01 下午才回来, 吃了饭又出去办事去了。
不喜欢的可以退店里。我现在是没有free shipping的就不跳
还觉得在店里买衣服比较爽, 我在网上买的大多不合适, 尤其是ATL的。
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ATL你买的什么号? 我想都退了。。。 那件hoodie的样子跟网上有点差啊。。
我买的S, 可是太松了, 那个黑的估计让妈妈穿。
争取十点左右能上来看一眼。
先预告一下: 东部时间10:00上fanfan录像。 waiting
我也去金家了,结果不让我用网上打印的那个20%off,气死了,还是买了一堆回来
短袖
啥录像啊,对了上次买个那个pizza elmo来了 声音好大啊,有点吓着宝宝了,怎么录这么大的声音,每次玩还要隔的远远的?
从金家回来不是很满意可能男孩衣服本来就不怎么的,捡了一些不痛不痒的小白菜。都是现在就可以穿的衣服,本来想屯些夏天衣服根本没有。后来别处逛逛。我一直不FAN Jcrew不过他们今年的春夏衣服我倒挺喜欢,但本着没断奶前我解决不败贵的衣服的原则是么也没买。在ATL惊奇的发现SP的衣服穿得很宽松,很是满足了一下虚荣心不果没啥好东西是么也没买。很久没逛街了居然很快就累了。看来没断奶前逛街积极性还是不高的。
偶今天也挤着挤着穿了BR的xs上衣和0号裤子,虚荣心得到极大的满足。
迷糊不怕啊,听了没啥反映,估计她比较迟钝 迷糊比较勇敢, 看piza动嘴巴, 我都觉得怪怪的。
女孩子的衣服真漂亮 赞一下NINI的新头像,很可爱,粉嘟嘟的小脸 嘿嘿,谢谢