My adult stepson is high need. Do I have responsibility to take care of him? ChatGPT said: Your sense of responsibility toward your adult stepson depends on a few key factors—legal, moral, relational, and personal. Here's a breakdown to help you clarify your position: 🔹 Legal Responsibility In most cases, stepparents do not have legal responsibility for adult stepchildren unless: You legally adopted him. You have a legal guardianship or agreement in place. There are specific state or country laws that assign responsibility in certain circumstances (rare). If none of the above apply, you are likely not legally obligated to care for him. 🔹 Moral or Ethical Responsibility This depends on: Your relationship with him: Did you raise him? Do you have a close bond? The nature of his needs: Is he disabled, mentally ill, or financially dependent due to serious circumstances? Your capacity: Are you emotionally, physically, or financially able to support him? You might feel a moral responsibility if you've played a significant parental role or if he's genuinely unable to care for himself. 🔹 Personal Boundaries It's okay to say: "I care about you, but I cannot meet all your needs." "I can help in these specific ways, but I can't take on full responsibility." Being honest about your boundaries is important for your own well-being and the health of the relationship. 🔹 Family Dynamics Also consider: What does your spouse (his parent) expect or contribute? Are you feeling alone in this, or is this a shared responsibility? Is enabling his behavior helping or harming him long-term? 💬 If You’re Unsure You might ask yourself: Am I helping, or am I being used? What kind of relationship do I want with him? What kind of support feels right to offer—if any?
这个是法盲了。在美国结婚后对继子女无论是否成年都没有法律责任和权力,除非走法律程序收养。
双方都三四十 你的眼光决定了你的档次
Your sense of responsibility toward your adult stepson depends on a few key factors—legal, moral, relational, and personal. Here's a breakdown to help you clarify your position: 🔹 Legal Responsibility In most cases, stepparents do not have legal responsibility for adult stepchildren unless: You legally adopted him. You have a legal guardianship or agreement in place. There are specific state or country laws that assign responsibility in certain circumstances (rare). If none of the above apply, you are likely not legally obligated to care for him. 🔹 Moral or Ethical Responsibility This depends on: Your relationship with him: Did you raise him? Do you have a close bond? The nature of his needs: Is he disabled, mentally ill, or financially dependent due to serious circumstances? Your capacity: Are you emotionally, physically, or financially able to support him? You might feel a moral responsibility if you've played a significant parental role or if he's genuinely unable to care for himself. 🔹 Personal Boundaries It's okay to say: "I care about you, but I cannot meet all your needs." "I can help in these specific ways, but I can't take on full responsibility." Being honest about your boundaries is important for your own well-being and the health of the relationship. 🔹 Family Dynamics Also consider: What does your spouse (his parent) expect or contribute? Are you feeling alone in this, or is this a shared responsibility? Is enabling his behavior helping or harming him long-term? 💬 If You’re Unsure You might ask yourself: Am I helping, or am I being used? What kind of relationship do I want with him? What kind of support feels right to offer—if any?
年纪不大还能生娃?尼玛,三十多的你跟四十多的比。三十多找白男都能嫁到很有钱的。
整天白垃圾白垃圾,找个黄的只会更垃圾。
这个听起来就很年轻,30几岁的,不然还怎么能生娃。30岁年轻漂亮跟50岁再婚的难度不是一个级别的。
你跟我生个什么气呢? 我只是问问那位层主具体的情况,然后summarizing 一下而已
白垃圾这词我没用过 谁用的,支持你怼谁去
真的是不快乐的心啊 上网见谁怼谁 怼完了还是不快乐啊
大家讨论了个半天你跑来举个三十几八杆子打不着的例子,浪费大家的时间。
是的
不要说50岁了,就是上了40,情况就很不一样了 如果这个女的是40多,其他条件不变,大概率是嫁不上这个40多的有钱人的 不要说有钱人了,经济条件相当,都不一定嫁得上
不是看不起中年妇女 是中年老中男对中年老中女不感冒啊
麻烦您看帖仔细点,好吗?
我问的层主,层主给的例子,然后我summarizing了一下而已 不是我举的例子,ok?
很多大妈年轻时没约会过白男,到40,50岁要从新找对象的时候找国男不顺才想到白男。虽然看到那些变态白男杀老婆案例,但以为不会发生自己身上,约会经验少,只能说太天真了。这里经常有人说白男有爱心,不计较年纪,这些虽然也是有可能,但白男的缺点远比这些优点多,而且好一点的很少概率会看上亚女。
生活不能自理吗?那度假还可能吗?
孩子成人了就可以让政府管理,我邻居有一个孩子也是这样,住着政府的公寓, 有ssn收入,还有各种补助。
赞这个女的人间清醒,知道自己想要什么
你是不是对“特殊”孩子的理解太过狭隘了
你理解不了是因为你的眼里只有钱。
有钱为什么不能帮养?
听着像是妈宝男婚后牺牲小家利益愚孝自私的妈。
赞男的也很清醒现实。 祝福他们!
钱要多到一定的地步才愿意养的。 有的女的嘴巴里说的自己有钱,她那个钱养房子养孩子养老,就剩不下几个毛线了,当然不愿意出钱养别人。
你的观念不是他们的观念。他们两个人能达成一致就行了。楼主也不可能面面俱到把所有细节都讲到。两个人能在一起,必然有原因。
这不恰恰说明了读书好和家庭生活好并没有直接联系吗
只算钱和利益,确实不够 要把safety 和danger 都算进去,而且要prioritize safety and healthy
你咋不上呢?要是我肯定上。自己喜欢的人,就因为要照顾弟弟单着,这不是天大的deal吗?
那你让中年大妈怎么办呢? 老中男看不上她们,她们又不想孤枕后半辈子 只能在看得上她们愿意跟他们交往的男人里,选一个更适合自己的啦
所以问题的关键,不是种族 是要多挑多选多观察,宁缺毋滥,不要急着结婚锁定和一个人的关系
呵呵,每个人看问题都是他们心里的反射,咱们俩看他们的角度肯定不一样。
说得也是。 如果这样的话,多少那些被白人领养的自闭残疾儿童都不可能被领养。 因为很可能年迈的白人因领养的残疾儿童成年后有生命和安全的危险,姑且不说那些金钱和精力和时间的付出
是的,而且如果没有这个孩子、也许这个男的早就身居高位了。说明这个男的是一个优秀的人,值得很好的一生。
你男朋友也有个特需成年娃?
领养的是特需成年人吗? 然后带着自己亲生孩子住到特需成年人家里吗?同时还受到特需成年人的排斥?
怎么会呢 每个人都会坚持自己的价值观和喜好的 喜欢吃臭豆腐的,不会因为我不吃也不再去吃的 放心吧 你的假设不会实现的
世界就是这样的 有喜欢的,就有不喜欢的 有觉着好的,就有觉着不好的
喜欢的不会因为有人不喜欢就变成不喜欢的
活雷锋啊这是
40多岁还没还孩子,长得漂亮还收入高肯定很抢手啊?一定有哪里没说实话