最近一名新婚的外国丈夫很苦恼，于是发帖吐槽：我刚娶了一位中国太太，本以为新婚很甜蜜，万万没想到，她的一句话，让我当场破防了 Hello all, I (m36/German) recently married my now wife (w31/Chinese). And almost immediately the problems with money started. We currently live in Germany, but will go for several years to China soon. We both work and I earn about 15%more than her. We agreed before marriage, that I will pay all living expenses and the money she safes we can use for bigger purchases later. We agreed on a joint bank account, we're all my left-over money (after living expenses) goes to and she also pays all her expenses from that account. She doesn't pay anything to this account. The only thing we agreed on, was that we put all the money we get from the wedding in the joint account, from her and my family and friends. Now after marriage she refuses to do so, because she says she got more from her family, than from my side. I paid the whole wedding (27k)and got around 20k from my family, and she got more than double. I offered that she pays only half, also not fine for her. When we go to China she will not have to work, since I will earn double my current salary and also the apartment gets paid by the company. So we roughly have the same amount of money as before together, I say she can learn something or work, as she likes. She can not give the slightest commitment regarding money, even though she has saved a lot, really a lot. She even wants to make a contract that I don't have rights to any of her money in China, which I am in general fine. But she wouldnt never allow this for my real estate. She always says that this is totally normal in China and when we discuss about it, it gets really loud. Is this really so normal? What do you think about this situation? What would you do? 以下网友纷纷给他支招： 大家怎么看这个事？
Hello all, I (m36/German) recently married my now wife (w31/Chinese). And almost immediately the problems with money started. We currently live in Germany, but will go for several years to China soon. We both work and I earn about 15%more than her. We agreed before marriage, that I will pay all living expenses and the money she safes we can use for bigger purchases later. We agreed on a joint bank account, we're all my left-over money (after living expenses) goes to and she also pays all her expenses from that account. She doesn't pay anything to this account. The only thing we agreed on, was that we put all the money we get from the wedding in the joint account, from her and my family and friends. Now after marriage she refuses to do so, because she says she got more from her family, than from my side. I paid the whole wedding (27k)and got around 20k from my family, and she got more than double. I offered that she pays only half, also not fine for her. When we go to China she will not have to work, since I will earn double my current salary and also the apartment gets paid by the company. So we roughly have the same amount of money as before together, I say she can learn something or work, as she likes. She can not give the slightest commitment regarding money, even though she has saved a lot, really a lot. She even wants to make a contract that I don't have rights to any of her money in China, which I am in general fine. But she wouldnt never allow this for my real estate. She always says that this is totally normal in China and when we discuss about it, it gets really loud. Is this really so normal? What do you think about this situation? What would you do?
以下网友纷纷给他支招：
大家怎么看这个事？