肯定不是单身。 那些情人也就是和LZ互相利用，都是因为利益原因不愿意离开自己的婚姻，共享双方出轨的多巴胺high。一旦有一方离开自己的婚姻，泡泡就破了整个平衡就破坏了，但是没有任何一方会和另一方结婚。因为那会回到现实生活，没有多巴胺了。 LZ估计是anxious avoidant，而且缺乏emotional independence. 心理问题没解决之前，即使离婚，也很难找愿意commit的下家。 多个情人不是因为LZ有魅力，而是因为LZ 愿意接受这种安排，不用负责。那些情人也是寄生在LZ的wound上的。 Open marriage 也有rules. 通常要让已有情人知道新的情人，lz都是背后搞，这在open marriage 里也算是cheating
如果楼主遇到的是海王玩家， 恭喜楼主，至少没有生命危险。 贴上旧闻一则， 关系比较乱啊， 大意是某女和她的未婚夫被该女的前男友杀了， 前男友杀人后自杀， 报案的是该女前夫….. Man who killed Westlake couple in double murder-suicide was woman’s ex-boyfriend, police say Updated: Nov. 03, 2021, 5:02 p.m.|Published: Nov. 03, 2021, 4:09 p.m. Authorities said a 45-year-old man who killed a woman and her fiancé in Westlake is the woman's ex-boyfriend. By Adam Ferrise, cleveland.com WESTLAKE, Ohio — The man who killed a Westlake woman and her fiancée on Monday was the woman’s ex-boyfriend, police said. Investigators believe Brent Shira, 45, of Jefferson killed his ex-girlfriend, Yi Chai, and her fiancé, Nathan Demetra, before Shira took his own life, Westlake police Capt. Gerald Vogel said. Police are investigating the connection between Shira and Chai’s history as a possible motive for the shooting, Vogel said. Police officials previously only said that all three knew each other. Chai, 35, and Shira had been broken up for several years, Vogel said. Chai and Demetra, 31, were recently engaged, Vogel said. Shira had no known criminal history. Investigators are combing through cellphone and other digital records seized from Shira’s home in Jefferson, Vogel said. Officers discovered Shira had recently made funeral plans when they searched his home late Monday, Vogel said. Authorities found all three dead inside Chai’s home on Willow Run near Cinnamon Way. Chai’s employer, the Federal Reserve Bank of Cleveland, called her ex-husband because she didn’t show up to work, according to 911 calls and police dispatch reports. The ex-husband went to the home about 11 a.m. Monday, found Demetra’s body on the kitchen floor and called 911. Police searched the home and found Chai dead in an upstairs bedroom. Shira was found dead in the basement. Demetra was shot in the head and left hand, and Chai was shot in the head and upper right arm, according to the Cuyahoga County Medical Examine. Their deaths were ruled homicides. Shira was shot in the head, and his death was officially ruled a suicide, according to the medical examiner. There were no signs of forced entry into the home, police said.
还有气场， 楼主可能觉得同时有4个不多， 对方有多少不知道 这样下来，气场太混乱了， 也是运气下降的源头。 万一遇到的是海王， 他遭雷劈， 也会闪到你。
改变的唯一途径就是自己悟， 还给自己一个清澈的环境。 有自己的bar，拒绝cheap。
这个帖子回复， 睿智的人很多！
肯定不是单身。 那些情人也就是和LZ互相利用，都是因为利益原因不愿意离开自己的婚姻，共享双方出轨的多巴胺high。一旦有一方离开自己的婚姻，泡泡就破了整个平衡就破坏了，但是没有任何一方会和另一方结婚。因为那会回到现实生活，没有多巴胺了。
LZ估计是anxious avoidant，而且缺乏emotional independence. 心理问题没解决之前，即使离婚，也很难找愿意commit的下家。
多个情人不是因为LZ有魅力，而是因为LZ 愿意接受这种安排，不用负责。那些情人也是寄生在LZ的wound上的。
Open marriage 也有rules. 通常要让已有情人知道新的情人，lz都是背后搞，这在open marriage 里也算是cheating
无序中寻找有序，怎么可能呢？
是的lz那些所谓情人都不会committed。全部是浮萍，因为不用对lz负责才在一起。真的过几年离婚了，lz看到情人们不愿意结婚会更伤心
我觉得 LZ 说那话时 是真诚的。
为啥一定要区别 现代社会，女性早就不都每个人期待一生一世一双人了 身边单身潇洒，只恋爱不结婚的多了去了。。。 虽然我已婚有娃，自己讨厌滥交嫌大多数男人脏，但觉得一生一世太无聊了。。。不过我懒，觉得独处自己潇洒也不错。 楼主就是没想开罢了。。。既然身体都诚实地交代出去了，心理上有啥过不去的坎呢。
很多不是选择不结婚， 是被迫选择不结婚更好。 谁不喜欢一生一世一双人， 年龄大了自私了， 不愿意再傻帽了。
现在特别理解弘一法师， 潇洒一圈， 皈依佛门。 还有王菲。 都经历过轰轰烈烈， 到过天花板， 然后开始修行。
赞一个。讽刺，嘲讽都没啥意义。 在婚姻中的需求完全没有被满足，所以外部来填充。不鼓励，但是要知道这是病，至少是心病。需要从根上治。
那就麻溜离婚跟那个美国四年情人在一起好了
三个和1000多，还是有区别的
楼主是被吓跑了？很赞同这层说的，凡事有自己的bar，拒绝cheap。 不管是不是坑了，再多说一句，在这种关系中，对方在外面也有N+的花花草草，楼主连个吃醋/兴师问罪的立场和资格都没有啊。
我担心那个对你最好的情人永远保持情人，不愿意结婚。
Man who killed Westlake couple in double murder-suicide was woman’s ex-boyfriend, police say Updated: Nov. 03, 2021, 5:02 p.m.|Published: Nov. 03, 2021, 4:09 p.m.
By Adam Ferrise, cleveland.com
WESTLAKE, Ohio — The man who killed a Westlake woman and her fiancée on Monday was the woman’s ex-boyfriend, police said. Investigators believe Brent Shira, 45, of Jefferson killed his ex-girlfriend, Yi Chai, and her fiancé, Nathan Demetra, before Shira took his own life, Westlake police Capt. Gerald Vogel said.
Police are investigating the connection between Shira and Chai’s history as a possible motive for the shooting, Vogel said. Police officials previously only said that all three knew each other.
Chai, 35, and Shira had been broken up for several years, Vogel said. Chai and Demetra, 31, were recently engaged, Vogel said. Shira had no known criminal history. Investigators are combing through cellphone and other digital records seized from Shira’s home in Jefferson, Vogel said. Officers discovered Shira had recently made funeral plans when they searched his home late Monday, Vogel said. Authorities found all three dead inside Chai’s home on Willow Run near Cinnamon Way. Chai’s employer, the Federal Reserve Bank of Cleveland, called her ex-husband because she didn’t show up to work, according to 911 calls and police dispatch reports. The ex-husband went to the home about 11 a.m. Monday, found Demetra’s body on the kitchen floor and called 911. Police searched the home and found Chai dead in an upstairs bedroom. Shira was found dead in the basement. Demetra was shot in the head and left hand, and Chai was shot in the head and upper right arm, according to the Cuyahoga County Medical Examine. Their deaths were ruled homicides. Shira was shot in the head, and his death was officially ruled a suicide, according to the medical examiner. There were no signs of forced entry into the home, police said.