全美国都一个政策，受法律保护的三个月保你工作。The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provides certain employees with up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave per year. It also requires that their group health benefits be maintained during the leave. FMLA is designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities by allowing them to take reasonable unpaid leave for certain family and medical reasons. It also seeks to accommodate the legitimate interests of employers and promote equal employment opportunity for men and women. https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla
全美国都一个政策，受法律保护的三个月保你工作。The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provides certain employees with up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave per year. It also requires that their group health benefits be maintained during the leave. FMLA is designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities by allowing them to take reasonable unpaid leave for certain family and medical reasons. It also seeks to accommodate the legitimate interests of employers and promote equal employment opportunity for men and women. https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla hellohey 发表于 2024-01-03 20:13
全美国都一样，都可以照顾父母。https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla#:~:text=FMLA%20is%20designed%20to%20help,opportunity%20for%20men%20and%20women. FMLA applies to all public agencies, all public and private elementary and secondary schools, and companies with 50 or more employees. These employers must provide an eligible employee with up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year for any of the following reasons: For the birth and care of the newborn child of an employee; For placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care; To care for an immediate family member (i.e., spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or To take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition. Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work.
全美国都一样，都可以照顾父母。https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla#:~:text=FMLA%20is%20designed%20to%20help,opportunity%20for%20men%20and%20women. FMLA applies to all public agencies, all public and private elementary and secondary schools, and companies with 50 or more employees. These employers must provide an eligible employee with up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year for any of the following reasons: For the birth and care of the newborn child of an employee; For placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care; To care for an immediate family member (i.e., spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or To take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition. Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work. hellohey 发表于 2024-01-03 20:30
全美国都一样，都可以照顾父母。https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla#:~:text=FMLA%20is%20designed%20to%20help,opportunity%20for%20men%20and%20women. FMLA applies to all public agencies, all public and private elementary and secondary schools, and companies with 50 or more employees. These employers must provide an eligible employee with up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year for any of the following reasons: For the birth and care of the newborn child of an employee; For placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care; To care for an immediate family member (i.e., spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or To take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition. Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work.
全美国都一个政策，受法律保护的三个月保你工作。The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provides certain employees with up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave per year. It also requires that their group health benefits be maintained during the leave. FMLA is designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities by allowing them to take reasonable unpaid leave for certain family and medical reasons. It also seeks to accommodate the legitimate interests of employers and promote equal employment opportunity for men and women. https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla hellohey 发表于 2024-01-03 20:13
回复 9楼公用马甲1的帖子 大学的话，看能不能申请一学期或者一年 sabbatical ( paid or non-paid) , 然后再看看能不能加上 FMLA ，每个州规定不一样，有些州 employee is entitled to take up to two weeks per year to care for a parent (including parents-in-law), child, or spouse with a serious health condition. Federal law allows an employee up to 12 weeks per year to care for a parent, child, or spouse with a serious health condition. 看你的学校规定怎么样，发考题经常可以谈下来一学期 FMLA ( 不带薪），加上前后的寒暑假。这样四舍五入差不多可以接近两年的 Leave. 降点薪水，但是工作还在，之后再看情况，换spouse 来，或者看国内是不是有长期工作机会。
你只回去一个月，可以考虑 Family leave.
不等四个老人全部丧失自理能力，就不要这样安排
有认识的朋友正好外派回国在家上班，她老公退休跟回去一起陪伴老人了，不过还是需要请外力的，光自己照顾不来的。要一起给老人翻身等等，所以需要请保姆护工的。
全美国都一个政策，受法律保护的三个月保你工作。The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provides certain employees with up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave per year. It also requires that their group health benefits be maintained during the leave. FMLA is designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities by allowing them to take reasonable unpaid leave for certain family and medical reasons. It also seeks to accommodate the legitimate interests of employers and promote equal employment opportunity for men and women. https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla
每个州不一样，加州是可以照顾父母，有的州不行。
谢谢告知，那每年都可以三个月了
全美国都一样，都可以照顾父母。https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla#:~:text=FMLA%20is%20designed%20to%20help,opportunity%20for%20men%20and%20women. FMLA applies to all public agencies, all public and private elementary and secondary schools, and companies with 50 or more employees. These employers must provide an eligible employee with up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year for any of the following reasons: For the birth and care of the newborn child of an employee; For placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care; To care for an immediate family member (i.e., spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or To take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition. Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work.
是的，具体你可以问你的单位hr,公司都有具体表格需要你填写，还有你父母的医生填写。也可以分开使用，不需要一次用完三个月，可以只请一个月，或者一次用三个月根据你家老人情况，或者几天等等分多次用完，总共一年只有三个月这种fmla. 你单位会对你说的。
老阿姨再能干也难以照顾四个老人。还是护理院，医养结合的养老院靠谱些
阿姨一听要照顾四个老人就先吓死了。我本来觉得我老公人到中年经常没啥生活经验简直世间少有，现在看来很多网友也跟他是同一挂的。
50岁的身体，每个月来回飞中美？这种强度年轻人都撑不了太久吧
我也是这种想法，这样双方老人可以有个照应，至少有紧急情况可以拨打急救电话
政府可以，大学tenured 应该也可以吧，不过事业上就别指望再往前一步了
是。 这么做先决条件一是四个老人都得能完全自理。阿姨只是去做做饭，做点简单清扫。
否则一个不能自理，或者经常需要去医院的老人至少一个阿姨。
请过阿姨（无论中美），算一下工作量就知道。一个全职阿姨愿意/能给你干多少活。
其次，两家老人得特别合的来，性格，生活习惯，消费习惯都得完全合拍。
性格生活习惯不一样的两家人怎么可能住在一起呢？都太理想化了。
五十歲辭職就是退休了 不如待到55歲再退 夫妻倆人 每人半年分別回去一趟 一年能有四次探望父母 也不覺得累
改善雙方父母的居住品質 打造無障礙的家居空間 如果能夠 兩家老人都去養老院會是最好的選擇
现在才接来照顾不现实啊. 独生子女真是要早规划。
可以住一个小区，两套房子，最好对门，肯定不能住在一起，阿姨请两个来回照顾，倒班。摄像头安上。 需要住院一进医院就对护士说要护工，国内医院有自己训练好的护工，不需要自己找。
辞职了咋才定了一个月回国的机票？
mark~~~~
谨慎辞职，先看看公司有没有什么可以照顾老人福利的假期。多出几次机票 一年轮着多会去几次安排一下。。
太难了，不敢想…,
哇，这个政策真人道，很好很好
re这个
先请假回去看看情况 再做决定吧
半瘫的老人赶紧找个保姆，分担另一个的责任。给钱要到位，即使老人不需要也要给。 癌症的赶紧回去跑医院看治疗方案，陪一陪。家里找个保姆照顾另一个
能用钱解决的都不是问题 情感上觉得需要回去陪伴那是另一个层面的考虑了
国内女的55岁退休，正式工作肯定找不到，男的除非特别牛那类，否则国内现在都提倡早退，那么多年轻人没工作。还是留个工资高的在美国挣钱，另外一个两边跑
真碰上楼主这种情况 搬过来会好一点么？一个半瘫，一个癌症 家里2个小孩要考大学 中坚力量2个人没有帮手忙起来一点也不容易
这种养老问题根本没有最优解
我觉得搬过来应该好一点，各种政府福利补贴到了年限可以申请，隔得近，不用辞职。小孩升大学，自己可以搞定啊。家长就管父母，管挣钱
楼主这情况搬运老人过来，你是认真的吗？
您这一看就是纸上谈兵。
难道夫妻分离，被迫辞职回去更好？中国的年龄歧视不是很严重？
这种房子也不容易碰到啊。你这种相当于小时工，阿姨两家跑做些准备清理工作。
老人真的需要人照顾，肯定是不行的。
其实国内阿姨又不贵，不需要省这个钱吧。北京一个照顾老人的阿姨6800一个月，不到一千美金。一手信息。 这个不算最贵，但是绝对不是便宜的。我知道好多用久的，或者慢慢找的，比这个便宜些。
两个阿姨一个月也不到两千美金。各家请各家的好了。
您好像真的不知道大家在说什么似的。
这个绝对是真理 -- 遇到好用的阿姨保姆，必须花市场价的150%-200%才能长期留下来 -- 这种阿姨一般都不在市面上流通的，一旦被人留用，起码5年内不会再进入市场。
不过这样的阿姨，带娃没问题，但照顾老人体力不一定行 -- 给老人洗澡、翻身，需要一个强壮的男劳力，或者老毛子那种强壮大妈。
我家里老人没有瘫痪，就是不能自理了。保姆一个人可以。但是子女也会经常去探望搭把手。他们还住在老年公寓。有那种按小时算的服务员可以随叫随到搭把手。
现在实际情况就是一个照顾不了四个 送好点的养老院过渡一下也是没办法的事情 这边孩子说大不大说小不小的 你让楼主一家子怎么办？ 已经为了照顾老人一家子两地过了
别的地方不知道，北京给有钱人的阿姨，基本上是正式工， 有假期，工作稳定性和待遇超过大厂。比如影帝谁谁谁家的，还有几个常上电视的大老板家的阿姨，年薪都是几十万的。
有钱人家的阿姨，和照顾老人的保姆不是一个工种，要求简直是完全不一样的。
老人语言不通，没有出行自由，美国人工和医疗那么贵，楼主光是带老人看病都很累，更别说要照顾瘫痪和癌症的病人了。
我觉得楼主还是想办法花钱在国内找人，比如雇佣自己的亲戚，再加上护工，国内退休早，楼主五十岁要上班养孩子，国内的人这个年龄不少都退休开始跳广场舞了，亲戚主要负责监督和安排，护工干体力活。国内老人的吃穿用和医疗，一般老人自己的退休工资和医疗保障应该就能cover，或者大部分cover，楼主在美国守住自己的工作，好好挣工资，把钱拿回国内花还是可以支撑的
家里收入高的留下来，另外一个回去，
家里孩子高中的话，基本可以独立了
反倒是老人，就算有住家保姆，如果没有一个身强力壮的帮着盯着，也很难做到细心照顾
希望楼主一切顺利，也要自己保重！
省会城市的话，看看有没有泰康，听说他家还不错。设施齐全，老人照顾的也还好，费用贵一些，高等级的护理一万多一个月，可以一对老人住一间房子，平均下来价格还凑合。
为什么不用FMLA
子女怎么规划都没用 人家老人健康的时候 更喜欢在国内浪
对。轮流请12周family leave 先照顾着。再看情况。50多回国即使找到工作也要照顾老人，多累啊，顾不来的。
美国的收入扣了税也大概就是支持这么一群帮手。
不用有钱人，我爸爸的护工每天520,节假日三倍，只能论天不论月年，爸爸的情况只能长期用，一年就得二十多万。
大学的话，看能不能申请一学期或者一年 sabbatical ( paid or non-paid) , 然后再看看能不能加上 FMLA ，每个州规定不一样，有些州 employee is entitled to take up to two weeks per year to care for a parent (including parents-in-law), child, or spouse with a serious health condition. Federal law allows an employee up to 12 weeks per year to care for a parent, child, or spouse with a serious health condition. 看你的学校规定怎么样，发考题经常可以谈下来一学期 FMLA ( 不带薪），加上前后的寒暑假。这样四舍五入差不多可以接近两年的 Leave. 降点薪水，但是工作还在，之后再看情况，换spouse 来，或者看国内是不是有长期工作机会。
三个月fmla是无薪的，工作满一年就可以，好像是联邦法律允许的。
可以每年请，不过就离自己辞职不远了。
这是长期工作，请假不现实
对， 我也记得FMLA是对家人【突发性，手术等】疾病看护的，不是父母年老需要人照顾生活，那种可以适用的。那肯定乱套了，人人请，干嘛不请？
懂得给详细说下。
你这一推三五六，真会给自己找台阶。
独居老人雇一个保姆，一对一照顾的过来的。两个老人都在，一个不能自理，另一个也不利索或者性格不好闹腾，保姆一个人照顾两个还要做家务，那肯定不行的，谁来都不行。一般这种情况要送养老院，两个人分开有不同的人照顾。
都不能生活自理了还要啥语言通自由出行啊……我们邻居有个奶奶90多了癌症晚期不能自理长期卧床，住在儿子家里，但每天有护工上门照顾几个小时，不是全天，我听我邻居说是政府报销的，这也比两个国家来回跑好啊
建议国内找个离大医院近的 老年公寓+护理院，两家住就近的两单元互相照顾 吃饭有食堂，每天都有十几个菜，还能单独order想吃东西。 可以在食堂吃，也可以免费送到房间。 有不舒服拉铃找服务员，24小时医生护士值班。
然后再雇一个钟点工送病人去医院做检查化疗。
现在国内养老已经相当成熟，很多教授军官医生住，环境设施都很好，不比国外差。
国外挣钱贴包下养老费用，比回去自己当护工合理多了。
建议请假回去一个月，带着他们看几个养老院，让他们自己选。
只能这样的，这是基于目前信息能做出的最好的决定。当然，以后可能会后悔，如婚姻生变，照顾老人的被累垮、抑郁，照顾孩子的被气疯、崩溃。以后的事，谁预料的到？总不能看着老人等死吧。这就是中年人的悲哀吧。也许一些人的幸福真的是要牺牲另外一些人的才能得到。：-（ 是不是我太悲观了？但这就是我这几年的感受。
怎么能搞得定呢？四个人都搞不定他们家这种情况。3个不能下楼，一个半瘫，还有人有癌症。至少要雇两个护工。
现在你知道好的保姆有多难找？三四线城市，好的，6000+，住家的。这都得要靠运气才能找到。
当地好的养老院其实是个非常好的选择，我们家老人就是不愿意去，觉得名声不好听，而且就是觉得去那里很凄惨，，可是我们给老人租个一楼的离医院近的房子，然后请个专职护理的护工的钱加起来比养老院也差不多了。国内老人想的通的，愿意去养老院的真的不多。估计楼主夫妻要做四个人的思想工作就更不容易了。，
老人不一定愿意是一个原因。
国内养老院不规范，容易出各种问题也是一个原因。
就算这两点都没问题，无论是送养老院，还是请保姆。子女也得在就近在身边。
时不时探望，解决各种问题，帮忙各种决策。想着隔着太平洋把老人往养老院一送或者请个保姆就完事基本上是不可能的。
说托给亲戚的，这个真的得天时地利人和。不是说不可能，但是肯定不是家家都可以实现。你子女都嫌累嫌麻烦的事，咋会觉得亲戚就愿意承担这个重担呢？
至于给亲戚给钱，给房子，版上亲兄弟姐妹在国内照看父母，父母的房子给了兄弟都怕拿了钱不干活，为啥觉得亲戚拿了钱就能尽心尽力呢？
养老如果光需要钱就简单了，需要钱还需要人的，这个人不见得需要做体力活，但一定要会打点安排妥当。老人到了需要养老的时候都糊涂的很。 楼主是双独家庭，没人做主心骨才是最大的问题。
如果工作够年头了，辞职也会有吧。 我记得好像是10年。 然后每干够一个月涨一点。
我不是独生子女啊
但是没钱其他都是空谈