思绪凌乱的时候不妨读一首诗。 *** "Peace begins where each of us can be the way we are." --Burt Hellinger *** "我允许" --伯特·海灵格 我允许任何事情的发生。 我允许，事情是如此的开始， 如此的发展， 如此的结局。 因为我知道，所有的事情， 都是因缘和合而来， 一切的发生，都是必然。 若我觉得应该是另外一种可能， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。 我允许别人如他所是。 我允许，他会有这样的所思所想， 如此的评判我， 如此的对待我。 因为我知道， 他本来就是这个样子， 在他那里，他是对的。 若我觉得他应该是另外一种样子， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。 我允许我有了这样的念头。 我允许，每一个念头的出现， 任它存在， 任它消失。 因为我知道， 念头本身本无意义，与我无关， 它该来会来，该走会走。 若我觉得不应该出现这样的念头， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。 我允许我升起了这样的情绪。 我允许，每一种情绪的发生， 任其发展， 任其穿过。 因为我知道， 情绪只是身体上的觉受，本无好坏。 越是抗拒，越是强烈。 若我觉得不应该出现这样的情绪， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的 就是允许 我允许，我就是这个样子 我允许，我就是这样的表现 我表现如何 就任我表现如何 因为我知道，外在是什么样子， 只是自我的积淀而已。 真正的我，智慧俱足。 若我觉得应该是另外一个样子， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。 我知道， 我是为了生命在当下的体验而来。 在每一个当下时刻， 我唯一要做的，就是 全然地允许， 全然地经历， 全然地体验， 全然地享受。 看，只是看。 允许 一切如其所是。 ****** "Whoever takes his life in this way is in harmony with his origin, in accord with his unique destiny, which is determined, in a broad sense, by his parents. We arrived through our parents… We already existed, otherwise we could not become. And when we die, we don’t disappear either. We are just not visible to the eyes of the living. The foundation of healthy development is reverence for parents, respecting what they mean, and moving forward with life. It doesn’t matter what the parents are like." --Bert Hellinger 海灵格论 自己和父母的关系 https://www.jianshu.com/p/03bd0543a78d
回复 1楼一切都是最好的安排的帖子 “I Allow” --Burt Hellinger I allow it, that's how it started, such a development, Such an ending. Because I know, All things come from karma and harmony, Everything that happens is inevitable. If I think there should be another possibility, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow. I allow others to be who he is. I allow him to think like this, so judge me, Treat me like this. Because I know, He was like this, With him, he was right. If I think he should be another way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow. I allow me to have this thought. I allow every thought that arises, let it exist, Let it go. Because I know, Thought itself is meaningless, it has nothing to do with me, It should come, it should go, If I don't think such thoughts should arise, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow. I allow this emotion to arise. I allow every emotion to happen, let it develop, Let it pass. Because I know, Emotions are just physical sensations, There is no good or bad. The more resisted, the stronger. If I don't think I should be feeling this way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow. I allow me to be like this. I allow it, that's how I behave, How do I behave, Whatever I do. Because I know, What it looks like on the outside is just the accumulation of self. The real me, full of wisdom. If I think it should be another way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow. I know, I am here for the experience of life in the present moment. in every present moment. The only thing I have to do is fully allow, experience completely, experience fully, Enjoy completely. Look, just look. allow everything, As it is. https://www.jianshu.com/p/23fa21e36e7b 大小写分行有点儿乱
***
"Peace begins where each of us can be the way we are."
--Burt Hellinger ***
"我允许" --伯特·海灵格
我允许任何事情的发生。 我允许，事情是如此的开始， 如此的发展， 如此的结局。 因为我知道，所有的事情， 都是因缘和合而来， 一切的发生，都是必然。 若我觉得应该是另外一种可能， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。
我允许别人如他所是。 我允许，他会有这样的所思所想， 如此的评判我， 如此的对待我。 因为我知道， 他本来就是这个样子， 在他那里，他是对的。 若我觉得他应该是另外一种样子， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。
我允许我有了这样的念头。 我允许，每一个念头的出现， 任它存在， 任它消失。 因为我知道， 念头本身本无意义，与我无关， 它该来会来，该走会走。 若我觉得不应该出现这样的念头， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。
我允许我升起了这样的情绪。 我允许，每一种情绪的发生， 任其发展， 任其穿过。 因为我知道， 情绪只是身体上的觉受，本无好坏。 越是抗拒，越是强烈。 若我觉得不应该出现这样的情绪， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的 就是允许
我允许，我就是这个样子 我允许，我就是这样的表现 我表现如何 就任我表现如何 因为我知道，外在是什么样子， 只是自我的积淀而已。 真正的我，智慧俱足。 若我觉得应该是另外一个样子， 伤害的，只是自己。 我唯一能做的， 就是允许。
我知道， 我是为了生命在当下的体验而来。 在每一个当下时刻， 我唯一要做的，就是 全然地允许， 全然地经历， 全然地体验， 全然地享受。 看，只是看。 允许 一切如其所是。
****** "Whoever takes his life in this way is in harmony with his origin, in accord with his unique destiny, which is determined, in a broad sense, by his parents.
We arrived through our parents… We already existed, otherwise we could not become. And when we die, we don’t disappear either. We are just not visible to the eyes of the living.
The foundation of healthy development is reverence for parents, respecting what they mean, and moving forward with life. It doesn’t matter what the parents are like."
--Bert Hellinger
海灵格论 自己和父母的关系 https://www.jianshu.com/p/03bd0543a78d
“I Allow” --Burt Hellinger
I allow it, that's how it started, such a development, Such an ending. Because I know, All things come from karma and harmony, Everything that happens is inevitable. If I think there should be another possibility, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow.
I allow others to be who he is. I allow him to think like this, so judge me, Treat me like this. Because I know, He was like this, With him, he was right. If I think he should be another way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow.
I allow me to have this thought. I allow every thought that arises, let it exist, Let it go. Because I know, Thought itself is meaningless, it has nothing to do with me, It should come, it should go, If I don't think such thoughts should arise, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow.
I allow this emotion to arise. I allow every emotion to happen, let it develop, Let it pass. Because I know, Emotions are just physical sensations, There is no good or bad. The more resisted, the stronger. If I don't think I should be feeling this way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow.
I allow me to be like this. I allow it, that's how I behave, How do I behave, Whatever I do. Because I know, What it looks like on the outside is just the accumulation of self. The real me, full of wisdom. If I think it should be another way, The only one who hurts is himself. The only thing I can do, Just allow.
I know, I am here for the experience of life in the present moment. in every present moment. The only thing I have to do is fully allow, experience completely, experience fully, Enjoy completely. Look, just look. allow everything, As it is.
https://www.jianshu.com/p/23fa21e36e7b 大小写分行有点儿乱
人不能要求别人原谅。 人没有权力去宽恕别人。 慈悲需要勇气面对全部的伤痛。 原谅其实是一种僭越。 我知道你所赐给我的，我十分敬重它。 感恩之心便是不带傲慢的接受。 尊敬必须来自内心深处。 无聊的好奇心表示缺乏对他人的尊重。
海灵格论付出与接受
我们付出的时候，就会决定有权利。 我们接受的时候，就会感到有义务。 回报的责任，我会体验为罪恶。 没有亏欠的压力，我会感到轻松和自由。 当他们要帮助你的时候，你要小心。 带着爱从别人那儿接受的人是谦卑的。 吸入是接受，呼出是付出。 鞠躬也是一种付出。 深深地吐气！那是一种让爱流动的方法。 多一点爱意，少一点恐惧。
海灵格论问题与行动 问题本身往往是解决的方法和动力。 如果描述是正确的，问题应该早已解决。 只要发生了，我们都要客观面对。 我们所犯的错误往往是最好的老师。 每一个行为后面都有其正面动机。 爱是一切行为后面的动力。 事实往往与人们所说的相反。 所有的情绪都是帮助我们成长的。 我们只有在必须行动之前才是自由的。 每个人都有力量面对他的难题。
“尊重命运”，我觉得这一点很赞。
想起了这句话: “悲剧的目的是要引起观众对剧中人物的怜悯 和对变幻无常的 命运 的恐惧, 由此达到净化精神的目的。”
好像有点儿尽人事听天命的意思。
“如果描述是正确的，问题应该早已解决。”
语言 语言 语言
记得女儿小的时候，有一次对她爸爸说：爸爸，别人说的话你要用自己的脑子想一想。爸爸说：怎么想？女儿指着脑袋说：我们老师说的，要先 think. 哈哈。