my local church has a similar case two kids, both parents died, an old guy in the same church adopted both kids. This old guy was my colleague, very gentle, eager to help, always volunteer, a real christian, had a good family. I was so touched at that time. totally agree, 3 is the best option, not only they adopted two kids, they also are good relatives and future spiritual support for them. you find your kids a family, which is the most important
hope for the best, plan for the worst. 先要有好好活，活很久的勇气和愿望，接着着手安排，大孩子15有些州已经可以学开车，尽快让他掌握一些生存技能，帮助他们做好各种可能结果的心理建设。遗嘱尽快立，你的财产分割要弄明白，包括国内没分割清楚的房子。如果前夫这么人渣，你可能需要请国内的律师帮你处理房子，不要怕花钱，这个时候就是花钱买便利。如果孩子留在美国，一定要找好领养家庭，不然他们落入forster care系统一个个家庭轮转，生活会很动荡。身边找些可靠的人，在你需要治疗，住院，甚至最后不能治好的阶段，你会需要很多人的帮助，现在就开口要帮助，美国人善良的多，很多人会愿意无私的帮助你的。 Bless you！
It can be done. A friend of mine is an lawyer in China. She shared the information with me, I then share with a friend, who got divorced this way. The only problem here is how the court document is delivered since you both are in US. The worse case is that the court has to make a public and online announcement to make a success delivery. But, it would only take one month to do so since 2022. So, it can be done online. You may need a lawyer or a family member in China to help you to accelerate the process by calling and visiting the court and judge often to urge them get it done soon.
主要看你相信谁，我立trust时， 有事能监管我财产和娃的是我朋友夫妇. 当时和他们说好了， 除了我娃生活大学费用， 我也算了他们监护费. 我觉得托付他们比托付国内亲人还靠谱. 不管是不是有病， 单亲妈妈， 也需要给娃找个back up.
楼主先不要放弃希望，认真治病。为你祈祷🙏
you are so kind! good for you.
妹子好坚强，佩服！大大的祝福！
2比较好，孩子们可以一起成长，但这也要征求你朋友的意见。如果你离得不远，我愿意领养，和我的孩子一起长大。
首先建议你好好治疗，有的癌症越早治疗越容易控制得好，活着才是孩子和父母的希望，自己求速死只是苦了自己的孩子和父母； 然后和遗嘱律师好好讨论具体事项安排，请专业人士来想办法，不想爸爸抚养是需要有证据的，比如爸爸自愿放弃抚养或者家暴虐待过孩子； 最后你的大孩子已经15，6岁了，可以告诉孩子病情，付清房贷各类贷款，设置好autopay, 开始培养孩子完全独立，学会开车，网购买菜，自己煮饭，模拟一下自己不在家1个月生活上会遇到哪些问题，教给孩子应该怎样处理，什么事情应该去找谁帮助处理，抚养权最好是给你的父母，尽管他们年事已高，只要生活能自理，可以和孩子住在一起，请保姆照顾生活，让大孩子当翻译学会开车支付水电费，请朋友帮助代理一下报税之类的生活杂事，等他们去世的时候或者孩子满18岁的时候，把遗产直接继承给孩子。
只有你的亲身父母才是相对无私的，利益也是一致的，这样可以最大程度的保障你的孩子和你的父母的利益和生活水平，同时帮助他们最大程度避免和其他人产生身后各种纠纷
希望楼主患的不是严重的疾病 别太担心
被层主善心感动，好人一生平安
碰到这种事儿是做父母最最不想的。真的有了孩子想了解自己都没那个权利。太多责任，太多担心，太多不舍。这就是为啥我都劝我孩子不是特别特别喜欢孩子还是别要了。不像以前，现在的人想要幸福度过一生有太多的选择。
你现在要做的就是爱自己， 你活的长， 孩子就享福， 不要操心孩子的事， 要放下。都到了生命的最后关头了， 就不要牵挂这个那个了。
是的， 3最好。
无论如何赶紧把遗嘱立了，律师有模板的，程序很快。 手上的资产包括Life insurance都清楚的列出来安排好。
同觉得，赶紧治病，大孩子15岁了，差不多是懂事和承担一些事情的年纪了。
另外，立好遗嘱，1和3都可以，不知道你和他们交流过没有。
how this ex could even live in this world? shameless
my local church has a similar case
two kids, both parents died, an old guy in the same church adopted both kids. This old guy was my colleague, very gentle, eager to help, always volunteer, a real christian, had a good family. I was so touched at that time.
totally agree, 3 is the best option, not only they adopted two kids, they also are good relatives and future spiritual support for them. you find your kids a family, which is the most important
谢谢您的回复。我想问问有人这样操作过吗？
I know that a friend got divorced this way.
It can be done. A friend of mine is an lawyer in China. She shared the information with me, I then share with a friend, who got divorced this way. The only problem here is how the court document is delivered since you both are in US. The worse case is that the court has to make a public and online announcement to make a success delivery. But, it would only take one month to do so since 2022. So, it can be done online. You may need a lawyer or a family member in China to help you to accelerate the process by calling and visiting the court and judge often to urge them get it done soon.