四岁女儿和我一起看滑冰视频,然后她觉得滑冰很好玩,于是就给报了一周一次的滑冰课,专门给3-5岁零基础的孩子。第一节课当然是在冰上走不起来然后摔了几下。我给她带着头盔和护膝,即使摔一下应该也不会太疼。有四五个老师吧,每个老师带着2-3个孩子。 第二周再上课的时候都准备好了之后女儿就开始哭,说不要进去,我还跟老师们打招呼了说帮忙鼓励鼓励她,结果她不愿意进去,老师呢也没什么努力,说了一下come with us 然后就走了。剩下的时间无论怎么劝说她就是不进冰场。其他小朋友全都进去了,而且貌似比第一节课的时候都有些进步。有一阵子我终于劝说她到冰场门口了,结果她还是哭,我跟一个老师说鼓励她一下结果那个dude就在那儿看着...之后我很生气,老公说你别期望20几岁的dude能干啥,要是有个女老师还好些。第二周的老师全是男老师,第一周有一个女老师。 我现在很frustrated。一共六周的课,即使娃没有兴趣了,等上完这些课以后不再上就是了。现在连几节课都上不了了,而且一个老师带2个孩子,还是能给他们很多关注的,就算她走不起来就站着也行啊,她第一次课上在冰上站着挺稳当的。她看着别的小朋友们在那里面玩儿自己就是不进去。我觉得我的娃现在有点自己想干什么就干什么的趋势,而且figure out只要哭就可以get whatever she wants。我当然也不想强迫她非要滑冰,损失些报名费也没关系,本来也不贵。但是我觉得她应该把课都上了,之后如果不愿意去就不去了,每次课只有30分钟她都拒绝进去,还是她自己觉得好玩儿想要上的,太不负责任了。我现在想真心求教娃妈们,你们有过类似的经历吗,是如何处理的呢?即使没有这样的经历你们有什么建议吗?我在大庭广众之下劝她进冰场,她一个劲儿的哭,我是既无奈又尴尬啊。 ------------------------------ 大家的建议我都认真看了,太感谢了!这个年龄还是真的要跟着孩子的节奏来,以后再试试也不晚。四岁娃是家里老大,我也是刚刚开始给娃报兴趣班,踩坑的开始呵呵。真应该多到这里来多学习一下大家的经验 :)
不要逼啊,试过才知道小孩子是否ready,是否喜欢。 我家老二3岁时报了足球,跟爸爸在线外站了整整一个season。第二年再试,就愿意上去踢了。 同样的老二,4岁时开始试滑冰,第一次就摔出鼻血,哭了好久。老师说,This is the worst fall you will ever have. 我们和老大用糖果奖励他,他才勉强愿意继续。之后越滑越喜欢,要求加课。游泳也类似。 我觉得按娃的节奏来,大家都轻松。
回复 1楼yuangalaxy的帖子 Too young. wait until she's ready. 5 or 6 is not too late. Next time you go with her during public skating time. let her have fun with you first. give her lots of encouragement. I think your daughter is a little overwhelmed, which is normal at this age when trying something new.
This is so normal. My daughter, 4 years old, I signed her up for soccer, the first two classes she just stood there in the edge of the field. The third time she moved a little bit, the fourth time she ran a little bit and had her feet on the ball. She finished the season, half of the time just played the grass. I am still thinking to sign her up for next season. Every time she did better I gave her a reward. In my daughter''''s dance class, this girl didn''''t want to move at all, she stood there for two classes, the first class she watched for 5 min, mom took her out, give her a hug, complimented her and said we will come back next time. Next class, she stood there for 10 mins, mon took her out and complimented her again. The third time she stood for 5 mins, move a little bit for 10 mins, mom took her out, give her big hug and complemented again. Every time the mom was patient and assured her child that she was doing well, never once she pushed her to stay, she had her bye to all the friends and came back every time. If you think it is important, you can continue going and finish the season. if you do not think it is important, switch her to do something else and have her try next year.
不要逼啊,试过才知道小孩子是否ready,是否喜欢。 我家老二3岁时报了足球,跟爸爸在线外站了整整一个season。第二年再试,就愿意上去踢了。 同样的老二,4岁时开始试滑冰,第一次就摔出鼻血,哭了好久。老师说,This is the worst fall you will ever have. 我们和老大用糖果奖励他,他才勉强愿意继续。之后越滑越喜欢,要求加课。游泳也类似。 我觉得按娃的节奏来,大家都轻松。 host 发表于 2023-02-16 03:34
------------------------------ 大家的建议我都认真看了,太感谢了!这个年龄还是真的要跟着孩子的节奏来,以后再试试也不晚。四岁娃是家里老大,我也是刚刚开始给娃报兴趣班,踩坑的开始呵呵。真应该多到这里来多学习一下大家的经验 :)
多谢建议!我和老公都不会滑冰,我看视频完全是欣赏,而且很羡慕会滑冰的,所以看娃感兴趣就赶紧给报了个班。小企鹅和小雪人是专门让小孩冰上推着玩儿的吗?在哪里可以买到呢?我们一开始决定上group class就想着有别的小朋友们一起她还觉得更好玩儿些,也有peer pressure... 现在想想可能刚开始请个私教更好吧。
我也不會滑 也學著上冰的 手拉手的一起站在冰面上 然後教練慢慢教 孩子比較能接受 也不會那麼害怕 小企鵝小雪人那些一般那種室外冰場有. 主要是先讓她玩 教練開始教的時候肯定沒有小企鵝那些的啦
嗯好的,我问问我们这儿能不能租那个推的东西,第一次就直接让她上冰可能是太准备不足了。
谢谢建议! 我自己要是会滑冰就好了...我也是想趁着她个子小的时候学学。
呵呵也是哈:)
我家老二3岁时报了足球,跟爸爸在线外站了整整一个season。第二年再试,就愿意上去踢了。
同样的老二,4岁时开始试滑冰,第一次就摔出鼻血,哭了好久。老师说,This is the worst fall you will ever have. 我们和老大用糖果奖励他,他才勉强愿意继续。之后越滑越喜欢,要求加课。游泳也类似。
我觉得按娃的节奏来,大家都轻松。
Too young. wait until she's ready. 5 or 6 is not too late. Next time you go with her during public skating time. let her have fun with you first. give her lots of encouragement. I think your daughter is a little overwhelmed, which is normal at this age when trying something new.
千万别给娃用推的,用上了就不敢撒手了,除非强迫,那又是一场哭闹
我家娃就是后来没办法换了课,一个完全不给推东西选择的课,也能滑的好好的,但是靠自己就是不敢撒手
In my daughter''''s dance class, this girl didn''''t want to move at all, she stood there for two classes, the first class she watched for 5 min, mom took her out, give her a hug, complimented her and said we will come back next time. Next class, she stood there for 10 mins, mon took her out and complimented her again. The third time she stood for 5 mins, move a little bit for 10 mins, mom took her out, give her big hug and complemented again. Every time the mom was patient and assured her child that she was doing well, never once she pushed her to stay, she had her bye to all the friends and came back every time.
If you think it is important, you can continue going and finish the season. if you do not think it is important, switch her to do something else and have her try next year.
你可与跟着一起学的,我这就是这样,我家四岁的上不上冰都看心情,就是跟着爸爸,也不爱找教练,你自己要是都没办法让她进场教练更难啊
我们冰场的老师明确要求穿少一点,说身体灵活些,学得快。我们default就是一件T,套一件fleece,一条sweat pants,加手套和头盔。娃要是说冷,就把fleece换成winter jacket。
几岁的孩子重心很低,摔了不怎么疼。我家4岁的和7岁的,除了第一次摔出鼻血哭过,其它时候摔了都说一点不疼。我看他们确实是一骨碌爬起来,高兴的继续溜。
差不多,我家三岁足球课大约也就能劝进场1/3,后来就算了,溜冰是他自己想跟着
这不是楼主孩子怕摔吗?冰上自己都走不了关动作灵活啥事。啥时候开始学动作了再少穿吧
就是穿得越多,身体越awkward,才越容易摔啊。我们第一次上冰就按老师要求来的。
费心费力费爸费妈费钱还费娃 真的是超级得不偿失
LZ 你可以问问冰场 可不可以 把课时费用 转成credit? 一般学校都不会特别强求孩子的 平时可以带娃去玩玩,没有学会压力那种的
那只能说老师不同要求不同,我们这里对level 1 and 2的孩子都建议snow bibs,容易摔,这些衣服都防水,还厚。 如果孩子小,刚开始学的孩子,动作慢,摔了也不会疼
我们这的课不是这样的,老师在冰场外教他们摔倒后怎么站起来,然后小朋友们就排队进去了。您那里的项目听起来更适合小孩子。
我的天哪,听上去就疼死了。。 可怜
很多这样的case 其实孩子大一点的家长都知道 硬推是推不动的 孩子大人都痛苦 朋友的娃3岁半学琴 学了两年放弃了 现在10岁自己和妈妈提要求想学琴 大人孩子都开心
对的。除非游泳这种保命的,其他活动都先跟娃商量一下。到年龄了,他们会同意的
孩子还没有ready, 等长大一点吧,别着急
唉,抱抱,真闹心啊!我自己滑冰骨折过,也不大敢让娃学了。
我娃遗传我的基因毫无体育细胞可言,任何运动学得都非常吃力。 我们在他5岁时给报的20人一组的大课。每次10:30上完30分钟的课,我和老公就带他去公园玩一会儿,吃点东西放松一下。等1PM 那场 open to public session开始,我们全家一起滑,跌跌撞撞,大菜鸟带小菜鸟(我以前在国内只会滑旱冰,就是一只鞋子上有2排轮子的那种)。每场1个半小时,我们仨练差不多一小时。娃回家吃嘛嘛香,晚上倒头就睡。
一个冬天下来,娃基本会自己滑了,我也能倒滑了(为了让小娃往前走,我就得倒退)。所以啊,陪伴胜过上课!
亲身体验,凡是陪着孩子玩/ 练的自行车、羽毛球、滑冰、排球,现在他都玩得不错,没有陪的游泳、网球、足球只搞了2期都没坚持/ 学好。
另外,我觉得学会了滑冰,学ski和 snow board 也有了基础,学起来身体平衡、腿的控制比较得心应手