回复 31楼FunFun0101的帖子 He replied on APP today, explained something. I was happy about it, as I think I was not wrong about him. But I have been feeling better, he is not the right one, his ADD is hard to deal for long term.
回复 36楼kakababy666的帖子 His ADD symptoms are so obvious and typical, from the beginning... he could not hide it at all. Everyone's ADD symptoms are different, especially if on treatment....
回复 31楼FunFun0101的帖子 He replied on APP today, explained something. I was happy about it, as I think I was not wrong about him. But I have been feeling better, he is not the right one, his ADD is hard to deal for long term. AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:34
回复 77楼redleslie的帖子 No, he lived in a hotel most of the time, did not want to take advantage from me, only the last a few nights, after he met my families...
回复 114楼hrguoke的帖子 To be fair, I did not lose a cent, he paid all the bills during the few days at my home, was very nice to my son too, advised me to knock my teenager son's door before entry to his room, etc... my son likes him too....
回复 77楼redleslie的帖子 No, he lived in a hotel most of the time, did not want to take advantage from me, only the last a few nights, after he met my families... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:41
He lived in hotel in most time so he has more freedom to do other things, see other people
回复 133楼likepeace的帖子 For me, love always comes first, he said without emotional connection, he can't have sex at all.... I believed him anyway LOL... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:52
回复 114楼hrguoke的帖子 To be fair, I did not lose a cent, he paid all the bills during the few days at my home, was very nice to my son too, advised me to knock my teenager son's door before entry to his room, etc... my son likes him too.... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:48
回复 133楼likepeace的帖子 For me, love always comes first, he said without emotional connection, he can't have sex at all.... I believed him anyway LOL... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:52
回复 148楼Idonia的帖子 No, he did not mention it by himself. I believe he was planning to come back to Sydney truly, then he was unwell, had pneumonia, COVID, coughing on and off for almost 2 month, got new plans for work, not realistic to come in March... he did not want to waste my time anymore, so told me not to wait for him... I thought he was dating other women while I was waiting for him, so all my time was worth nothing, but today he said he only logged in to check my profile a few days ago since he told me not to wait for him. From my gut feeling, I believe him although it does not matter anymore. I will move on, not really need a man in my life.... He will be always a good man with traumatic history, my heart aches for his suffering.... wish him all the best, meet someone like me, willing to accept his ADD, look after his health and life..... love him as deep as me.....
回复 151楼bhuahua的帖子 Some of his photos not handsome at all... depends on the angle..LOL We had good connection and amazing chemistry for sure.... sadly it ended this way....
回复 156楼VanilaiceCream的帖子 I had the happiest 4months while he was in my life, for the last 10 years at least... so I will always remember the beautiful moments with him...
回复 156楼VanilaiceCream的帖子 I had the happiest 4months while he was in my life, for the last 10 years at least... so I will always remember the beautiful moments with him... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 18:22
回复 165楼想唱就唱的帖子 He looks totally fine, only when he takes his clothes off and I paid extreme attention then I noticed. ADHD is a severe mental health disease for sure from my research.... So the fact he is not coming back to Sydney, I take it as a blessing in disguise....
回复 114楼hrguoke的帖子 To be fair, I did not lose a cent, he paid all the bills during the few days at my home, was very nice to my son too, advised me to knock my teenager son's door before entry to his room, etc... my son likes him too.... AUNUI 发表于 2023-01-31 16:48
回复 184楼joinlily的帖子 He sent a lot of photos of course, and videos too. The day he was not happy because we just had video talk on the same day and he just sent me some photos.
不少香港混血的爹都是这种,很多亚女发现孩子将来还能当明星,就又前赴后继的被白男耍了。别说这种就是亚洲多,文化平和,所以是白垃圾天堂。穆斯林女,老毛女啥的就彪悍多了,白垃圾不敢招惹。
因为我就是一个体力劳动者,工会会员,工作不固定,这个工地干几个月,那个工地干几个月,接触的老外比较多,没事时就爱谈那些话题。
我也同意你。去年去市法院打官司,看到过几个吸毒的白人(年轻的小夫妻),男女都是一副要翻白眼仰过去的样子,说话的时候脑袋一抽一抽的。
再加上你说的细节,哎!吸毒太毁人了。
先把自己的需要放在第一位,学会爱自己,以后感情的路才会更顺利。
经历好丰富啊~~ 我感觉我常年WFH,人都要呆傻了LOL
看来很多人不是渣,是有病ADD!
这不算半个残疾人了吗?而且才40,50岁就已经不能正常坐着要躺着,那再过几年不得坐轮椅了?楼主这么想不开,要找个残疾老头给他养老送终吗?
突然想起,找另外一半,不管是结婚还是男女朋友,还是找国人比较好,你看灭绝师太一出来,大家都明白啥意思,你找个老外,你怎么向她/他解释灭绝师太,LOL
祝福你找到那个能互相爱护的人
哈哈哈。
我们这个年纪,修成灭绝师太也没啥,好歹做了一派掌门。男同胞就惨了,一把年纪,当年也是浑身十八般武艺啊,最后在老婆的看管下,生生混成了扫地僧,这找谁说理去?
所以说趁年轻的时候要尽情挥洒武功啊,不然到了50,空有一身武艺,无处施展,就变丐世英雄了
主要他就是玩一票
赶紧找个心理咨询师疏导一下吧 不要允许他人的ADD搅乱你的生活和摧毁你的心理健康啊
他根本不值得你去付出真心真情 付出的就付出了吧,比如花出去的时间和金钱,至少有过短期的甜蜜的体验 现在和未来的资源,赶紧想办法止损吧
不过还是羡慕有燃烧的能力和愿望,祝你早日找到真爱。
谢谢分享 涨知识了
其实都还好。生福丰富性恋爱脑好,但灭绝老太安全,恋爱脑极端情况可能丢命的。
"某次不幸意外吸入化学物品后差点放弃治疗,吃激素一年", 听你这麽一说还真有可能吸毒。
因为那人has nothing to lose, 所以不care啊
我真好奇LZ怎麽会爱上这样的男人,脊柱有问题,背部一边的肌肉明显比另一边的强壮,平常工作都是躺着,从外表看就第一眼被淘汰啊,还ADD精神不稳定。楼主为这样的男人倒贴真不可理喻。
Totally agree with you!
同意,这和出去旅游,体验值高,但有些人怕出意外宁愿一辈子呆家里的道理差不多,我是体验派,所以我喜欢旅游,也支持恋爱脑
醒醒吧, 楼主。ADD+玩家,脾气差。早点move on, 他太不值得你了。
He replied on APP today, explained something. I was happy about it, as I think I was not wrong about him. But I have been feeling better, he is not the right one, his ADD is hard to deal for long term.
His ADD symptoms are so obvious and typical, from the beginning... he could not hide it at all.
Everyone's ADD symptoms are different, especially if on treatment....
嗯 如果这能安慰到你也行。 只是你还有孩子呢,以后别随便领男人进家门,安全意识也要有点长进吧。
No, he lived in a hotel most of the time, did not want to take advantage from me, only the last a few nights, after he met my families...
He was a medical student from IVY LEAGUE, no way..... I have medical background in China too, not stupid in that way LOL.
To be fair, I did not lose a cent, he paid all the bills during the few days at my home, was very nice to my son too, advised me to knock my teenager son's door before entry to his room, etc... my son likes him too....
He lived in hotel in most time so he has more freedom to do other things, see other people
is it lust or is it love?
Of course, I am not stupid in that way, he is the only person I took home....Thanks for your kind reminder...
For me, love always comes first, he said without emotional connection, he can't have sex at all.... I believed him anyway LOL...
I don't think so, as he booked all hotels close to me... I stayed in the hotel with him sometimes.....
You are so naive to believe him or any other men saying that, LOL
:) Google the difference between lust and love🤔
这人不靠谱,跟ADHD有什么关系。。
STD症状之一就是oral herpes / cold sore,楼主最好去检查一下,不要自己假设“应该没有”,这不像是“有医学背景”的人说得出来的话…
I have had cold sore for many years LOL.....
久旱逢甘霖,干柴烈火就是这样啊
最不认可的是把才认识不久的男人带回家 让孩子知道并认识。
是你问他对一夜情的看法还是他自己主动提的? 如果没有问也没有语境,他特意提这个正好可以佐证他在性关系上很开放。 就像绝大部分男的不会在没有被问到的前提下,主动去跟女朋友说,“我从来不会对女孩子动手。”说这话的人要不是掩饰他自己脾气暴躁。要不就不尊重女性,认为自己不以强欺弱动手就已经很好。 block 与否只是很无关紧要的一个小决定。他明显已经move on了。楼主不用占在原地等他回头,这么不对等的感情不值得。祝愿楼主早日找到合适的那一个。
Never say never. Ha-ha.
的确,same to me
同意。。聪明的ADD对感情有依赖性的,因为知道自己的不足,往往找到能相互包容,性格互补的人。
年轻的时候都没恋爱脑,不可能5,60了爱的死去活来,我还担心别人惦记我钱呢😛
No, he did not mention it by himself.
I believe he was planning to come back to Sydney truly, then he was unwell, had pneumonia, COVID, coughing on and off for almost 2 month, got new plans for work, not realistic to come in March... he did not want to waste my time anymore, so told me not to wait for him... I thought he was dating other women while I was waiting for him, so all my time was worth nothing, but today he said he only logged in to check my profile a few days ago since he told me not to wait for him.
From my gut feeling, I believe him although it does not matter anymore. I will move on, not really need a man in my life.... He will be always a good man with traumatic history, my heart aches for his suffering.... wish him all the best, meet someone like me, willing to accept his ADD, look after his health and life..... love him as deep as me.....
Some of his photos not handsome at all... depends on the angle..LOL
We had good connection and amazing chemistry for sure.... sadly it ended this way....
I had the happiest 4months while he was in my life, for the last 10 years at least... so I will always remember the beautiful moments with him...
只有八个礼拜吧,他12月初回美国后不都是焦灼的等待吗?认识4个月,一半时间断断续续见几面,一半时间靠心存念想,这也能happiest?
Lz你可能是过去十年太压抑了,一个约炮的就让你感受到了生活的温暖。你爱上了一个自己想象中的人而已。其他没什么,这是你自己的生活。但奉劝一句日后不要把没有跟你结婚意向的男人带回家介绍给孩子认识。不但对孩子心理健康无益,万一发生危险你后悔都来不及。
握爪
这算残疾吗?
He looks totally fine, only when he takes his clothes off and I paid extreme attention then I noticed.
ADHD is a severe mental health disease for sure from my research.... So the fact he is not coming back to Sydney, I take it as a blessing in disguise....
Or take drugs if he took drugs
ADHD不是严重的疾病啊,我一紧张反而没法集中,感觉也是严重的ADHD,如果出生在美国,估计也是ADHD。
恋爱脑,这跟年纪没关系啊,就像有些女的,在怎么样,都是一副小女人的模样。
还在为他开脱,还在做梦。。
这有什么好奇的,不就是张爱玲说的那样嘛
张爱玲怎么说的
感觉陷入热恋的只有你。。。。。。对方并不是。
哈哈哈又残忍又真实!
自己去查,估计张爱玲当时和楼主有同样的感受,只是她能很文艺地表达出来。 唉,可悲的是张爱玲死的很凄惨
阴道论
张爱玲的这个理论啊,没想到,楼主并没有特别迷恋对方的身体。
Exactly what I have experienced and I researched.....
Long distance is not working, we are not waiting for each other anymore.
YD论只有在女人遇到心动男人的时候才成立
所有人热恋之后都会渐渐冷淡了吧,只不过时间长了精神上会建立一些attachment。
然后玩腻了, 就找借口离开了。 他出去玩, 不主动发照片, 就是对你没有什么感情。
这种人dating app 上太多了。
1 “虐恋” 不准确,虐恋的定义是相互虐来虐去,他虐你,你虐他。这里,只有你虐你自己
2 ADHD 的典型症状是attention的问题,不是多巴胺和荷尔蒙分泌的问题。恋爱的人,只要多巴胺和荷尔蒙分泌正常,都能很好的进入relatiosnhip,而且也可以last very long
3 他这样的高智商,对女人,基本是降维打击,知道女人喜欢听什么,做什么,piece of cake,都是套路
lz你觉得自己有什么吸引他的地方吗?这个年纪,除了肉体的和谐,精神上能够在一个level 相互欣赏更加重要,你觉得你们能够在精神层面上沟通吗? 最后,华人女生很多说白男友多帅多帅的,我耳朵听了都要起老茧了,lz 如果不介意的话上一张帅哥照骗看看:)
楼主动心动的恨不得挖出来献给炮友了。
想帮炮友补裤子上的破洞,给他买新衣服,想照顾他一生一世,现在知道被甩了,还祝福他找到一个和自己一样深爱他的女人。。。
裤子上有破洞衣服上有stain,这不可能是一个外表吸引人的男人该有的状态啊,到底心动在哪里了。
母爱 :)
这种我见得多了,包括我自己也是,来得快,去得快,2个月~2年后审美疲劳了,P都不是,男女之间要长久还是要靠感情基础,刚开始的干柴烈火说明不了什么问题
你这个当妈妈的太不称职了。这么短时间就把一个Date带回去给孩子介绍,这对他们生活的影响很大
“我今生没有别的希望,我只希望,能多日几个女人,〈和〉各地方的女人接触”。 一个社会地位跟文学成就如此之高的人,竟然也有这样的想法。
所以,现代社会里面,有网络有APP的男人有什么想法,一目了然。(也不能全部否定,应该也有很多人是为了找另外一半,不是YP)
你再呆久点,就会发现很多帖子里面,“我今生没有别的希望,我只希望,能多日几个女人,〈和〉各地方的女人接触”。男人一词改成女人也不少见LOL
He sent a lot of photos of course, and videos too.
The day he was not happy because we just had video talk on the same day and he just sent me some photos.
有这个想法不对吗?爱情与性,特别是两者的结合,是多么美妙的东西,美妙的东西,想多尝试,有什么不对?更何况,这是人类原始内在的冲动,没有这种冲动,人类也不会繁衍和进化到现在这个地步。
你说的季老的日记,还有另外一个故事,当时出版社为了尊重季老的形象,和季老商量,是否要把这段删掉,但季老说,尊重历史,原文一字不改
但也有另外一种说法,季老说的是同不是日,不过在我看来,没啥区别,就是用词不一样而已,但意思还是一样