今天看到一个美国top university 的招生工作人员的帖子,分享给有高中生的家长

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pearlgirl
楼主 (北美华人网)
觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

 

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海棠花开
309 楼
如果连学习这么简单的事情都做不好,那么谁他妈的要被你领导?
wisfan 发表于 2022-06-12 15:03

说的好!越来越看不惯白人的夸夸其谈,从小就是如此,正经学习不愿意花时间,整天搞小团体
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snowhite1026
308 楼
mark一下 多谢
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Kongbai2019
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有必要都挤进去吗
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springtree2
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不知道国内多难,美国ap 我高二是拿不了四分的。 https://apcentral.collegeboard.org/courses/ap-calculus-bc/exam/past-exam-questions


page394 发表于 2022-06-13 21:11

因为国内没有学微积分啊,以后国内高中也要学微积分了 我娃不是理科娃,学AP微积分bc和AP物理c,A和五分应该没问题
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corfarm
305 楼
国内物理太简单了。
zhegufei 发表于 2022-06-13 10:10

同意。这边物理不说别的,教材都非常好,认真学了以后比较容易明白,理解也更透彻。当然也看学校和老师,很多地方也是混混而已

 

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fino819
总结:不够变态极端偏执的我们都不爱招!
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3906
觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

pearlgirl 发表于 2022-06-12 09:52

一个再低微的人,当他能决定别人命运的时候,会莫名感觉自己厉害了。power真是能改变一个人的思维
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SkyJapan
如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
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Beautifulday8
mark一下 多谢
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bernard123
我来总结,就是好的学生很多,但是他们要选学生让整个class diversify, 要有不同talent,不同背景的,包括地理位置等。赶快搬家到阿拉斯加,puerto rico
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bernard123
如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
SkyJapan 发表于 2022-06-12 09:57

他文章里的那个没录取的女生是黑人吧,immigrated from Nigeria.
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momosun
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
其实美国top学校选拔的不是现在最优秀的学生,而是在选拔将来最可能优秀的学生。按这个逻辑就明白了。这种成绩好,钢琴好,竞赛好,按部就班优秀的学生,将来会成为很不错的上中产,但很难成为未来社会的领导者。这些逆境出身或者豪门出身的学生,将来成功的可能性确实更大。
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饿
我感觉都是扯淡,捐个几百万试试
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Fhu
总结:不够变态极端偏执的我们都不爱招!
fino819 发表于 2022-06-12 09:53

偏执狂的确是人类进步的主要动力
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page394
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
其实美国top学校选拔的不是现在最优秀的学生,而是在选拔将来最可能优秀的学生。按这个逻辑就明白了。这种成绩好,钢琴好,竞赛好,按部就班优秀的学生,将来会成为很不错的上中产,但很难成为未来社会的领导者。这些逆境出身或者豪门出身的学生,将来成功的可能性确实更大。
momosun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:02

很有道理。
麻荚子
家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
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CK
觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

pearlgirl 发表于 2022-06-12 09:52

其实说的是大实话。我自己都不爱和书呆一起玩,无论这人学习又多牛。
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Securities
家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
麻荚子 发表于 2022-06-12 10:12

我觉得要积极看待老师的评语,老师看到别的礼仪问题,不提醒,其实家长孩子没有改进的机会。可以跟老师发个信,问问具体什么样的情境,以及如何改进。这个世界上背后说人的太多了,当面质疑和理论的人太少,而这些才是很珍贵的让自己变得更好的机会
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Securities
说的没错,中产的娃要么超能超厉害,要么就安心读中产的大学,走中产的路。
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yanle
我来总结,就是好的学生很多,但是他们要选学生让整个class diversify, 要有不同talent,不同背景的,包括地理位置等。赶快搬家到阿拉斯加,puerto rico
bernard123 发表于 2022-06-12 09:59

很好的总结,所以亚裔内卷的厉害。说白了,现在很多大学就是skin color diversity.
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Chihiro77
其实隔壁大妈的帖子说的是事实嘛 结果大家一顿喷 这些坐在招生办的人就是在找与众不同的简历
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shoppingisfun
一个再低微的人,当他能决定别人命运的时候,会莫名感觉自己厉害了。power真是能改变一个人的思维
3906 发表于 2022-06-12 09:55

什么叫做低微的人?这个admission officer吗?他/她们是挣钱比你少呢还是学历比你低,就不配做这么重要的事情?
EA录取率高,这不是她定的,profile多样性,这也不是她定的。她就是个执行者,好心告诉你这些标准,居然觉得人家“低微”?就昨天,有楼主好心分享儿子stand out,还批的人一堆。。。。大家都这种profile,你不standout有个p用。


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bunnyshe
Who cares? 这个nobody自己啥学历
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hf.w
是这样的
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shoppingisfun
总结:不够变态极端偏执的我们都不爱招!
fino819 发表于 2022-06-12 09:53

但有斯坦福放前面,我想绝大多数的人都还是想和这些变态极端偏执为伍的吧。
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Hb9988
谢谢分享!
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jimjohn
一个再低微的人,当他能决定别人命运的时候,会莫名感觉自己厉害了。power真是能改变一个人的思维
3906 发表于 2022-06-12 09:55

这些学校都是惯出来的毛病。如果绝大多数学业好的学生都不申请这些个破学校,看他们还拽不。
真没必要捧这个臭脚,上个州立,享受人生,对孩子身心都好。
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wacxg
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
其实美国top学校选拔的不是现在最优秀的学生,而是在选拔将来最可能优秀的学生。按这个逻辑就明白了。这种成绩好,钢琴好,竞赛好,按部就班优秀的学生,将来会成为很不错的上中产,但很难成为未来社会的领导者。这些逆境出身或者豪门出身的学生,将来成功的可能性确实更大。
momosun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:02

自己国家连个合格螺丝钉都培养不出来,要靠大量移民。还指望什么领袖。多少科技新贵都是外来移民。当年美国和苏联冷战的时候,绝对是看重成绩的,现在被牛鬼蛇神搞坏了。
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shoppingisfun
自己国家连个合格螺丝钉都培养不出来,要靠大量移民。还指望什么领袖。多少科技新贵都是外来移民。当年美国和苏联冷战的时候,绝对是看重成绩的,现在被牛鬼蛇神搞坏了。
wacxg 发表于 2022-06-12 10:48

提醒一下美国就是一个移民国家,华人网上的绝大多数都是靠着科技新贵过来的。你也别嘲笑别人,别自己找工作,那可要中餐馆丰富回国直达的大城市,但又有几个肯为了娃搬家到蒙大拿。
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Stella
如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
SkyJapan 发表于 2022-06-12 09:57

这个可是个黑女啊
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kingboo
这个可是个黑女啊
Stella 发表于 2022-06-12 10:55

这位没进斯坦福的原因是斯坦福ED的时候这种人招太多了,人最后不也还是进了普林
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kingboo
如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
SkyJapan 发表于 2022-06-12 09:57

说得有道理啊,不能一个班全是弹钢琴数学竞赛的,不能全班都是BLM,也不能全班都是来自纽约的。
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zz99
回复 12楼的帖子
你确定你没有被你娃忽悠吗 老师的评语和你娃说的是正好相反的两回事啊 老师的评语难道不是正是在说你娃有时学习不专心,讲不该讲的吗?
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wacxg
提醒一下美国就是一个移民国家,华人网上的绝大多数都是靠着科技新贵过来的。你也别嘲笑别人,别自己找工作,那可要中餐馆丰富回国直达的大城市,但又有几个肯为了娃搬家到蒙大拿。
shoppingisfun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:55

你这理解力,我嘲笑的是新贵吗?
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zlf
其实说的是大实话。我自己都不爱和书呆一起玩,无论这人学习又多牛。
CK 发表于 2022-06-12 10:15

玩,当然不能找书呆子,看病,你会找会玩的黑人墨西哥医生吗?
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lazycat12345
我来总结,就是好的学生很多,但是他们要选学生让整个class diversify, 要有不同talent,不同背景的,包括地理位置等。赶快搬家到阿拉斯加,puerto rico
bernard123 发表于 2022-06-12 09:59

re 学校注重的是让每一个进来的人都感到舒服。 大家各有所长,相互学习,尽量不要一个全方位卷另一个。 至于没进来的,学校就不考虑了
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anne121
回复 9楼饿的帖子
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Spypond
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
这些admission officers基本上都是losers with capital L。他们工资普遍不高,一般能找到其他工作的不愿意做下去,人员流动性很大。培养孩子的问题上听他们的真的不如听华人大妈的。
从另一个角度说,中国的高科技企业家都是死读书出来的,没看出来他们比美国高科技企业家差在哪里。像张一鸣这样的,只是因为他在中国,美国没什么人吹他而已。现在美国大学录取的这些东西基本都是胡扯。
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Gaoxin1982
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
美国再这么瞎jb 搞下去,今后被中国爆菊是早晚的事。估计现在中国在偷着乐呢。
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anne121
回复 12楼麻荚子的帖子
有点歧视的味 见不得人家娃好 鸡蛋里挑骨头
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NJ橘猫
我觉得要积极看待老师的评语,老师看到别的礼仪问题,不提醒,其实家长孩子没有改进的机会。可以跟老师发个信,问问具体什么样的情境,以及如何改进。这个世界上背后说人的太多了,当面质疑和理论的人太少,而这些才是很珍贵的让自己变得更好的机会
Securities 发表于 2022-06-12 10:18

不能凡事都是华人自己的问题。如果全班华人小孩都是这种负面的评价,在职场上肯定就是歧视。跪太久了不知道怎么站起来也是个问题
他文章里的那个没录取的女生是黑人吧,immigrated from Nigeria.
bernard123 发表于 2022-06-12 10:01

我觉得她提这个例子是有用意的,而且特意提到小孩的母国,就是面对可能是质疑
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angelawang620
一个再低微的人,当他能决定别人命运的时候,会莫名感觉自己厉害了。power真是能改变一个人的思维
3906 发表于 2022-06-12 09:55

上个大学而已,还不足以决定孩子的未来
我来总结,就是好的学生很多,但是他们要选学生让整个class diversify, 要有不同talent,不同背景的,包括地理位置等。赶快搬家到阿拉斯加,puerto rico
bernard123 发表于 2022-06-12 09:59

差不多,我感觉就是先过滤出比较优秀的选手,再挑出长板分布在谱系各段的,最后生成一个尽可能多样化的群体。
多样化的群体对学生本身以及学校都是最有利的,对学生来说利于取长补短,对学校来说鸡蛋都分在不同的篮子里。我如果管招收也会秉承这样的思路。
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PrettyMaJia
觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

pearlgirl 发表于 2022-06-12 09:52

Mark~~
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volume
我觉得要积极看待老师的评语,老师看到别的礼仪问题,不提醒,其实家长孩子没有改进的机会。可以跟老师发个信,问问具体什么样的情境,以及如何改进。这个世界上背后说人的太多了,当面质疑和理论的人太少,而这些才是很珍贵的让自己变得更好的机会
Securities 发表于 2022-06-12 10:18

确实是这样。家长应该反思一下。无则加勉,有则改之。老师告诉你是真的对你好,如果真看不上你人家不告诉你但推荐信写的差你也不知道。还有就是老中家庭出来的孩子在manners 方面是不太相同。这个好多大人自己意识不到。举个例子。几个孩子来我家玩,吃完东西五岁白人孩子坐在餐桌前吃,然后自己就把餐具收拾好放进水槽。11岁和9岁老中娃从来都是摊在那里不管的、还到处走着吃。这些是小事,但是从侧面说明白人家里从小规矩多。
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teablackeye
diversity本身没错,春秋战国时期的百家争鸣,就是学术流派的diversity,然而今天的diversity,在政治正确的指挥棒下,变成了skin color的diversity
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Gaoxin1982
提醒一下美国就是一个移民国家,华人网上的绝大多数都是靠着科技新贵过来的。你也别嘲笑别人,别自己找工作,那可要中餐馆丰富回国直达的大城市,但又有几个肯为了娃搬家到蒙大拿。
shoppingisfun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:55

移民靠的是人心,是believe 。当大家觉得这个系统有问题,不愿意来了,这个系统就崩溃了。满清的八旗子弟,从骁勇善战,到骄奢淫逸,也就两三百年的时间。
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shzbc
谢谢分享。
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jpbabyking
觉得diversity很重要, 不同教育,背景,地理, 种族,也是一种财富平衡。要不你也搬到Montana去?
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warmhug
所以说到一定level进了一定的pool之后,最后是不是录取就是pure luck
一个人玩儿
确实是这样。家长应该反思一下。无则加勉,有则改之。老师告诉你是真的对你好,如果真看不上你人家不告诉你但推荐信写的差你也不知道。还有就是老中家庭出来的孩子在manor 方面是不太相同。这个好多大人自己意识不到。举个例子。几个孩子来我家玩,吃完东西五岁白人孩子坐在餐桌前吃,然后自己就把餐具收拾好放进水槽。11岁和9岁老中娃从来都是摊在那里不管的、还到处走着吃。这些是小事,但是从侧面说明白人家里从小规矩多。
volume 发表于 2022-06-12 11:23

我家也是自己收拾, 并且她做的很多事去学校问一圈白人小孩都不自己做,真的不是规矩多, 单纯家长懒, 白人带孩子散养, 怎么自己方便就怎么来了。
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sea9
觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

pearlgirl 发表于 2022-06-12 09:52

谢谢分享,很有启发
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happy3001
不要迷信名校,现在资源很多,只要有能耐就不会被埋没。
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nakamoto
转的帖子是舞蹈。如果这个黑人学生各方方面真是这么好的话肯定是横扫大藤。这个招生办的学校觉得没法竞争,只能放弃了。
以前读过点Excellent Sheep。上面说1960年以前的大藤基本上不看中学成绩。就是拼爹。哈佛1950年的录取率为10/13。每13个申请可以录取10个。哥伦比亚有犹太人quota,不能超过这个数。老百姓不是不知道大藤,只是都有自知之明,没有拼爹的实力都不去申请而已。
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happy3001
觉得diversity很重要, 不同教育,背景,地理, 种族,也是一种财富平衡。要不你也搬到Montana去?
jpbabyking 发表于 2022-06-12 11:27

马丁路德金都说不要看种族,你们非要说种族重要。奥巴马女儿比你孩子需要种族优待吗?照顾底层家庭还算合理,看肤色纯属政治垃圾。
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lazycat12345
自己国家连个合格螺丝钉都培养不出来,要靠大量移民。还指望什么领袖。多少科技新贵都是外来移民。当年美国和苏联冷战的时候,绝对是看重成绩的,现在被牛鬼蛇神搞坏了。
wacxg 发表于 2022-06-12 10:48

那是美国中小学教育太烂了。。
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马丁路德金都说不要看种族,你们非要说种族重要。奥巴马女儿比你孩子需要种族优待吗?照顾底层家庭还算合理,看肤色纯属政治垃圾。
happy3001 发表于 2022-06-12 11:45

O8的女兒不需要靠膚色 她爸是美國總統 政治權力地位 白皮也會有特殊待遇
找deal
我觉得说的没错啊,举个例子一个中产家庭被栽培出的好孩子,和一个虽然草根出生但知道自己要什么并且非常努力朝着这样的梦想努力的孩子,我也会选后者啊,明显动力更足潜力更大
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jpbabyking
马丁路德金都说不要看种族,你们非要说种族重要。奥巴马女儿比你孩子需要种族优待吗?照顾底层家庭还算合理,看肤色纯属政治垃圾。
happy3001 发表于 2022-06-12 11:45

哪看你怎么理解这句话, 不看种族也可以理解成就是接受种族的diversity,
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找deal
不要迷信名校,现在资源很多,只要有能耐就不会被埋没。
happy3001 发表于 2022-06-12 11:42

可以争取当然争取,这么说家长的大部分是要么没进入过名校,要么进入了名校也不懂用人脉资源的。出了学校当然也能攒人脉,但是难度可比学校大多了,在学校里不管出身如何,相对平等容易建立革命友情,在社会上的等级划分门槛高多了
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m口罩sk
觉得diversity很重要, 不同教育,背景,地理, 种族,也是一种财富平衡。要不你也搬到Montana去?
jpbabyking 发表于 2022-06-12 11:27

不光是这样,对于接受高等教育的学生来说,在校期间跟diverse的人打交道,是enriched experience,益处远超过于homogeneous环境下的教育,这是有research supported的结论。 diversity本意在此。
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usayso
我只知道再优秀都比不上有一身好肤色
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CBOE
多谢!。。。。。
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xiang2010
Mark...................
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bigmoney
转的帖子是舞蹈。如果这个黑人学生各方方面真是这么好的话肯定是横扫大藤。这个招生办的学校觉得没法竞争,只能放弃了。
以前读过点Excellent Sheep。上面说1960年以前的大藤基本上不看中学成绩。就是拼爹。哈佛1950年的录取率为10/13。每13个申请可以录取10个。哥伦比亚有犹太人quota,不能超过这个数。老百姓不是不知道大藤,只是都有自知之明,没有拼爹的实力都不去申请而已。
nakamoto 发表于 2022-06-12 11:42

文章里说的是ED的学校。RD阶段,看到这样条件的黑人女孩,明显会进大藤的,ED学校招了也不会来,不招这种是正常操作
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COA
其实说的是大实话。我自己都不爱和书呆一起玩,无论这人学习又多牛。
CK 发表于 2022-06-12 10:15

绝大多数是学习牛的都不书呆,高中有两个书呆学习就是中上
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COA
美国大学申请太多不确定,前两年挺爱看油管上高中生拍自己申请结果的,不少被大多数牛校拒了,最后收到某一大牛校的offer
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shoppingisfun
横扫大藤的也不一定,就如ao说的,已经ed了类似的,rd的就会考虑放弃这个学生,除非他/她有碾压其他学生的超强项。
从我个人经验来说,aa上来的学生,真的啥样的都有,带起来累,但有共同一点就是能成事。亚洲的孩子,苦出生的那是又聪明又能干。其他的中产娃儿,要学会做事,还有比较长的路要走。

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家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
麻荚子 发表于 2022-06-12 10:12

抱抱 就是白渣挑刺儿 让孩子提前品尝了社会对ABC的打压 跟公司PUA华人,只能做技术不能升管理层,一个意思 既在人檐下不得不低头 你这个还能换老师,或者转学 以后走上社会,换啥公司都是乌鸦一般黑 歪楼叹个气
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handan11
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
这些admission officers基本上都是losers with capital L。他们工资普遍不高,一般能找到其他工作的不愿意做下去,人员流动性很大。培养孩子的问题上听他们的真的不如听华人大妈的。
从另一个角度说,中国的高科技企业家都是死读书出来的,没看出来他们比美国高科技企业家差在哪里。像张一鸣这样的,只是因为他在中国,美国没什么人吹他而已。现在美国大学录取的这些东西基本都是胡扯。
Spypond 发表于 2022-06-12 11:08

招生办的蛀虫,就是小人得志便猖狂的嘴脸 学费那么死贵,就是养了这帮欺负好学生的职工 故意不按成绩招生,这样给了他们放水招自己家白渣孩子的机会
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mingrimingyue
文章里说的是ED的学校。RD阶段,看到这样条件的黑人女孩,明显会进大藤的,ED学校招了也不会来,不招这种是正常操作
bigmoney 发表于 2022-06-12 12:24

ED不是招了必须去吗
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sheepo
家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
麻荚子 发表于 2022-06-12 10:12

你让他elaborate 他的comment, 你家娃到底哪里哪个行为显得manner 有问题,有具体得实例支持,我没意见,没有,那不能接受老师这样得主见,告诉他那是他的illusion
没事去逛街
回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
其实美国top学校选拔的不是现在最优秀的学生,而是在选拔将来最可能优秀的学生。按这个逻辑就明白了。这种成绩好,钢琴好,竞赛好,按部就班优秀的学生,将来会成为很不错的上中产,但很难成为未来社会的领导者。这些逆境出身或者豪门出身的学生,将来成功的可能性确实更大。
momosun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:02


对,我家小姑子在哥大读书的时候走过招生办,听到里面说的就是这个意思,Top学校要培养的是未来的leader,不是读书机器。
她和我说:名校看重的是你学习的态度和学习某一专业的动机。你从学院的角度去考虑,他们要培养的是某一行业的leader。所以你一定要对某一专业有深度的理解才能打动他们。为什么我说GPA说得过去就可以了,因为这个东西是通过努力可以提高的。人家相信自己的教育水平,相信一个有潜力的人可以通过努力提高。所以GPA不是定生死的关键。
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bigmoney
ED不是招了必须去吗
mingrimingyue 发表于 2022-06-12 13:04

文章里说的已经是RD阶段,招了可以不去
阿达达达
如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
SkyJapan 发表于 2022-06-12 09:57

里面举例的,就是一个黑人女孩,也没进
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这个跟招聘有点像,你可能本身条件很好,但同时也是看运气,如果恰巧有更强的candidate 同时投简历,你就被刷下来了。
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转的帖子是舞蹈。如果这个黑人学生各方方面真是这么好的话肯定是横扫大藤。这个招生办的学校觉得没法竞争,只能放弃了。
以前读过点Excellent Sheep。上面说1960年以前的大藤基本上不看中学成绩。就是拼爹。哈佛1950年的录取率为10/13。每13个申请可以录取10个。哥伦比亚有犹太人quota,不能超过这个数。老百姓不是不知道大藤,只是都有自知之明,没有拼爹的实力都不去申请而已。
nakamoto 发表于 2022-06-12 11:42

确实,然后这些拼爹的后来成就也很好。 著名的肯尼迪申请哈佛文书,充分说明啥essay 要求就是笑话。
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呵呵,我实在不明白为什么学习好 竞赛好 音乐好的亚洲孩子就一定被看成没有leadership,这明明就是对亚裔孩子 对中产阶级出生的孩子们的一种stereotype! 歧视就是歧视,哪怕你用最漂亮的言辞去装饰它,也还是歧视!
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呵呵,我实在不明白为什么学习好 竞赛好 音乐好的亚洲孩子就一定被看成没有leadership,这明明就是对亚裔孩子 对中产阶级出生的孩子们的一种stereotype! 歧视就是歧视,哪怕你用最漂亮的言辞去装饰它,也还是歧视!
cloudy 发表于 2022-06-12 13:18

不要把事情都对立起来,没那么悬乎, 亚裔孩子包括华裔二代上T20,T10,T5的孩子海了去了, 远远超过了亚裔在美国人口的比例
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对,我家小姑子在哥大读书的时候走过招生办,听到里面说的就是这个意思,Top学校要培养的是未来的leader,不是读书机器。
她和我说:名校看重的是你学习的态度和学习某一专业的动机。你从学院的角度去考虑,他们要培养的是某一行业的leader。所以你一定要对某一专业有深度的理解才能打动他们。为什么我说GPA说得过去就可以了,因为这个东西是通过努力可以提高的。人家相信自己的教育水平,相信一个有潜力的人可以通过努力提高。所以GPA不是定生死的关键。
没事去逛街 发表于 2022-06-12 13:07

招生办说的都是台面上的官话
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无非是以白人的说辞美化白人文化的标准而已,全凭白人解释,哪有个objective的标准。跟少数族裔要成绩,跟华人要personality, social skills,深得田忌赛马之要领。
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觉得很有启发。总结一下就是:单个人优秀还不行, 尤其是那种高度同质化的优秀,什么学习好, 钢琴好,运动好之类的。
Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extracurriculars (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? Originally Answered: Will a SAT score of 1450/1600 with a 4.0 unweighted and really good extra curriculares (Eagle Scout, Tennis, etc.) get me into Stanford? I’ve been on the admissions committee of a top ten university (not Stanford but one of its major “competitors”) for over 20 years and on the committee deciding finalists for the most prestigious scholarship at arguably the top public university in the country. I can tell you with great certainty that there is absolutely no way to say whether you will be admitted to Stanford or any other top school, even if you have an unweighted 4.0, perfect SATs and ACTs, lots of 5’s on AP tests, several patents, are a nationally known musician or athlete, and are perfect on paper in every way. The reason is that the very top schools could fill ten classes with qualified applicants from each year’s pool, so to get it down to the number for acceptance in a single year means making judgment calls about making a great CLASS, not just a bunch of great individuals. We want every class to have musicians, inventors, politicos, scientists, policymakers, writers, philosophers, religious and atheist, from all over the world who have demonstrated a love of learning, of new experiences, of challenging themselves in every way. You undoubtedly fit that model, so you certainly have a chance of being admitted; however, it depends on who all of the other applicants are and how Stanford (or Harvard or Princeton or Duke or MIT …..) sees you as fitting into the class they are creating. I remember vividly an amazing girl who applied to my university a few years ago - she had an unweighted 4.0 at one of the most difficult private schools in the Washington, DC area; she was class president, a star athlete and captain in 2 sports, a published author, 2nd runner-up at a major international science competition, and had emigrated with her family from Nigeria at age 10 so she had a fascinating life story. I interviewed her in person and she was amazing. However, she did not get in (she ended up at Princeton, so she’s fine), while other students who may not have looked as impressive on paper were admitted. She was a very strong candidate and made it to the “final round” of discussion, but the admissions committee ended up taking other applicants with different talents and experiences because, among other reasons, it had already admitted, on Early Decision, several students with credentials similar to hers. My best advice would be to apply Early Decision to your #1 choice school. It is easier to get in on Early Decision because (1) there isn’t as much competition, and (2) the school knows that you will come there if admitted, making their yield numbers higher. Second, spend a lot of time on your essay — it is very important at the top schools. They look for creativity, deep self-examination, critical thinking (including about one’s self and one’s beliefs), and of course, excellent writing skills. Take care with those you choose to write your recommendations; a great rec from your chem teacher is more valuable than a merely good rec from a Nobel Prize laureate or a famous person who doesn’t know you as well as your teacher does. Geographic location makes a difference, too; all things being equal, a 4.0 student from Montana probably has a better chance of admission than a 4.0 student from New York City. It’s also really important to keep your mind open to other great schools with similar qualities to Stanford. What is it you love about Stanford — the entrepreneurial culture, the weather, the campus, the alumni? Or is it just the name/brand of Stanford that attracts you? More than one school exists at which you would be very happy and successful, so please try not to be so focused on just one. Admissions officers can spot the applicants who are only drawn by the brand very quickly.

pearlgirl 发表于 2022-06-12 09:52

其实翻译成大白话就是
说你行,你就行,不行也行,
说你不行,你就不行,行也不行。
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这位没进斯坦福的原因是斯坦福ED的时候这种人招太多了,人最后不也还是进了普林
kingboo 发表于 2022-06-12 10:59

斯坦福没有ED
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无非是以白人的说辞美化白人文化的标准而已,全凭白人解释,哪有个objective的标准。跟少数族裔要成绩,跟华人要personality, social skills,深得田忌赛马之要领。
rew 发表于 2022-06-12 13:30

对, 就是刻意在招生过程中引入各种ambiguity, 这样有利于他们找借口拒绝各方面很优秀的亚裔孩子
有任何统计数据证明事业成功的leader们绝大多数都是从ivy league 本科毕业的学生吗?
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今年亲身经历大学申请,艾玛,太扯蛋了,都是套路,别陪他们玩了
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招生办说的都是台面上的官话
nakamoto 发表于 2022-06-12 13:24

暗地里的操作,普通人也没能力去搞啊。 父母捐款你能捐多少?社会名流吗?校友吗?或者暗箱操作搞体育特色? 普通家长能做的就是吃透游戏规则,考出好成绩。
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其实翻译成大白话就是
说你行,你就行,不行也行,
说你不行,你就不行,行也不行。
dayu2020 发表于 2022-06-12 13:34

就是这个意思 华裔没有话语权,被歧视得最惨
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对,我家小姑子在哥大读书的时候走过招生办,听到里面说的就是这个意思,Top学校要培养的是未来的leader,不是读书机器。
她和我说:名校看重的是你学习的态度和学习某一专业的动机。你从学院的角度去考虑,他们要培养的是某一行业的leader。所以你一定要对某一专业有深度的理解才能打动他们。为什么我说GPA说得过去就可以了,因为这个东西是通过努力可以提高的。人家相信自己的教育水平,相信一个有潜力的人可以通过努力提高。所以GPA不是定生死的关键。
没事去逛街 发表于 2022-06-12 13:07

这些说法都是bullshit。现在美国大学想学计算机的人很多,很大的比例(30%-50%)第一个学年就放弃转专业,因为数学和编程不行。这么多人drop off说明美国大学选人纯粹是瞎搞。Admission officers能看出passion/leadership绝对是笑话
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总结:不够变态极端偏执的我们都不爱招!
fino819 发表于 2022-06-12 09:53

有的时候变态偏执能给这些AO一个录取的理由,否则要这个AO有什么用处。AO也要有理由justify他自己的工作。AO可以把变态偏执解释成passion。lol

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家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
麻荚子 发表于 2022-06-12 10:12

这个我觉得还好?毕竟老师也给了A的分数,并没有在record上面为难孩子。这个comment,对孩子总还是有建设性的作用。另外老师说的这些,如果是真的,那确实可以提高,并不是完全没事找事。
如果老师因为不喜欢小中,给了不公平的低分数,或者剥夺了孩子应得的机会,那肯定是不对的。这里我看到的不是这样。
柚子honey
这个招生办老师说的太不合理 作为学生申请前怎么知道要招的班级里有多少人和自己package类似 这不是鼓励大家走偏门吗
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如果黑人墨西哥人这种条件,肯定入了;这些招生标准都是忽悠大家呢
SkyJapan 发表于 2022-06-12 09:57

这个回复居然高赞?没看到这个娃10岁跟家人从Nigeria移民来美的?
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这些招生老师又是啥background呢?这种眼神招到的学生也是名校工厂的批量货,出来也只是贴了名牌的批量货罢了。
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抱抱 就是白渣挑刺儿 让孩子提前品尝了社会对ABC的打压 跟公司PUA华人,只能做技术不能升管理层,一个意思 既在人檐下不得不低头 你这个还能换老师,或者转学 以后走上社会,换啥公司都是乌鸦一般黑 歪楼叹个气
handan11 发表于 2022-06-12 12:59

你这么想,还是没搞明白,啥是精英,社会为什么需要精英。孩子成绩好,就是一颗出色的螺丝钉,没有贬义,也能过上比较平稳的生活,但上限也很低。美国与中国完全不一样,中国要的是顺服的螺丝钉,美国要的是带领群力聚合力量一起去突破去创造的精英。所以,大方向来看,美国的未来还是会更强大,只要内部矛盾没有严重到分裂。
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说实话,很多华人还是没有看清,社会要的是什么样的人。。。自己想的和社会需要的是不是一致。。。
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家有男娃,现在初中,典型中国娃,身处华人聚居的地方。最近收到老师report card,虽然全A,但是language art老师,写了一段comments,说academic没有问题,social有问题,说话之前不思考,有时off task。 和小朋友了解缘由,得到反馈:老师课堂上无数次讲他看中的不是学习成绩,是manners,是socialization,而且班上几个华裔小娃被连番数落过。老师是个白男。 自己孩子自己了解,属于上学以来,从来没有惹过事,被叫家长的孩子。我感觉到了老师对娃的嫌弃。满满的无奈感,娃是努力好娃,在这种环境下不被待见。说好的尊重个人特性呢。学习好成了短板😠。还好,娃自己心里有数。还好,下学年换一波老师。
麻荚子 发表于 2022-06-12 10:12

你不确定老师具体指什么,应该跟老师聊一下,不惹事不等于就是有好的manner,social 没问题,有些孩子问题家长自己没意识到,其他人指出是好事啊,当然不排除老师有针对性的可能,所以应该跟老师进一步沟通下.
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你这么想,还是没搞明白,啥是精英,社会为什么需要精英。孩子成绩好,就是一颗出色的螺丝钉,没有贬义,也能过上比较平稳的生活,但上限也很低。美国与中国完全不一样,中国要的是顺服的螺丝钉,美国要的是带领群力聚合力量一起去突破去创造的精英。所以,大方向来看,美国的未来还是会更强大,只要内部矛盾没有严重到分裂。
找deal 发表于 2022-06-12 14:29

照你这么说,为啥美国高科技公司高层这么多老印。老印可都是在印度死读书出来的。他们不算精英了吗,还是他们不是社会需要的精英?你说的美国本科和基础教育的优越性在哪里
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回复 1楼pearlgirl的帖子
其实美国top学校选拔的不是现在最优秀的学生,而是在选拔将来最可能优秀的学生。按这个逻辑就明白了。这种成绩好,钢琴好,竞赛好,按部就班优秀的学生,将来会成为很不错的上中产,但很难成为未来社会的领导者。这些逆境出身或者豪门出身的学生,将来成功的可能性确实更大。
momosun 发表于 2022-06-12 10:02

好像是这样。他们要筛选出未来的领导者,而不是过去的优异者。
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这个招生办老师说的太不合理 作为学生申请前怎么知道要招的班级里有多少人和自己package类似 这不是鼓励大家走偏门吗
柚子honey 发表于 2022-06-12 14:00

所以就是luck