我家娃在11个月的时候生病开始正式奶睡和晚上cosleep,然后越走越远。对网上各种需要戒奶睡和尽早训睡的各种信息困扰。后来不经意间发现一篇文章写到 Many mothers feel guilty for breastfeeding their baby for comfort or as they drift off to sleep. Breastfeeding your child to sleep and for comfort is not a bad thing to do– in fact, it’s normal, healthy, and developmentally appropriate. Most babies nurse to sleep and wake 1-3 times during the night for the first year or so. Some babies don’t do this, but they are the exception, not the rule. Many children, if given the choice, prefer to nurse to sleep through the second year and beyond. I’ve never seen a convincing reason why mothers shouldn’t use this wonderful tool that we’ve been given. The sleep issue is not merely a matter of good versus bad habits. It is much more an issue of culture and lifestyle and expectations. Here are three approaches to parenting issues: Forcing baby to change to fit the parent’s lifestyle is one approach. Our American culture tends not to be very baby friendly, and rarely makes accommodations for breastfeeding babies. The current trend, seen in many popular books and parenting magazines, is to force baby to do all of the accommodating so that we experience as little change in our pre-baby lifestyle as possible; for example, baby MUST sleep through the night so that we get unbroken sleep and a “good” baby is seen as one who makes as few demands on his parents as possible.
这两天在尝试睡眠训练,宝宝的意志很坚决,醒着时候放到crib里,转身就坐起来然后马上就站起来在crib里哭。不知道是不是方法不对,不断地按下,安抚,然后翻身,坐起,站起来哭,这样的轮回到了45分钟左右我就坚持不下去了,宝宝也彻底睡意全无了坚决要和我斗争到底,最后以我的不忍何惨败而告终。
co- sleep也尝试过,但是他半夜翻来覆去翻身影响我睡眠质量,我虽然一晚上能睡六七个小时,但是整体感觉像只睡了两三个小时。
现在很迷茫,不知道还要不要继续尝试睡眠训练,还是认命躺平了,每天让宝宝奶睡或者在我身上睡着。
我们就是弄进另一个房间,晚上八点那一次就按正常奶睡之后放进crib,半夜醒了一律爸爸管,必须爸爸管,妈妈身上有奶味不行。过几天就睡到天亮了。白天照样奶睡再扔进crib .
现在半夜偶尔醒,大概两周一次,全部爸爸去哄,抱着睡着了扔crib .
太感谢了,现在都是晚上我管,以后要换爸爸管。如果一直奶睡放crib里,将来断奶了考什么哄睡呢?
那个应该需要哭几天。累了就睡着了。现在也会有时太累吃午饭时坐在椅子上睡着了,半夜爸爸抱抱也睡得着。
慢慢来呗。突然这么搞时间会更长。准备一两周吧。
当然娃和娃不一样。我宝宝半夜醒来如果哭太长时间才冲过去抱,有时候哭一会儿自己又睡着了,大部分时候听不到声音。
我们的目标也就是睡整觉。
不知道mm用的什么方法训练的?按照ferber的睡眠训练方法,孩子哭并不是立刻安抚的,需要等一段时间。可以参考一下ferber的书。
我后来发现延长到10分钟他就自己睡了,一定要掐表,不然他哭一分钟你会觉得已经过去几十分钟了。。。。
我们一岁半训好以后简直天使,每晚一关灯自己立刻躺平,幸福了大半年,最近突然倒退回到解放前,不肯睡小屋,半夜哭着来找我们在,所以又开始经常后半夜变co-spleep。。。。所以训睡也不是万能的
总之一句话,越小越好训, and 训好了可能只管一段时间
跟楼上几个MM一样,娃不到六个月已经可以自主入睡睡整夜,奈何生病+睡眠倒退,所以偶然训睡成功也不代表什么,后面真是盲盒等着你
看你们怎么想了。我是觉得自己会睡的孩子睡得比较多。我们家两个都是属于睡得比较多的。
The sleep issue is not merely a matter of good versus bad habits. It is much more an issue of culture and lifestyle and expectations. Here are three approaches to parenting issues: Forcing baby to change to fit the parent’s lifestyle is one approach. Our American culture tends not to be very baby friendly, and rarely makes accommodations for breastfeeding babies. The current trend, seen in many popular books and parenting magazines, is to force baby to do all of the accommodating so that we experience as little change in our pre-baby lifestyle as possible; for example, baby MUST sleep through the night so that we get unbroken sleep and a “good” baby is seen as one who makes as few demands on his parents as possible.
然后我想还是对娃friendly 一些吧,就一直奶睡到现在,娃很少哭着睡着过,除非半夜我实在太累不想哄她了。而且我发现如果她没有不舒服的时候即使半夜醒几次也不难哄睡。
我家娃的性格方面一直很贴心很sweet 。
现在马上两岁,这几天在戒睡前奶睡,非常顺利,除了第三天闹了一个小时,其他时候都能接受了。有的时候可能真的要看娃是不是ready。