How Childhood Trauma Affects Us as Adults (mentalhealthcenter.org) HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AFFECTS US AS ADULTS Childhood. The very word draws up images of innocence, joy, optimism and wonder. Childhood is a time of security – being protected and loved. Having stability in knowing you are protected by your family allows you to form solid and safe relationships later in life. This is the ideal definition and experience of childhood. However, the reality of many children experiences and the effect on the rest of their lives is in stark contrast to this idealized expectation. Childhood trauma can take many forms Physical or sexual abuse Witnessing a traumatic event Having a severe illness requiring surgery and hospitalization Witnessing domestic violence Experiencing intense bullying Even extreme situations like refugee trauma and experiencing a large-scale natural disaster. We, as adults, are often unable to process these life events. Imagine the scale and scope through a child’s eyes, trying to process the nuances of these experiences. And trying to understand their role in their occurrence. Children do not filter information through the prism of education, socialization, and life experience as we do. Often times, they blame themselves because they have no other point of reference of why these events occur.
回复 1楼公用马甲25的帖子 不能堂堂正正说出真相吗？告诉孩子真相，孩子才会明白。 you should be proud of who you are. Chinese people are intelligent and hardworking people, Chinese people made great contribution to the world and to the US. Those who laugh at you are racist and biased and are wrong. Pretending not to be a Chinese would not give u sense of security to be one of the group. And the group you pretend to be in is not something nice to have
How Childhood Trauma Affects Us as Adults (mentalhealthcenter.org)
HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AFFECTS US AS ADULTS Childhood. The very word draws up images of innocence, joy, optimism and wonder. Childhood is a time of security – being protected and loved. Having stability in knowing you are protected by your family allows you to form solid and safe relationships later in life. This is the ideal definition and experience of childhood. However, the reality of many children experiences and the effect on the rest of their lives is in stark contrast to this idealized expectation. Childhood trauma can take many forms Physical or sexual abuse Witnessing a traumatic event Having a severe illness requiring surgery and hospitalization Witnessing domestic violence Experiencing intense bullying Even extreme situations like refugee trauma and experiencing a large-scale natural disaster. We, as adults, are often unable to process these life events. Imagine the scale and scope through a child’s eyes, trying to process the nuances of these experiences. And trying to understand their role in their occurrence. Children do not filter information through the prism of education, socialization, and life experience as we do. Often times, they blame themselves because they have no other point of reference of why these events occur.
到底是不是挖坑啊。人家歧视你你去谈有什么用？要么直接被人羞辱，要么人家表面客气道歉背后接着嘲笑你和你孩子。非种族歧视的bully家长老师都束手无策，何况种族歧视，百分之九十九种族歧视的小孩家长也种族歧视，只不过家长在公开场合能控制自己的行为，小孩不会。
黑人自恨的也很多，所以才有不少黑人右派，心理白人。
不知道楼主是不是挖坑。不过从来没听说因为这个原因，从白区搬离的。 有些孩子还不愿意搬到老中多的地方，因为在白区中国孩子不用功都是班上好学生。
笑死🤣
但是说实话人种(race)，国籍(citizenship)根本就是一个人identity不可或缺的一部分，或者说很难摆脱掉吧
好自恨的楼主
不能堂堂正正说出真相吗？告诉孩子真相，孩子才会明白。 you should be proud of who you are. Chinese people are intelligent and hardworking people, Chinese people made great contribution to the world and to the US. Those who laugh at you are racist and biased and are wrong. Pretending not to be a Chinese would not give u sense of security to be one of the group. And the group you pretend to be in is not something nice to have
是啊。小孩子为什么会有这种想法。
一般家长想不出“融入美国”这个说法
Chinese heritage有啥可笑的，中国历史悠久很多文化遗产，问问白人同学他家祖上哪里来的。大家讨论一下祖上，求同存异，现在都是美国一分子。 教育孩子让孩子自己说。如果白人孩子不改，就找校长。别找家长。
侃爷在南京呆过特别喜感，不知道是什么样的经历呢。那时候国内的黑人很难见到吧？被人围着看的小呆萌，哈哈哈
转自zhihu： 有关于在中国生活的经历，侃爷是这样说的： “那段时间很美妙，那是在我小学五年级时，我学会了一点点的普通话。因为在日常生活中很少能看到黑人，中国小孩们会过来搓我的脸，看看能不能把颜色搓下来。” 好像也有他当年南大附小的小学同学说过一些。
其实我幼儿园也有个黑小孩，也是大学的附属幼儿园，他爸妈是国外来交流一年的。好像爸妈是一黑一白但他自己肤色偏黑。其实没人围着看。。。就只记得他很高很壮，打架的时候大家都打不过，很气，又没办法。老师应该没少向他家长告状，因为班上其他小孩的家长都很烦，孩子天天回家就是说今天又被**打了。
说得很好
东部白人州这种问题特别多。
正解。多带孩子去见世面，多去一些地方。我家娃知道他既是中国人也是美国人，但是他的ethenic background是中国人。他也知道中国很好的地方，美国不好的地方，告诉他世界是在变的，以后长大了哪里更好就去哪里，就像我们当年会因为美国好来中国一样，以后也可能因为中国好去中国。当然语言和文化的熏陶是基础，我家ABC娃说中文没有口音，看中文电视娱乐节目也没有问题。有的时候不是父母认为一定要融入美国文化放弃美国文化就是对的，孩子可能会更加lost。
爷爷奶奶不会英文呢！
有朝一日，你回到祖国怀抱，接受了共产党的领导，和中国人凝聚起来，产生出世界第一的力量，届时美国小同学再也不敢小看你了。
这里面描述其实用在华人上一半的自恨大妈头上也没差 这论坛上不是曾经大搞咬文嚼字运动天天分析川皇到底说的是Chinese，还是Chinese American，还是American Chinese还是。。。
China Plague都要洗白成“我们是Chinese American（没入籍也四舍五入可以当精神美国人），China这个词跟我一点边也不沾，骂得太好了“
可以说是新加坡人，这样说华语就很正常了