家里有了宝宝,需要把大狗送人吗?

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jiujiu521
是什么狗,我家养了一只小狗,特别温顺。
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Moonxiaoxue
再回来一看 回帖的大多是一群爱狗圣母 lz孩子是自己的 到时候被狗袭击了 爱狗圣母一点损失都没有 还有说什么狗养不好是主人的错 但有些狗有些breed 天生就那样 后天改不了
公用马甲11
搜了一下,太吓人了!
宝宝宝宝 发表于 2021-04-12 20:43

Tough decisions await when dogs bite kids (veterinarypracticenews.com)
Tough decisions await when dogs bite kids As veterinarians, what can you do when this happens?
May 19, 2016 By John Lewis, VMD, FAVD, Dipl. AVDC
Diana and I worked together to create the Best Friends Bash, a project I wrote about in my October 2013 column.1 Diana approached me recently to ask if we can shed light on an important topic: May 15 to 21 is National Dog Bite Prevention Week. As a veterinary dentist whose hands and face are in the mouths of dogs daily, I have a healthy appreciation for the damage that can be done by their teeth and jaws, especially by large-breed dogs. When dog bites happen, children are often the victims. One study found that 72 percent of bitten children knew the dog.2 
Emotional Trauma from Dog Bites
Bites can create a series of life-altering events for the child and the family. The physical impairment that is sustained can cause loss of function. Aesthetic changes can be significant. Psychological long-term effects can be most damaging, both for the child and the parents.
Diana speaks of this: “In our experience, we have seen families actually break up over this huge physical and emotional trauma. A great deal of this stems from the guilt experienced by the dog owner and the child’s caretaker at the time of the accident, which many times is a grandparent or babysitter.
“The grueling decision of whether to euthanize the dog afterwards can tear families apart due to differing opinions,” she added. “The long-term effects for the child and family can be devastating: facial scarring, facial palsy and loss of eye, ear or limb. Treatment requires multiple surgeries to correct, if correction is even possible. The psychological implications can last a lifetime.”
One study found that facial bites predominated (70 percent) in children up to 7 years old, and bites to extremities occurred in 72 percent of children older than 7 years.2 In a study that looked at motivations for biting, children less than 6 commonly were bitten in association with resource guarding, whereas older children frequently were bitten in situations involving territory guarding.
Summon an Expert
Jim Brown, DVM, a general practitioner at The Blue Cross Animal Hospital in Amherst, N.Y., sees the scenario all too often.
“When a pet bites for the first time, I routinely advise owners to arrange a consult with a veterinarian who is board certified in veterinary behavior,” he said. “We do not recommend dog obedience classes or nonveterinary trainers for this problem. Boarded behaviorists can provide pet owners with a diagnosis, steps to take in handling the problem, and a summary letter, which might end with a very strong statement such as ‘You can never trust this dog.’”
Dogs are not toys to be disposed of when they don’t function as expected, but euthanasia may be warranted. Dr. Brown emphasized: “Most clients do not have prior experience with dog bites. They use their emotions to make decisions and judge the behavior. Statements like ‘He didn’t mean it’ or ‘He’s really a good dog’ indicate that pet owners are thinking with their hearts. Most veterinarians have ample experience with dogs that bite. Those experiences, in the absence of a strong emotional attachment to the dog, often lead to very different conclusions about the behavior: ‘He did mean it’ and ‘He’s not a nice dog.’”
Brown discussed one patient: “A young couple brings in their new baby, a 10-week-old puppy. The problem occurs when the pet shows signs of aggression in the exam room, such as pinning its ears, curling its lips and trying to bite. The clients look at me in disbelief when I recommend a behavior consultation with a specialist.”
We, as pet owners, want to give puppies the benefit of the doubt, but it’s not a good sign when a puppy shows hints of aggression at this early age. When Brown sees these behaviors, he documents them in the medical record. If a patient has a known history of behavioral issues that were not addressed by the owner, the owner might be at a higher risk of litigious action if the owner’s pet bites someone.
The Euthanasia Question
Putting a beloved pet to sleep can be a heart-wrenching decision. Dogs are not toys to be disposed of when they don’t function as expected, but euthanasia may be warranted.
Brown’s approach is this: “I ask clients: What clear sign would you use to decide to euthanize a dog that bites? Should a child lose a finger, a part of a cheek or an ear? It is easy to make that decision the day after a disaster occurs, but not so easy the day before.
“Sometimes I can emphasize the gravity of the situation by putting it in a different context. Imagine your son goes off to a camping weekend with the Scouts. You receive a call from the chaperones telling you he brought a Scout knife on the trip (i.e., your dog has teeth). Now imagine the chaperone said your son opened the knife and threatened someone with it (i.e., your dog growls at someone). That is a problem at a whole new level.
“Now imagine the Scout leader telling you that your son stabbed someone (i.e., your dog bites someone). That is a critical behavioral problem that requires serious attention by trained specialists. Similarly, dogs that bite people have a serious behavioral problem that should not be ignored or rationalized.” Dog bites that occur with family members often are not publicized because they have no feel-good component. In fact, the situation might be ignored due to feelings of shame and guilt.
I hope this month’s column will encourage discussion and action about these difficult situations before life-changing bites occur.
References & Recommended Reading “Veterinary and Human Craniofacial Patients Meet Face to Face,” by John R. Lewis. Veterinary Practice News, September 2013. Online: http://bit.ly/1pXBq46 “Behavioral Characteristics Associated With Dog Bites to Children Presenting to an Urban Trauma Center,” by I.R. Reisner, et al. Injury Prevention, 2011; 17(5): 348-53. “Behavioral Assessment of Child-Directed Canine Aggression,” by I.R. Reisner, et al. Injury Prevention, 2007; 13(5): 348-51. “Effects of Gender and Parental Status on Knowledge and Attitudes of Dog Owners Regarding Dog Aggression Toward Children,” by I.R. Reisner, et al. Journal of the American Veterinary Medical Association, 2008; 233(9): 1412-9.
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hi2021
自己拿主意 不要顾虑那么多
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huyanluanyu
如果送走你不难过的话
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Strawberry20
一个不养狗的人看到标题都觉得这是什么人呐!还好意思来问
MaggieC 发表于 2021-04-13 19:40

过去的事情没办法了,没娃的时候都没有去积极训练,我不看好你现在有娃了去投入精力训练。只是请你负责任的给狗找个好家。另外请你以后不要再养狗。就这样。
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Strawberry20
天性还真是块砖,哪里需要哪里搬~都靠天性活着还发展什么社会文明啊,活在从林时代好了。你大概不知道兽医和training school是干啥用的,越说越显得你无知不懂狗。跑我这彰显自己高风亮节那你真是回错帖了
芝士年糕 发表于 2021-04-13 19:57

嗯,there is no bad dog, only bad owners不是随口说说的。
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sketch
借贴问:只要出门到后院,邻居家的大狗就对着我狂叫不止,该如何应对?
microsat 发表于 2021-04-13 11:26

征得邻居同意带上狗爱吃的东西,下次叫时走过去居高临下盯住它眼睛,一直盯到它扭过头避开你目光安静下来,喂吃的。 把食物举过它头顶一边说sit,它为了够着吃的会自然而然坐下,然后给吃的,摸头夸奖,反复形成条件反射。说口令时可夸奖时语气要截然不同。 给别人狗喂吃的一定要征得主人同意。
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kuer
狗狗是人最忠实的朋友,你把它送人,它会想自己的主人的。
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coconutam
教育小孩和它保持安全距离,我家就是这么干的
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gem
做为有猫的人 我最讨厌抛弃宠物的。 不过楼主你这个情况比较特殊,还是放弃吧,你家这个狗连成人都攻击,小孩子更危险了。 给狗找个靠谱的人家。
shirley951951 发表于 2021-04-11 23:10

re这个,楼主别理那些胡乱指责你的。什么养了几年的狗还看不透,别说狗了,一家人谁敢说就一定把每个人都看透了呢?
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gem
再回来一看 回帖的大多是一群爱狗圣母 lz孩子是自己的 到时候被狗袭击了 爱狗圣母一点损失都没有 还有说什么狗养不好是主人的错 但有些狗有些breed 天生就那样 后天改不了
Moonxiaoxue 发表于 2021-04-13 20:50

没进来前就预料到楼主会被围殴,呵呵
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gem
天性还真是块砖,哪里需要哪里搬~都靠天性活着还发展什么社会文明啊,活在从林时代好了。你大概不知道兽医和training school是干啥用的,越说越显得你无知不懂狗。跑我这彰显自己高风亮节那你真是回错帖了
芝士年糕 发表于 2021-04-13 19:57

照你这样说这世上就没有坏人了
剪秋萝碎米荠
其实我觉得对于自己没有信心handle的不去养也是一种尊重的态度。 你说的动物就是动物,这句话太对了,所以动物有它的不确定性,因为它本身是一个活的生命。 那么心血来潮在这里,就是超级不负责任、不尊重自己也不尊重动物的一种态度,真的希望所有那些心血来潮或者看了哪里的视频图片就突然长草的人可以多想一想。
smiling85ww 发表于 2021-04-11 23:59

完全同意。所以任由娃苦求我就是不给养,没有那个能力养到终老就不要养
芝士年糕
照你这样说这世上就没有坏人了
gem 发表于 2021-04-14 10:55

神逻辑,坏人都是天生的?给个数据支持一下。就算人有先天精神病也可以吃药控制,有专门的机构监管。楼主的狗被诊断为先天性格缺陷了吗,你看见了?顺带着提一下拿品种说事的,简直更搞笑。敢情品种不是她自己选的,是有人硬塞她手里养的。说到底就是没法为自己的选择负责到底,在这洗个什么地
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zhiye333
在发帖之前我已经纠结了很久了,我们的狗养了好几年了,从小养到大,大概有五十几磅,生宝宝前跟我们平起平坐,有时候还睡在我们的床上。在生宝宝期间,我们把它寄养在亲戚家里。
狗狗平时比较温和,但是心思重看不透它。领地意识很强,过往车辆快递上门都会嚎叫。以前咬过其他的狗,在把两只狗分开的时候咬过我老公的手。上周婆婆的朋友去摸这只狗,结果手腕被咬伤了,虽然是轻伤,但是大家都不建议我们继续养狗了。婆婆经常给我们发链接,什么狗把小孩子的脸咬伤,咬死三个月以内小宝宝的新闻。
我最近想把狗接回来,家里安了好几重狗门,还买了超大的狗笼子,希望把狗和孩子物理隔离开。但我心里越来越恐惧,我老公也开始害怕了,不怕一万就怕万一,如果狗真的伤害了宝宝,那我后半辈子会生活在悔恨里无法原谅自己了。我们是不是真的只有rehome狗狗这一条路可以走了?请问你们有什么建议吗?
有没有类似经历的,能不能分享一下你们最后是怎么决定的呢?
cuddleskip 发表于 2021-04-11 23:06

请问楼主。 这个狗狗咬死一只狗,要了两个人。为啥还没有被强制安乐死呢?我听说是Three Strikes之后就要安乐里么?纯请教policy
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monicazhan
既然选择养了,那么狗狗也是家庭成员。家里有了狗狗,可以把娃送人吗??
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nkrainywind
为啥要送走啊, 养了这么多年的狗还不了解他吗? 小baby的时候本来也没什么互动和接触,你要是担心的话就把他们的活动区域分割开来。平时你也抱着你家宝宝让狗狗多熟悉他, 狗也不至于把宝宝当外人。 我家狗和娃在娃两岁以前从来没互动,跟看不见对方似的,娃两岁才开始喜欢狗,经常骑在狗子身上狗子一点意见也没有,很温顺。
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abbye
这种弃养的贴子我都只回一件事:人在做,天在看。今天你弃养狗。等老的时候,你孩子也会这么对你的
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steph_inthesun
感觉你们全家都下定了决心把狗送走,楼主其实心里也是这么想的。我觉得还是赶紧发一些post给狗子找个新家吧,别纠结了。这种情况真是对人对狗,对家里和谐关系都好。而且我觉得也别纠结什么品种了,这是人心占主导的一场博弈。
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XIAOLI0323
把狗放你妈家吧。
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johnjohnkai
這狗真可憐要被二度拋棄,lz真的不適合養狗,以後別再養狗了
家有京巴
你不该养狗。你也不配你们狗对你的爱
luojiebei 发表于 2021-04-11 23:15

看了就生气, 可怜的狗狗,兴高采烈的回来了就要被关笼子,想想狗是什么心情。
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BubbleBee
回复 1楼cuddleskip的帖子
楼主太不像话了,要送走就送走来网上找什么心理安慰道德支持?害得一堆人为你养狗养成这样吵来吵去。
家有京巴
狗在寄养期间没再咬人吧。 咬人或狗打架期间咬对方狗一定是有原因的。
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cong53
刚生完宝宝家里会很忙乱 对狗狗也不会是好环境 别说要把它隔离起来了 所以趁着没生先认真rehome可能是最好的选择 也是对自己负责 别人说你配不配怎么怎么 不用理 谁配可以申请adopt