Can't type Chinese but to provide some 2 cents. Our parents' generation are heavily damaged. So we are messed up also. Your parents' problems are their own problems. We are individuals and responsible for our own journey. We are not here to fix their problems. As you have stated, your attempts to fix their problems is going nowhere. You can offer your ears to listen and provide advice if they are open to hear it. You cannot control how they behave. You cannot save them. They are responsible for their own life. They are here for their own journey. You need to offload your parents' happiness and health from yourself. We are the ONLY person that can make ourselves happy. Your mom's happiness is not your responsibility, there is nothing you can do. You father's happiness is not your responsibility. Same reason as above. So once you offload the unnecessary burden, you can try to approach it from a different angle. Instead of being an insider to their relationship issue, try to be an outsider. Do not step into the issue between your parents. Set your boundary. If they are not fit to be invited over for travel, you may need to consider visiting them and stop extending the invitation.
Our parents' generation are heavily damaged. So we are messed up also.
Your parents' problems are their own problems. We are individuals and responsible for our own journey. We are not here to fix their problems. As you have stated, your attempts to fix their problems is going nowhere.
You can offer your ears to listen and provide advice if they are open to hear it. You cannot control how they behave. You cannot save them. They are responsible for their own life. They are here for their own journey.
You need to offload your parents' happiness and health from yourself. We are the ONLY person that can make ourselves happy. Your mom's happiness is not your responsibility, there is nothing you can do. You father's happiness is not your responsibility. Same reason as above.
So once you offload the unnecessary burden, you can try to approach it from a different angle. Instead of being an insider to their relationship issue, try to be an outsider. Do not step into the issue between your parents.
Set your boundary. If they are not fit to be invited over for travel, you may need to consider visiting them and stop extending the invitation.
你给她机会，她才能作妖，不给机会，就完全困扰不到你。我爹凤凰男，我娘伏地魔，都是作妖小能手，可是照样影响不到我。他们合理要求，我愿意满足，不合理要求，我就完全不理。跟小孩子在商场地上，当众打滚哭闹要玩具一样，不合理就完全不理睬，他们折腾两三次，发现完全没用，就不会再试了。
你们爷儿俩就吃她这一套
她晚上离家出走，你们打什么电话？随她去啊
完全同意。自己设好boundary，你不要越界去企图管父母解决不了的，也别让对方越界强迫你做不愿意做的