我好奇查了一下，原来那里超过50%是黑人，几乎没有亚裔，0.33%，1%都没有。犯罪率是全国最高之一。华裔去那里住，那么stand out, 命能不能保住都不知道。房子送给你你敢去吗，歪哥？ With a crime rate of 53 per one thousand residents, Laurel has one of the highest crime rates in America compared to all communities of all sizes - from the smallest towns to the very largest cities. One''''s chance of becoming a victim of either violent or property crime here is one in 19.
楼主知道要拿到穷人福利需要多穷吗？ 是连银行账号里面0了，然后排队等免费政府房要多久，我房客等了好多年到现在还在等着。 今天才在报纸看到一个老莫穷妈的故事。 美国当穷人很可怜的，不要误导人。 Patricia Mendoza wakes up gasping, fumbling in the dark for her bedside inhaler. She used to suffer asthma attacks perhaps twice a year. During the pandemic, she’s up to seven. “It felt like I was drowning, every time” she said. Doctors tell her it’s stress, and wildfires. To her, it’s simple mathematics. She earned exactly $2,000 per month before the pandemic. She spent $1,500 of that on rent for the two-bedroom apartment in Imperial Beach she shares with her children, ages 9 and 17. That left $500 for everything else. In March, her employer went out of business and she missed her April and May rent payments. Mendoza, 45, made up her rent with federal stimulus and state unemployment benefits, until those, too, ran out and she missed her rent payments in June, July and August. A new landlord purchased her apartment complex and has filed eviction paperwork — the new owner wants to replace the roof, a type eviction not covered by California’s eviction moratorium, which only prohibits evictions for non-payment of rent. Her net worth is less than zero dollars. Her asthma leaves her afraid to take a job in the checkout line of a grocery store or anything else that requires face-to-face contact. “If I see somebody without a mask, I just walk away,” she said. “If I don’t come back to my kids, who’s gonna take care of them?” Her children ask if they can help with the rent, and she cries. And still she wakes up gasping. Mendoza enjoyed a middle class life for at least a decade. She and her husband were never far from debt, but they managed. Then, in 2015, they divorced and Mendoza moved with her children into the Imperial Beach apartment where she now lives. Credit card bills mounted. Her credit score fell into shambles. She needed a friend to cosign her lease. But even with all of the new hassles of single parenthood and a tumble down the economic ladder, they felt stable. “Mom would find a dime on the street, mom would pick it up,” she said, laughing. At the outset of the pandemic, she tried to pay all of her bills. She doesn’t like owing people money, and she has held a job since she was 7-years-old selling cartons of eggs out of the back of her father’s truck in National City. She looks back on the early days of the pandemic with a mix of frustration and regret. One of the first bills she paid was her utility bill, because her children needed electricity and the Internet for online schooling. She only later learned she could have spent the money on food or rent instead because of a statewide utility shutoff moratorium. Behind four months on the rent, Mendoza opened her mail one day in early October to find an eviction notice from her new landlord, along with an explanation. “I am a single mother,” the landlord wrote, explaining that she needed the rental income herself to avoid foreclosure. Other people in her apartment complex are leaving. Mendoza says she can’t. “How am I going to find a deposit and first month’s rent?” Now, her benefits have slowed to a trickle — her last unemployment deposit was for $48 — and she’s not sure where she’s going to find her next paycheck. “This is the worst thing that has happened in my life and in a lot of people’s lives,” she said. If all else should fail and she is indeed evicted, Mendoza says she, her children and their chihuahua would live out of the family’s white Econoline van. But she’s hoping the state will take some kind of action before she has to make that choice.
读一读心理咨询方面的书，多了解一下💡是怎么形成的，怎么受影响的。然后就可以navigate your idea to the direction you desire. I recommend: the life span,Human Development for Helping Professionals, by Patricia B
歪哥说的，赢过自己测欲望，一个意思
我好奇查了一下，原来那里超过50%是黑人，几乎没有亚裔，0.33%，1%都没有。犯罪率是全国最高之一。华裔去那里住，那么stand out, 命能不能保住都不知道。房子送给你你敢去吗，歪哥？
With a crime rate of 53 per one thousand residents, Laurel has one of the highest crime rates in America compared to all communities of all sizes - from the smallest towns to the very largest cities. One''''s chance of becoming a victim of either violent or property crime here is one in 19.
开到75度实在也太热了。。。
不把一部分人比下去，活着还有什么意义？
口袋里有些钱不上华人来得瑟一下，活着还有什么意义？
有几台投资房有，不出来炫耀一下，活着还有什么意义？
到了年底涨工资，不上来比一比活着还有什么意义？
相信我，你不会愿意住在密西西北 laurel 的。 60%以上人口是黑人，只有一百多个亚裔．．．．．．
只要开车穿过一次密西西比……
哈哈哈
后半句把主语改成“华人论坛”更准确吧。。。。。。。。十几年前不是这样的，今年越发感觉有坐井观天的体验
抄袭智子又不算原创
太赛了。
75度很热么。。大家一般都开几度
这倒是，肯定去了之后心里更不平衡了，本来是焦虑症，回来给治成忧郁症r
我真的是忍不住三连赞 太深刻了
我觉得还是跟周围接触的人有关系。我们烙印同事前几年换房子，两口子上班开leaf到公司充电，换房子换个180万的。另外一个三谷地区4000多尺的房子。另外一个每三年换一台911，可能是lease的吧。
连买个床都要100万人民币了
我觉得这是不同群体的不同认知造成的。我一个朋友就说，看土豪买奢侈品觉得无法理解，等自己有了相同财富了，就理解了。
感觉这里的人生活里穷得只剩下钱了 没有其他兴趣，爱好，一比就是赚多少钱，任何帖子最后都是说到钱，房子
还有什么都要用钱衡量，来攀比，觉得赚钱多就是成功，看着不知说什么
true true
我知道的真实生活里的大多数来美多年的大陆背景的留学生，勤恳工作，社区里也乐于奉献，非常不错。也没这么多时间来灌水。
当然就像"丒陋的中国人"那本书里说的，我们是有些劣习, 比如恨人有笑人无, 比如要当人上人. 但论坛里的病人比例远远高于真实生活的
我觉得这个对比要看维度，美国现在的穷人跟中国几十年前的穷人比，是不对等的。我们经历的，是几十年前父母一个月几十块钱的工资，到自己工作时几千块钱的工资，到现在自己一个组的前同事做高管一年上亿人民币的收入（不是替别人吹牛，上市公司招股说明里写的），经历的发差是巨大的。还好同学里大家都混的差不多。我觉得焦虑的原因不是怕穷，而是自己的熟人跟自己越来越不在一个圈子里了。跟他们都没法愉快的聊天了，也就跟邻居聊聊，反正大家差不多，结果聊了一会邻居说他家这儿有四个house，我去tndd的，干嘛一下买四个house呢，后来跟我纠正不是house是horse，还是中东人会玩，有钱都花在养马上了
你是国内来的吧, 一听这样的口气，我差不多就可以判断的。我来这个论坛不多，但真实生活不是这样的。
我估计国内论坛应该也是这样的吧，奇葩频率比真实生活高多了
一个人500，两个大人外加三个孩子，这就2500了。月光的哪去刨出2500来。我买车时dealer跟我说，你不了解美国人啊，很多人每月200多的车贷供不起。我后来发现的确不算计着花，每个月肯定是负的，一定要定预算，预算花完了只能是：没钱了。
用信用卡呗
无欲则刚
Patricia Mendoza wakes up gasping, fumbling in the dark for her bedside inhaler. She used to suffer asthma attacks perhaps twice a year. During the pandemic, she’s up to seven. “It felt like I was drowning, every time” she said. Doctors tell her it’s stress, and wildfires. To her, it’s simple mathematics. She earned exactly $2,000 per month before the pandemic. She spent $1,500 of that on rent for the two-bedroom apartment in Imperial Beach she shares with her children, ages 9 and 17. That left $500 for everything else. In March, her employer went out of business and she missed her April and May rent payments. Mendoza, 45, made up her rent with federal stimulus and state unemployment benefits, until those, too, ran out and she missed her rent payments in June, July and August. A new landlord purchased her apartment complex and has filed eviction paperwork — the new owner wants to replace the roof, a type eviction not covered by California’s eviction moratorium, which only prohibits evictions for non-payment of rent. Her net worth is less than zero dollars. Her asthma leaves her afraid to take a job in the checkout line of a grocery store or anything else that requires face-to-face contact. “If I see somebody without a mask, I just walk away,” she said. “If I don’t come back to my kids, who’s gonna take care of them?” Her children ask if they can help with the rent, and she cries. And still she wakes up gasping. Mendoza enjoyed a middle class life for at least a decade. She and her husband were never far from debt, but they managed. Then, in 2015, they divorced and Mendoza moved with her children into the Imperial Beach apartment where she now lives. Credit card bills mounted. Her credit score fell into shambles. She needed a friend to cosign her lease. But even with all of the new hassles of single parenthood and a tumble down the economic ladder, they felt stable. “Mom would find a dime on the street, mom would pick it up,” she said, laughing. At the outset of the pandemic, she tried to pay all of her bills. She doesn’t like owing people money, and she has held a job since she was 7-years-old selling cartons of eggs out of the back of her father’s truck in National City. She looks back on the early days of the pandemic with a mix of frustration and regret. One of the first bills she paid was her utility bill, because her children needed electricity and the Internet for online schooling. She only later learned she could have spent the money on food or rent instead because of a statewide utility shutoff moratorium. Behind four months on the rent, Mendoza opened her mail one day in early October to find an eviction notice from her new landlord, along with an explanation. “I am a single mother,” the landlord wrote, explaining that she needed the rental income herself to avoid foreclosure. Other people in her apartment complex are leaving. Mendoza says she can’t. “How am I going to find a deposit and first month’s rent?” Now, her benefits have slowed to a trickle — her last unemployment deposit was for $48 — and she’s not sure where she’s going to find her next paycheck. “This is the worst thing that has happened in my life and in a lot of people’s lives,” she said. If all else should fail and she is indeed evicted, Mendoza says she, her children and their chihuahua would live out of the family’s white Econoline van. But she’s hoping the state will take some kind of action before she has to make that choice.
可能加州福利好一些吧
这穷人就住在加州。
没仔细看 她没钱搞啥two-bedroom啊 多干点儿至少能搞到每个月3000 EDD 给的也不少，而且疫情期间房租交25%就行，其余的先欠着呗
这不正是推动科技和经济发展的动力吗？ 那些天才，哪个不是拼命的？ 当前全球最成功的企业，又有哪个不是血汗工厂？
正常的失业金只能领半年。 这次疫情期间特殊一些。
我去算了她的EDD，按照之前每季度6000块，她每个月能拿1000块。
深有同感，一个个过得穷嗖嗖的总想财务自由，这是除了华人论坛别地方看不到的。我有自知之明，有多大脑袋戴多大帽子，从来没想过财务自由提前退休，有一份工作，过个小日子足够了，再说退休干嘛呀，不无聊吗，估计很多人认为酸葡萄。还有华人上都说温度开六十多七十出头，再高就问不热吗？我就奇了怪了，这温度你们不冷吗？我家78·5到八十，再低就冷了。我家人多，各年龄段的人都有，就是你们身体再壮，有90后185小伙子火力旺吗？海边冷夏天晚上照样得开暖气。
说温度的应该是在 BSO 房子大吧
美国有钱的老百姓不少啊，就像现在不去医院就不知道有多少人得新冠，每次坐邮轮的时候最开始做邮轮介绍的时候或搞活动的时候都会问大家哪里来的，真是哪个州都有啊，加州纽约州并不占大多数，阿拉巴马州的都不少。而且很多老头老太基本走完这条线走另一条，一次两三个月都很平常，欧洲的游轮上也大部分是美国来的，一点都想不出美国老百姓都这么有钱。
好吧，还有这功能，冻习惯了，大家一起皇帝的新装
你家开到78度一个月气费有多少钱？我家开到70，晚上furnace会经常启动，可能屋子保温不够好，这样一月份也得300的气费，还是在湾区，要调到78度，我估计气费要上千了。 我家前任房主更绝，住了四年没开过暖气，给我留下两个电暖风，我相信他们的确没用furnace，furnace20年了，里面还很新，有些毛病我给修好了，每年坏不同的配件，我先后换了控制板，温控sensor，damper电机，damper控制板。
你说的我都怀疑我设到70是太抠嗦了，查了一下对65岁老人应该是68到74，你设置到80，你们家夏天是不是不开AC了？
三百肯定打不住，气费绝对不到一千，一晚上启动应该不超过三次，我有时在湾区，有时不在，但是不在的地方比湾区还冷。我家是地热，如果用电供热，相信一千打不住。湾区七十太冷了，如果费用太高换个小点新点房子，费用就降下去了。
我说78，5到八十，因为有风的天就得打八十，正常天就78.5,夏天湾区有时很热打AC，有时晚上冷就开暖气。有一个原因是我家有排风换气系统，所以略高一点，但是如果不开的话，最多低两度。
歪歌金句有道理！其实甚至不是战胜自己的欲望，而是找到自己的compass而已
太对了 要是老中都能放开眼界 别都挤在一起 多去开发中西部 就没有这么多焦虑了 可惜还是太在乎吃的喝的 安土重迁那一套
真是这样的，有时候看收入蛮好的家庭，用着那种留学生都不会用的二手家具，也不知道为啥要过的如此辛酸
做人上人這個觀念其實是傳統農業社會的，那時候大家靠土地吃飯，人均可耕面積小，所以整個社會資源嚴重不足。如果不做人上人，分分鐘餓肚子。在現代社會其實已經不適用了，可惜老觀念已經寫在DNA裡面了。
我觉得码工的老婆（不是码工本人，也不是码婆）特别容易焦虑。老公挣钱多，却缺少社交渠道来显示自己的资金实力。
我一直都觉得，人的痛苦都是来自于欲望超过了能力。我就经常这么自省，然后继续痛苦。
美国人在乎吃喝，大妈说美国人懂得享受生活，不亏待自己。 中国人在乎吃喝，大妈说中国人没眼界，导致自己焦虑。 在大妈眼中生为老中是原罪。
这个靠谱 大部分人是担心跌落阶层 现在大学教育这么贵这么做 有没有志同道合的人大家来想办法？ 比如华人去个不极左的州自己捐款私立学校？技术类学校比如电焊等蓝领？或者多上网课 我看很多知识网校都可以学到而且便宜多了 就是人脉建立难一些 没有面对面的交流感
这个贫困绝对值上讲是对的 问题就是美国的穷人不可能也不愿意去了解体会第三世界的人和生活 他们从小只可能和周围人比 媒体也不会看到报道世界其他地区穷人的生活 缺乏现实感
你用地暖可能跟暖风的感受不一样，暖风的温度高了非常干燥，加湿器是必须的。不知道地暖的是不是二层地板下也布置水管，我家是furnace在attic里，暖风从上而下，我们晚上在二楼睡觉，70就差不多了。楼下晚上会比较冷，设置到70会频繁启动，可能跟一个furnace到远端效率变差有关，如果两个furnace效果会比较好。
夏天我们这不热，最热的一个月会用的上用ac，夏天相对容易，山上水泥slab的房子就是脚下冷。
赞一下最后一句。比你发的所有的诗都深刻。 或者也可以说，世界很大，老中活的太小…
这两句还真是不错👍。就这样努力💪。这样的句子还是不错的
很多人只会酸人家吃福利… 就是没有同理心。 近些年总觉得中国的教育，从古至今，都没什么人性…
也不是人人当尖子生。 觉得是功利主义至上，精神上的贫穷，中国从古至今的制度，社会形态，决定了老百姓没有话语权，不争不抢，连公平都得不到… 畸形…
开个贴说说理财吧……非常需要学学
上面贴了她是单亲妈妈，带俩孩子，9岁和17岁，孩子大了，确实需要一家人住两卧室。