你可以说Are you sure a waste organ define part of who you are?
她叫你名字,你回答直接也叫她名字不就好Bob, I thought carefully about this well before the meeting, it seems you are the person who does not seem to get my point blacklisted 发表于 10/31/2019 10:28:41 PM
Just say that, "Just want to make sure you are trying to understand something...because I sense a lot of hostility when you talking to me. If you do have problem with me, let's resolve it off line. Otherwise I will not answer any of your hostile questions."
Just say that, "Just want to make sure you are trying to understand something...because I sense a lot of hostility when you talking to me. If you do have problem with me, let's resolve it off line. Otherwise I will not answer any of your hostile questions." HermesMsg 发表于 10/31/2019 10:37:34 PM
这回答不算高明,別瞎记。 正确做法应分情况讨论: 如果她说的完全没价值,你说 ”bob, I don’t think you fully get this part. I’d be happy to connect offline to help you with it, if you need. But for now, lets move on to xxx to ensure we make the best use of everyone’s time” 如果她说的确实有一定道理,但不足以改变你的看法, 你说bob, that’s a great point. However, given xxxx, I’m not sure if xxxx. It would still make sense to xxx. So why don’t we do xyz?
如果她说的很有道理,你的看法也被改变了,你说bob, that’s a great point. Thank you for bringing it up. That is certainly worth exploring. If it is indeed like xxx, I think we should xxx.
这回答不算高明,別瞎记。 正确做法应分情况讨论: 如果她说的完全没价值,你说 ”bob, I don’t think you fully get this part. I’d be happy to connect offline to help you with it, if you need. But for now, lets move on to xxx to ensure we make the best use of everyone’s time” 如果她说的确实有一定道理,但不足以改变你的看法, 你说bob, that’s a great point. However, given xxxx, I’m not sure if xxxx. It would still make sense to xxx. So why don’t we do xyz?
如果她说的很有道理,你的看法也被改变了,你说bob, that’s a great point. Thank you for bringing it up. That is certainly worth exploring. If it is indeed like xxx, I think we should xxx.
比如“my comments are purely for the good of the project; if we do not do xxx, there is a high chance we will get no valuable results out of this test". "let me elaborate on why this is an important issue that we have to pay attention to before we officially start doing xxx. we should evaluate the necessity of doing xxx, which is ignored in our previous plan" 这些讲道理的话我完全没问题。
谢谢指点! 这些后面的我都说过,根据不同情况。这些argue的话我们小组讨论的时候经常说。问题就是,我说这些不足以阻止她继续以很不友好的口气叫我名字。 比如“my comments are purely for the good of the project; if we do not do xxx, there is a high chance we will get no valuable results out of this test". "let me elaborate on why this is an important issue that we have to pay attention to before we officially start doing xxx. we should evaluate the necessity of doing xxx, which is ignored in our previous plan" 这些讲道理的话我完全没问题。 我的问题是我没法不让这个同事以很不好的口气叫我名字。
这回答不算高明,別瞎记。 正确做法应分情况讨论: 如果她说的完全没价值,你说 ”bob, I don’t think you fully get this part. I’d be happy to connect offline to help you with it, if you need. But for now, lets move on to xxx to ensure we make the best use of everyone’s time” 如果她说的确实有一定道理,但不足以改变你的看法, 你说bob, that’s a great point. However, given xxxx, I’m not sure if xxxx. It would still make sense to xxx. So why don’t we do xyz?
如果她说的很有道理,你的看法也被改变了,你说bob, that’s a great point. Thank you for bringing it up. That is certainly worth exploring. If it is indeed like xxx, I think we should xxx.
这回答不算高明,別瞎记。 正确做法应分情况讨论: 如果她说的完全没价值,你说 ”bob, I don’t think you fully get this part. I’d be happy to connect offline to help you with it, if you need. But for now, lets move on to xxx to ensure we make the best use of everyone’s time” 如果她说的确实有一定道理,但不足以改变你的看法, 你说bob, that’s a great point. However, given xxxx, I’m not sure if xxxx. It would still make sense to xxx. So why don’t we do xyz?
如果她说的很有道理,你的看法也被改变了,你说bob, that’s a great point. Thank you for bringing it up. That is certainly worth exploring. If it is indeed like xxx, I think we should xxx.
我当时有点蒙,只说了一句,你怎么这么说话啊。
最近有点变本加厉,每次开会的时候她如果和我有不同意见,她都说,“Alice,(假定我叫Alice)这个东西是这样的,你明白不?” “Alice,你能不能想想,xxxx”
我特别讨厌大家在开诚布公讨论的时候她先上来叫我名字。我们小组讨论的时候一般都不这样说话,就算不同意某人的观点,也就事论事,不提名字,一般就说,啊,这个事情我看不能这么做,会有什么什么问题。她这样说让我觉得特别像上级对下级的说法,让我特别反感。而且她从来没这样叫过小组其他人的名字。我们小组只4个人,那两个比我们两个senior。有没有什么办法让她闭嘴?至少不要这样叫名字?老实说我办公室政治特别没有天赋,希望大家指点。
你可以说Are you sure a waste organ define part of who you are?
她叫你名字,你回答直接也叫她名字不就好Bob, I thought carefully about this well before the meeting, it seems you are the person who does not seem to get my point
我试过一两次,结果她也很生气。两人都快吵起来了。可是这样的话她又特别想找补回来,结果下次她还是这样,甚至更过分。
还是大家厉害。这个话我记下了。后半句太厉害了
记这个没用,每次situation都不一样的,你得先学会take it easy,才能轻松怼。怼的关键就是在他说的话里面找个easy targe嘲讽一番,对错都不重要。但是你最好小心这个的boundary,不要被人抓住小辫子
我就是想跟她指出来说她的话里带刺,可是又觉得提名字这个情况不是那么明显,她肯定说我没那个意思啊,叫你名字也不行吗。。。
我离能轻松怼还差的远。。。先以生搬几句为开始吧。
这回答不算高明,別瞎记。 正确做法应分情况讨论:
如果她说的完全没价值,你说 ”bob, I don’t think you fully get this part. I’d be happy to connect offline to help you with it, if you need. But for now, lets move on to xxx to ensure we make the best use of everyone’s time”
如果她说的确实有一定道理,但不足以改变你的看法, 你说bob, that’s a great point. However, given xxxx, I’m not sure if xxxx. It would still make sense to xxx. So why don’t we do xyz?
如果她说的很有道理,你的看法也被改变了,你说bob, that’s a great point. Thank you for bringing it up. That is certainly worth exploring. If it is indeed like xxx, I think we should xxx.
她可以叫你名字,那你叫她名字怎么就不行了? ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
谢谢指点!
这些后面的我都说过,根据不同情况。这些argue的话我们小组讨论的时候经常说。问题就是,我说这些不足以阻止她继续以很不友好的口气叫我名字。
比如“my comments are purely for the good of the project; if we do not do xxx, there is a high chance we will get no valuable results out of this test". "let me elaborate on why this is an important issue that we have to pay attention to before we officially start doing xxx. we should evaluate the necessity of doing xxx, which is ignored in our previous plan" 这些讲道理的话我完全没问题。
我的问题是我没法不让这个同事以很不好的口气叫我名字。
我就随便给个例子,你也不知道具体情况,你那种打酱油说法对这种故意找茬的人也没啥用,还有说同样的话怎么说也不一样,有些看似很重的话你可以很轻巧的说出来对方也不好直接杠,最怕你说的很僵硬那就尴尬了。
这个同事对你居高临下, 看来很难改变,也许是感觉是故意的。 楼主一定要去老板那complain!
非原则性的事情可以不要在乎,原则性的地方坚持。
别人是否尊重你不要放在心上,你be professional,忽略别人态度上的问题,淡定。
在很多事情上,别人友好你应该回报以友好和善意,别人不友好你就回报以公事公办地态度,关注在解决问题
然后在某次会上poke她一下,等她怒了就迅速move on,
会后马上找上级反应她对你有attitude,影响你的工作进度,浪费大家开会时间。
我同意这种方式, 工作中毫无意义的互怼只能是最好也不过是伤敌一千, 自损八百, 更何况我们在美国并没有语言上的优势,绝大多数都做不到表达上挥洒自如。
最好的办法就是这样的处理方式, 不理她的挑衅,用专业的方式来回答问题, 让她无处下爪自讨没趣,还能显示你的职业素养。
看来她就是吃准你不愿意吵啊。我以前一同事也这样。一年半以来我都没拉下脸跟她吵。后来忍无可忍爆发了一次。她再犯贱我就立即顶回去。虽然说她没完全停下来,但是频率有所降低,我心情好了很多,而且其他同事还都没看出来什么问题。不得不佩服大部分人洞察力之弱。
说得好。还有就是如果这人私下当面犯贱,很有效的一招就是不说话,很鄙视的看她一眼,然后起身走人。然后人前跟她嘻嘻哈哈好像没事一样。这种不要脸的人也不用给她脸。
多陶冶情操,不完整的人就不完整,生孩子还割脐带和胎盘呢。看问题要多角度,哪怕你要怼人,也要怼出水平,不要把自己拉低到跟她一个水准。。。。。。
对这种人你就别拐弯抹角了,有话直说,把你不喜欢的明白清楚的告诉她。
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下次如果再发生直接去跟HR反映。
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吵就吵呗,who怕who! 你懒得吵或者不敢吵,她肯定以为你好欺负。你要么就无视她存在,要么就撕破脸干一架。
Ywhy 发表于 10/31/2019 10:30:47 PM 有同事嘴贱,怎么办-33楼
--这种人远离,当着众人面给她一个现开销,以后就当她真空了,又不靠她吃饭,怕什么,况且人和人是相互的,她不给你面子,你干嘛要考虑她
I have understood that for years, how about you?
I thought about it thoroughly and got some solutions, how about you?
对付这种人,要么用幽默回击,要么用更强大的解决问题方法回击,否则作用不大。
我感觉你可以这样做:
1)她说你不是完整的人了,你可以说:“当然了,成了神。”
2)她总在会上叫你的名字,你可以若无其事地说:“XXX,鉴于以往的开会经历,一听你叫我的名字,我就心惊肉跳。我很乐意听你的意见,请讲。"
这样做,不是为了跟她硬碰硬地对付,而是委婉地提醒她不要再反复叫你名字,与会者如果哄堂大笑,她以后就更不好意思再这么叫了。
更好的办法是,下次或者以后每次你发完言,不管她发言不发言,你都这先说这一段话,然后先提她的名字,点名让她说话,先发制人。她以后认为你尊重她,可能会不那么挑衅。或者,即使她不这么想,相对你被动地 被她挑衅,还是主动挑战她,让你更有优势。
真厉害