1. If she has a lot of female friends, say something like "when I was your age, I always had a lot of female friends too. We shared food, always did things together, sometimes even exchanged clothing, just like you are doing with your friends right now. I never thought I wanted to be a boy, probably at that time, we didn't have term like LGBT. I think those terms were invented by some so-called psychologists. I honestly think the current generation are brain washed".
2. If she has a lot of male friends, say "when I was your age, I had more male friends than female friends since I just felt fun and relax with them. I liked to debate intellectually with them and make jokes since most of the time, they cared less. See, you just like me when I was your age. I am pefect straight".
3. Ask her how monks fit into LGBT. Ask her why? Suggest term LGBT could be just invented by some so called psychologists, who try to make a living (not insulting them here).
4. Frankly give her your opinions on human race. Some female will have male character, and vice versa, grey areas. This doesn't mean one has to change one's race surgically.
5. Dress her girly clothes, praise her "Wowow, you look Sooo prettyy!"
6. Don't be too intense. Chat with her causually when you both are doing things together, one at a time. Try to find if any of her friends influence her, then you should very subtly pull your daughter away from these friends.
Anyway, hope these could help a little bit. Best of luck!
以免走向极端，至少能做到双方都退一步再说。
少个女儿多个儿子不是也挺好吗？
家长和老师配合一下,看看能不能转移她的思维注意力, 让她忙得没时间胡思乱想.
这样看来还是我家没心没肺的吃货省心些.
她已经上高中了。如果她一直都是自己很有主见的人，那么你所能做的就只有支持。
1. If she has a lot of female friends, say something like "when I was your age, I always had a lot of female friends too. We shared food, always did things together, sometimes even exchanged clothing, just like you are doing with your friends right now. I never thought I wanted to be a boy, probably at that time, we didn't have term like LGBT. I think those terms were invented by some so-called psychologists. I honestly think the current generation are brain washed".
2. If she has a lot of male friends, say "when I was your age, I had more male friends than female friends since I just felt fun and relax with them. I liked to debate intellectually with them and make jokes since most of the time, they cared less. See, you just like me when I was your age. I am pefect straight".
3. Ask her how monks fit into LGBT. Ask her why? Suggest term LGBT could be just invented by some so called psychologists, who try to make a living (not insulting them here).
4. Frankly give her your opinions on human race. Some female will have male character, and vice versa, grey areas. This doesn't mean one has to change one's race surgically.
5. Dress her girly clothes, praise her "Wowow, you look Sooo prettyy!"
6. Don't be too intense. Chat with her causually when you both are doing things together, one at a time. Try to find if any of her friends influence her, then you should very subtly pull your daughter away from these friends.
Anyway, hope these could help a little bit. Best of luck!
我都记下了，要认真尝试。再一次谢谢大家！
当然，你们对她什么都满足，让她自我得认为一切都是应该的，不从你们的角度看问题。告诉她，你们对她变性要求的感受，与她变不了的难过感受是一样的。她愿意让你们一辈子这么难受吗？当然她会说你们也让我一辈子难受。你回答说不是的，因为她只有一人难受，而你们是父母两人。其实这种事在亚洲文化里不就这样，怕父母不高兴，也就算了。西方文化自我大于一切，这是孩子们把自己感受看得那么重要的原因。但是这里的孩子也不愿被认为是自私，所以你拼命说她self-centered, selfish, 让她从这个角度看你们的立场。
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YT : 魏谢雯师母( 史岱文森高中 心理辅导师魏谢雯) 心理健康讲座《性格、性别、性爱》 Pioneer Camp -家有2宝同性恋以前也有，但是非常稀罕，大多数是权贵们为了保持血统尊贵采取近亲结婚导致的基因变异。不象现在那么普遍。这个绝对是工业社会的化学污染的结果。
你看看商业社会你投资一个企业，要求企业按照你的意愿去经营，看看算不算自私？
觉得现在不要太激烈的反对，给予时间年龄大点想成熟再决定。
这不是家长的错，也不是孩子的错。 我建议看看心理医生，毕竟人家是有专业知识的，孩子也更容易听的进去， 至少可以帮助分析一下这是不是临时的phase还是真的就是。即使是，也不是病，只是不同于常人。我觉得你们的态度要明确：无论怎样，你们都一如既往地爱她，支持她。你们的态度对她是最重要的。相信她是优秀的孩子，你们也是善解人意的家长。
何不鼓励她交个男朋友, 让她对自己的性别更有信心?
可以看看金星的心路历程，还有她的变性手术医生，到最后不得以，可以带女儿回国咨询下那个著名的医生。
也许是青春期的激素影响，period期间的身心反应比较大，心里总想着要是个男孩就不会有这样的麻烦了。至少可以从这里着手跟女儿谈谈，问问为什么。敞开了谈，想法劝阻现在就要变性手术。
我曾经帮以前同乡改造她家的假小子老大，现在结婚生子了
不是她的错因此要接纳，关爱，和帮助她，大不了失去一个女儿但孩子还是自己的；第三，试着改变她的变性意识，找准机会比如讨论有关电影或社会话题时说眀自己的观点，不要带嘲讽或厌恶的表情，只是平静的表达自己对此事的观点，但谈话特别要让她感觉到你们的爱结束。第四，平时多鼓励她买衣服穿着打扮交男朋友，跟她一起去mall看服装店，常常告诉她你的皮肤身材很漂亮，指着一些衣服说这个跟你很配，你穿着会很好看，鼓励她买。她还小，有可能改変。
看看Bruce Jenner, 那会儿要变性，每个人都说他勇敢。哦扑拉也叫好打气。现在变好了，后悔了呢。
二，网友’古代的事物‘，soldanella的意见、建议非常睿智，希望你采纳。
楼主暂时不必慌乱。孩子如此做有相当大的可能性只是表达希望得到更多的关注。
表示对孩子的理解，拖延对孩子的任何具体行动的计划做明确表态也许最明智。青春期的孩子对很多事情的想法会不断变化的。父母最好暂时避免针对孩子的变性愿望做任何直接回应，避免激化矛盾。如果父母能分享年轻时有过的一些极端想法，后来又改主意了的例子，也许对孩子会有帮助。