Becoming a mom is a difficult process with a lot of soul searching and self-discovery. It sounds like that your child needs some help, especially the help from you. Ask yourself what can you give to your child. Can you take a leave of absence to stay at home for a bit. The first two years are crucial. But there are too many controversies as for how to deal with the crucial first two years. Some people say to train your child to suit your work and adult life style. Some people say that wants and needs are identical at this stage and encourage attachment parenting. Dr. Sears and his "The Baby Book" is a strong supporter for the second argument. I agree with him. And I can give you an example of my own child. My dtr is purely breastfed after one month. She started solids at 6 months old. She loves eating usually. But whenever she gets sick or gets a vaccine, she prefers breastfeeding (not just breastmilk). I am grateful that I had one year materinity leave and was able to give her the breastmilk whenever she needed during the first year. Good nutrition is the foundation for growth, brain and limbs. And I believe that you need help as a new mom as well. I cannot imagine how hard it has been for you to go through all those problems.
I do not know what to suggest. Other than encouraging you to take a break and take a hard look at yourself and your child. We need a very carefully developed game plan if we want to win some hard battles in life. Good luck!
14个月不说话,不走路,这也没什么太不正常的。我娃2岁多才开始说话,几个月以后中文英文就都很流利了,娃各自发育的pace不一样,不要太着急
关于夜醒,熬到2岁就会好不少。 我家这个3岁了,半夜还有时候起来嚎一个小时呢,lol
小娃生下来连看人都不会,只会仰望虚空,除了奶,这世界的一切对她都是没有任何意义的,所以一定要疼啊, 人之初真的不容易啊不容易,当妈的要多担待。觉得楼主的妈妈应该是对婴儿懂的比较多的,但是表达不出来或者表达不好。
这么多人说了lz还是不听那有什么办法?既然都要崩溃了,那必须做出改变啊,action action。
你妈妈就是个toxic的源头,你已经无力改变她了。不如你辞职好了,先在家里带一年娃,然后娃送daycare,就差不多了。虽然带娃也不是很好的工作,但是至少你可以有空补补觉,不然晚上不睡白天上班真的受不了。
养大了孩子的觉得同意你妈妈的做法,太小的时候哭孩子肯定是需要安抚的,否则让他哭累了自己睡,长大后会有各种问题,心理深处有不安全
MM不容易,bless 你们家宝宝
职业妇女强烈RE.
孩子是一辈子的事情,自己的身体和情绪也很重要。至于事业, 慢慢总有抬头的时候。
而且lz的孩子挺明显是不舒服。。。其实经济条件允许的话lz辞职自己带一阵,该看的医生做的检查都去做了,反正不上班孩子想睡就睡想吃就吃,先保证量再慢慢调作息。什么都按schedule来并不适合每一个娃。当年我也训睡过,每次回想都有点后悔,所以后来反复的时候索性cosleep了 ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
有的孩子天生弱小,或者因为一些特殊事件发展比较迟缓,这对父母的确是很大的考验,可能会很迷茫,但是当你决定生下她的那刻起,你就没有退路了。。
最后要说的是,父母就是父母,这个角色是任何人都不能替代的,抚养孩子,是以父母为核心的,其他人都只是辅助。这个关系弄错,家庭矛盾纷争会很多。
养育孩子很辛苦,这个辛苦不但是身体上的,更多的是在心力上。过五关斩六将,一道道的关,一道道的过。
I agree with you, breastfeeding is best
如果小孩真的状况比较多,可以考虑看看辞职在家呆一年?起码你不是工作家庭两边都焦头烂额,父母帮忙很多时候也不一定是正效应。树挪死人挪活,总是有办法的。