My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
I expect them to at least taking care of my kid when he was sick and staying at home, or helping me a little bit with cleaning up the dinner table, putting dirty dishes in dishwasher, cleaning their own restroom, etc.
not taking care of the kid every day, just occasionally when I really need a hand. I wasn't expect them to cook for me because we order to go for dinner almost everyday.
My son is sick today so I took today off, but because of some emergency I had go to office for two hours. Before I left home, I told my son to watch TV so he won't bother grandparents. Before I left home, I asked my dad whether he can stop the TV an hour later, so my son could take a break. My dad pretend he didn't hear anything from me...
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four monthS ago. During (In) the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with (remove with ...) cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old (5-year old ... ) kid got sick and (was ) staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
My son is sick today so I took today off, but because of some emergency I had go to office for two hours. Before I left home, I told my son to watch TV so he won't bother grandparents. Before I left home, I asked my dad whether he can stop the TV an hour later, so my son could take a break. My dad pretend he didn't hear anything from me...
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four monthS ago. During (In) the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with (remove with ...) cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old (5-year old ... ) kid got sick and (was ) staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
greendeer 发表于 12/6/2018 5:31:58 PM [/url]
It’s SO normal, why expect so much from your parents even after their 73?
在过去,有古话说的好“73 84, 阎王不叫自己去” ,用英语说 ”To die is their job now" 。 老人愿意干是他自己的事,不愿意干还能报怨?不是我MEAN, 说实在的,现在大家寿命都长,有人能73仍然健康,是你父母的运气,更是你的福气。你是这是多欠免费佣人,非让父母给你干活?真的要榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗??
It’s SO normal, why expect so much from your parents even after their 73?
在过去,有古话说的好“73 84, 阎王不叫自己去” ,用英语说 ”To die is their job now" 。 老人愿意干是他自己的事,不愿意干还能报怨?不是我MEAN, 说实在的,现在大家寿命都长,有人能73仍然健康,是你父母的运气,更是你的福气。你是这是多欠免费佣人,非让父母给你干活?真的要榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗??
the only reason I typing English here is because my computer doesn't have pinyin input. What's the big deal of typing English? I know my English is super bad compared with most mm here, so no intention if showing off.
榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗...have I mentioned that all I expected from them is taking care of my kid when I really need a help? For example, when he gets sick. That probably is only gonna take them couple of hours in 6 months. if you call this 榨干父母最后一滴血汗, then you are insane and wish you the best with your kids when you are old btw, 天天 means what, every day? I strongly suggest you read your post before you hit send.
It’sSO normal, why expect so much from your parents even after their 73? 在过去,有古话说的好“73 84, 阎王不叫自己去” ,用英语说 ”To die is their job now" 。 老人愿意干是他自己的事,不愿意干还能报怨?不是我MEAN, 说实在的,现在大家寿命都长,有人能73仍然健康,是你父母的运气,更是你的福气。你是这是多欠免费佣人,非让父母给你干活?真的要榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗?? 有空发帖子,你还是多自己干点活吧,实在不行练练英语,或者装个汉字输入法也好,不用天天在中文论坛上飚英语装B, 感觉你还是挺闲的!
It’s SO normal, why expect so much from your parents even after their 73?
在过去,有古话说的好“73 84, 阎王不叫自己去” ,用英语说 ”To die is their job now" 。 老人愿意干是他自己的事,不愿意干还能报怨?不是我MEAN, 说实在的,现在大家寿命都长,有人能73仍然健康,是你父母的运气,更是你的福气。你是这是多欠免费佣人,非让父母给你干活?真的要榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗??
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
老人到这个岁数就随他们自己的想法,想做啥做啥,不想做啥就不做啥,如果LZ不满,就不要跟父母一起住。你如果觉得他们有义务在生活上帮助你,他们也可以觉得你有义务不要再麻烦他们这两个70多的老人呢。用国内的话说,都半截身子进土的人了,还反过来要求他们照顾你的生活,要不就是你家里such a mess,要不就是你太greedy,太不明事理。
I expect them to at least taking care of my kid when he was sick and staying at home, or helping me a little bit with cleaning up the dinner table, putting dirty dishes in dishwasher, cleaning their own restroom, etc. greendeer 发表于 12/6/2018 6:08:41 PM
My parents, 73 years old, healthy. Came to visit us four month ago. During the past four months, they didn't help with anything, not with cooking, dish washing, house cleaning, or anything else. Even when my 5 years old kid got sick and staying at home, they wouldn't spend more than 20 minutes with her. Is this normal? Or I just happen to have careless parents.
Maybe I am not used to the fact that they are old. But I wasn't expect too much from them...
I expect them to at least taking care of my kid when he was sick and staying at home, or helping me a little bit with cleaning up the dinner table, putting dirty dishes in dishwasher, cleaning their own restroom, etc.
是呀,平时不帮忙,小朋友生病了搭把手很正常吧。何况,73岁,不算很老。
父母不生病,能减轻极大负担。
hmmm.你都四十多了还指望爸妈帮你做家务带娃?
not taking care of the kid every day, just occasionally when I really need a hand. I wasn't expect them to cook for me because we order to go for dinner almost everyday.
My son is sick today so I took today off, but because of some emergency I had go to office for two hours. Before I left home, I told my son to watch TV so he won't bother grandparents.
Before I left home, I asked my dad whether he can stop the TV an hour later, so my son could take a break. My dad pretend he didn't hear anything from me...
。。请原谅我的职业病。。。BTW 那他们干嘛了???
其实问这个没有意义。如果我们说你爸妈比较极品,你怎么办?送回去?你爸妈要来享受儿孙绕膝,你不让来?
现在很多人说你爸妈正常,你一再反驳,说明你心里有有天平啊!大多数人在爸妈和孩子之间选择,都选择孩子,觉得孩子更需要他们,但是其实爸妈也老了,也需要
不是我爸妈啊。。。晕 我又不是LZ
如果是我的话,我不会期待70几岁的爹妈干活,不添乱就可以了
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中国人中文网站不说中文绝对是不正常的都什么年代了 表告诉我没有中文输入
神烦这种中国人中文网站中文群里说鸟语装13的
我妈负责用洗衣机洗衣服 叠衣服 给我们依次放到各自的drawer 里 然后吸尘 拖地 带我儿子
我爸做饭 天天包子 馒头 馅饼 饺子 还有油条 油饼 葱油饼 南瓜饼 等等
我妈还每天负责刷碗 收拾厨房
我在家都我干 我上班去了 回来人家啥都干完了
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Yes, no 中文输入
reading books, watching Tv, chatting with friends on wechat, or just sitting there doing nothing
They did cook by themselves when they lived in China
sorry I know my english is bad. Please bear with me.
pls, it is either 5 years old or 5-year-old. I can't stop wondering what your 职业 is
if you 神烦, pls skip this post. Thanks very much
two more months to go
上次不是有个版上的妹子把80多岁的奶奶还是外婆弄来帮她坐月子,被大家好一通批?她一直强调她外婆/奶奶身体好。。。。
It’s SO normal, why expect so much from your parents even after their 73?
在过去,有古话说的好“73 84, 阎王不叫自己去” ,用英语说 ”To die is their job now" 。 老人愿意干是他自己的事,不愿意干还能报怨?不是我MEAN, 说实在的,现在大家寿命都长,有人能73仍然健康,是你父母的运气,更是你的福气。你是这是多欠免费佣人,非让父母给你干活?真的要榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗??
有空发帖子,你还是多自己干点活吧,实在不行练练英语,或者装个汉字输入法也好,不用天天在中文论坛上飚英语装B, 感觉你还是挺闲的!
the only reason I typing English here is because my computer doesn't have pinyin input. What's the big deal of typing English? I know my English is super bad compared with most mm here, so no intention if showing off.
榨干父母最后一滴血汗才甘心吗...have I mentioned that all I expected from them is taking care of my kid when I really need a help? For example, when he gets sick. That probably is only gonna take them couple of hours in 6 months. if you call this 榨干父母最后一滴血汗, then you are insane and wish you the best with your kids when you are old
btw, 天天 means what, every day? I strongly suggest you read your post before you hit send.
I am taking care everything of them. I am not expecting them to cook or clean house or take care my kid.
我外婆80了,还在忙里忙外,很可爱。
shen jing bing
LZ爹妈以前就这样吗?LZ应该很了解自己的父母吧。
如果父母健康,当然这样不对了。别的家务不说了,老人对孙辈都是发自内心的爱。你不让干,他们都情不自禁要帮忙照顾。尤其是孩子病了,那是心疼得不行。
如果以前不这样,突然变了,可能是有啥疾病?比如老年痴呆啥?一般会伴随记忆力衰退,或者胡言乱语,重复不存在的事实。或者有啥特殊想法。比如不想来美国,对你不满,所以故意赌气。
LZ为啥不直接和爹妈沟通,要问网友?
人和人真是不一样。要求别人改变不如自己改变接受事实来的简单
一般来说爱孩子的父母不至于这样啦。七十多会有点力不从心是正常的。但是一般都会帮些力所能及的事情。就算老美的爸妈如果孩子求助要求看着孙辈两小时,有时间的一般也很少拒绝的。
一家人,身体也健康,偶尔搭把手都不行吗?只有像菩萨一样供着才行吗?做圣母多容易啊。我就不信你父母偶尔帮你看几分钟娃都不肯时你还会这么淡定。
我只说楼主在这飙蹩脚英文,肯定 不正常!!!
There you go.
You are welcome.
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You thought I didn't know how to install this? Why so many people here prefer to thinking others as idiots
then pls show your non 蹩脚英文
I am actually having lots of fun watching their reactions.
from their perspective, 父母偶尔帮看几分钟娃 =榨干父母最后一滴血汗Not everyone here is well educated, so I won't take all the comments seriously.
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you use web 版? omg
孙子病了也不心疼,不正常
虽然说不是每个人都能70多岁还有一个好身体,
但既然能坐长途飞机飞到国外来,身体就没衰败到不能在自己孩子急需帮忙的时候搭一把手的程度。
拒绝对孩子提供一切帮助肯定是比较自私的行为。
你这父母是有点凉薄就是了。你以前跟他们关系不好吗?
楼主也就是希望他们搭把手,更何况在小朋友生病的情况下。我觉得挺不正常的,虽然73了,但是收拾收拾碗筷还是可以的吧,而且主要也不是非得老人做什么,而是一家人一起忙忙碌碌有一种融洽感。不过楼主事已至此你也没办法改变,就随他们去吧。
如果lz mm实在没办法,最好发展一两个值得信赖的babysitter,孩子病了或者放假的时候来帮忙照看一下。我家即使有姥姥来长住(姥姥非常给力),但我有时还是会叫babysitter来,比如有时学校放假但家长上班,两娃在家得烦姥姥一整天,babysitter来陪娃写写画画什么的,姥姥负责做个午饭,也不用太辛苦,姥姥心里也不觉得自己就像保姆一样。
有mm说lz英文蹩脚,我觉得这不是就是平时咱们聊天说的话吗?挺好的啊 也许是我英文不好。如果有mm觉得特别不好的,可以贴出来自己的说法吗?这样大家也可以学习一下,毕竟能说更好的英文对我们在这里生活也有帮助
Because you are.
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Re 我觉得这不是就是平时咱们聊天说的话吗 完全同意,我的语法也不是很好,但是每天跟老外们聊天没有任何问题啊,我以前还是做电话客服的