There's still a lot to be thankful for. At least both are living well. Both were still young at the time. We are living in peace that most people just think about find a job, having a baby, buying a house and such. If we compare our lives to those in war, this is like heaven to them.
when we were young, I guess we were all ambitious, trying to change the world, we did something impulsive, then we had to face the consequence, then maybe we regret, maybe we don;t...
I remember reading this poet titled "summer" when I was 14, still remember part of it "everything green, gentle, impulsive turning into clam. tough and mature, but there was no regret, no tear, left behind was a hot path called summer" this was probably for the 60's culture revolution generation, but it can well describe everyone........
Such a touching storry. I guess even they loved each other deeply in the past, there is just too much reality for them to face for them be together. Life is life. Life is not drama. If lz and Wei were 60 or 70 years old, like the couple in that mv, they might have made a different decision. We wish both of them have a happy ending no matter what a happy ending means.
以下是引用东明珠在2006-8-27 20:42:00的发言： 唉，感觉心好痛。JJ不要太难过了，可以宽慰的是他没有离开这个世界，你还有机会看见他。 Yes, what I relief that your love didnt die. I prayed after I saw he didnt die.
以下是引用Dreamgarden在2006-9-11 2:08:00的发言： 我还是不太明白. 5年的时间过得很快. 人生还有无数个五年,楼主为什么不能完成学业后回去,和伟在一起呢? 生命中重要的不是呆在美国,不是学业,我觉得是自己心爱的人. 要我,不会作出和楼主一样的选择的. 呵呵. 不知道楼主这样子,一晃十五年过去,有没有后悔过. It was not her choice to stay. Wei didnt want her to stay.
god. it's the first I have heard a real, entire story about 64. Chinese government was so fucking bloody cruel. God. They will do anything to keep their regime.
当时为什么不能再等五年以后，伟已经刑满了，回国和他在一起呢？ 也许我的想法很不现实。我宁愿选择轰轰列列的爱情。不愿意太平淡。 如果回头和伟在一起，接下来的也将是平淡的生活。我觉得他们的爱情已经是轰轰烈烈了。
I remember reading this poet titled "summer" when I was 14, still remember part of it "everything green, gentle, impulsive turning into clam. tough and mature, but there was no regret, no tear, left behind was a hot path called summer" this was probably for the 60's culture revolution generation, but it can well describe everyone........
十五年一挥间(二十六) 伟坚持让我走, 让我回到美国继续自己的学业, 继续自己的生活, 他说如果我要留下来, 就是他心里一辈子的负担. 无论我再怎样的恳求和哭诉, 他依然是那样的坚定... 在彼此的沉默中, 我意识到了: 当爱变的如此无奈的时候, 真的是多么的悲哀. 六年前, 彼此命运的交错也许就已经注定了是一辈子的交错. 面对命运, 我真的无奈了. .......... 回来的路上, 我俩一句话都没有说. 手还是藏在他温暖的棉袄里... 为什么要屈服？明明还爱的？
不过说实在,是楼主自己改变了. 如果回到五年前的你,一定会留下来的,伟说的那些话全是借口. 五年后,其实楼主已经不那么爱伟了,或者说,楼主是爱上了自己的老公了. 回去见伟,只是还一个债而已啦~ 活活!
伟应该被控制不能出国的吧？那么楼主怎么办呢？真是让人唏嘘感慨的故事
唉，感觉心好痛。JJ不要太难过了，可以宽慰的是他没有离开这个世界，你还有机会看见他。 Yes, what I relief that your love didnt die. I prayed after I saw he didnt die.
我还是不太明白. 5年的时间过得很快. 人生还有无数个五年,楼主为什么不能完成学业后回去,和伟在一起呢? 生命中重要的不是呆在美国,不是学业,我觉得是自己心爱的人. 要我,不会作出和楼主一样的选择的. 呵呵. 不知道楼主这样子,一晃十五年过去,有没有后悔过.
这就是生活的无奈！不过人生留下了能让你回味的一页，也算不太刻薄! 是啊！ 而且现在的生活是LZ自己选的，所以也没什么好唏嘘的了。
lz 保重
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为什么要屈服？明明还爱的？
经历过学潮的人,在这个版的不多了吧? I am one of them, but I worked already at that time.
哈哈70年代末在64的时候也只是小学生而已，至少我那时是不懂什么政治的，何以见得70年代末和80年代初就有一代人的差异？？可笑 虽然说差几年，但是成长大环境都不一样，所以有人说三年一代沟，我跟我表弟就差一年半，他低我一级，他那些小孩喜欢的关心的东西我啥都不知道。70年代末的很多还多子女家庭，80年后的基本都独生子女，还有80后很多家庭环境都比以前好不少，这本来就差很多，升学压力，就业压力，就是上学晚个两三年都不一样
有些事真的不是你想怎样就怎样的，只要2个都好好的活着，知道对方也在这个地球上幸福的生活着，就好
What are you talking about?
生活不是只有爱就行了的，充满了太多的无奈。
伟是一个好人。
很多时候错过了就是错过了，唉。。。。。真的很无奈的。。。。。。。