From Exclusive Dating to Relationship

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wemg
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I cannot type in Chinese since I am using my work laptop.
I have been seeing this guy for over two months. We have been sort of exclusively seeing each other but he has never spoken it out. I found out he went back to use the dating web again a few days ago and i was really upset. So i started to ask him if we were dating and where we stand. After a few days' serious talk, finally he agreed we are exclusively dating.

Just wanted to ask mm here, what is the next step from exclusively dating to being in a relationship? any suggestions what to do? Not to do during this period?

Thanks!
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yyyyingggg
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you will know when things get serious.....like he will introduce you to his friends and he will tell you that he loves you and wanted you to meet his family
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hellokitty00
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If you need to force a guy to go exclusive with you, do you think how long it is gonna last? I think you should tell him if he doesn't want to be exclusive them you will start dating around too.
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solveijg
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Exclusive这种事得男生提,男生如果不提,那就默认他还在见其他人,你不吭声也见其他人。Matthew Hussey有个视频专门讲怎么DTR (Define The Relationship)

以我的经验,男生真正上心的都很快想把你lock down,生怕你被别人抢走了。不用主动提,男生基本约会5,6次之后就会主动提。如果吃着碗里还看着锅里的,十有八九不是很serious或者不是那么喜欢。
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wemg
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Exclusive这种事得男生提,男生如果不提,那就默认他还在见其他人,你不吭声也见其他人。Matthew Hussey有个视频专门讲怎么DTR (Define The Relationship)

以我的经验,男生真正上心的都很快想把你lock down,生怕你被别人抢走了。不用主动提,男生基本约会5,6次之后就会主动提。如果吃着碗里还看着锅里的,十有八九不是很serious或者不是那么喜欢。
solveijg 发表于 11/9/2017 1:12:55 PM

我date的不少、还没有遇到见了5,6次就能知道要不要exclusive的。我觉得我可能太慢热了
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crazycrab
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我date的不少、还没有遇到见了5,6次就能知道要不要exclusive的。我觉得我可能太慢热了

wemg 发表于 11/9/2017 2:19:01 PM


我觉得女生慢热很正常,比如我,年龄到了,找的肯定是结婚对象,觉得没了解到一定程度不敢贸然进入relationship,很谨慎,因为不小心就耽误几个月甚至几年。所以我男朋友很早就跟别人说我是他女朋友的时候,虽然我也没见其他人,但我心里面还没有承认他是我男朋友,直到两个多月后。
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Joyce1026
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I don’t think girls should ever initiate the talk. That gives the guy power to make a decision.
I also thought being in an exclusive relationship means you are are in a relationship .... lol whats the point otherwise
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xiaobuding0110
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我以后也要这样~ 感情不要投入太快
大衣被禁
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你们互相介绍这是我的男女朋友就是exclusive.
你们订婚了就是in a relationship.
你们结婚了,就算感情不错。
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appleabc
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Exclusive这种事得男生提,男生如果不提,那就默认他还在见其他人,你不吭声也见其他人。Matthew Hussey有个视频专门讲怎么DTR (Define The Relationship)

以我的经验,男生真正上心的都很快想把你lock down,生怕你被别人抢走了。不用主动提,男生基本约会5,6次之后就会主动提。如果吃着碗里还看着锅里的,十有八九不是很serious或者不是那么喜欢。
solveijg 发表于 11/9/2017 1:12:55 PM

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korikori
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我的情况是直接问的
我们是从朋友开始的
我问他你还在跟别人约会吗? 他说没有啊 为什么会? 你呢 我说我也没有,但是这个在美国好像挺正常
他逗我说你身边都是些什么人呀 我身边没这样的
哈哈 给他点个赞
直接问呗。 然后不玻璃心就行