Those men who would disappear are NOT that into you. Stop finding excuses for them, move on, better yourself. Even a 10 year old american boy would know that if you want to win over a girl you truly care about, you do NOT disappear. This behavior only indicates that they do NOT care about how you feel. Even they contacted you before everyday, they didn't become exclusive with you , didn't they? they could have more free time, nothing better to do, saw you as a spare tire in case things don't work out with the girls they really want, or just to see if they can have quick sex with you.
Please do NOT take this personal or as negative. My English is not perfect by any means. From your reply to mine, I have a feeling that English is probably not your strong suit. I can see how a guy would have difficulty connecting with you on a deeper level if they don't speak Chinese. This is the 2nd or 3rd time I saw your posts, I want to say something because you reminded me of an old friend. Please take the word of most sisters replied to you and forget what starry said, most guys will NOT need you to work so hard or worry so much if he really cares about you, the men who don't care about you won't care about how you feel and just appear and disappear in your life as they wish, because they don't care about an end game with you, so whatever they do to you is spontaneous and not thought out, good or bad. You are reading too much into what they do or say, guys are simple, if he likes you, you will know. they will want to see you everyday if possible. they would worry about how you do when they are not around, they won't just disappear and come back when they feel like it. you deserve much better, the only way to get the guy you want is to better yourself, when you are so amazing inside and out, he will come into your life.
回复17楼笑笑哇哈哈的帖子 Please do NOT take this personal or as negative. My English is not perfect by any means. From your reply to mine, I have a feeling that English is probably not your strong suit. I can see how a guy would have difficulty connecting with you on a deeper level if they don't speak Chinese. This is the 2nd or 3rd time I saw your posts, I want to say something because you reminded me of an old friend. Please take the word of most sisters replied to you and forget what starry said, most guys will NOT need you to work so hard or worry so much if he really cares about you, the men who don't care about you won't care about how you feel and just appear and disappear in your life as they wish, because they don't care about an end game with you, so whatever they do to you is spontaneous and not thought out, good or bad. You are reading too much into what they do or say, guys are simple, if he likes you, you will know. they will want to see you everyday if possible. they would worry about how you do when they are not around, they won't just disappear and come back when they feel like it. you deserve much better, the only way to get the guy you want is to better yourself, when you are so amazing inside and out, he will come into your life.
lz说的最后那个说法简直是扯淡，如果真的是从网上搜来的，只能说会自欺欺人的女人真多.......再就是，诶，lz是不是很年轻恋爱经验比较少，等再成熟点，能看透了就好了，其实就是he is not that into you. 而且你这种删了又注册别的账户去看得做法，太小女孩了....早点move on吧
This is called ghost away. Don't hang on him any more and don't take initiative at contacting him. You need cut any expectations and fully prepare a life without him. It is very hard to do this, but you need to do this. He might come back later but you will be full control when that day comes. As other girls here said he is not that into you, at least right now. I struggled with this before and completely understand you. Hang on there.
网上的答案说他们要么是试探你想PULL BACK， 要么是太忙了， 要么是同时约太多 忙不过来 ，要么是找了个更好的没勇气和你说再见 ，要么就是享受BE A CHASER而已 ，要么就是太INTO你了 但目前不想谈感情 所以选个不怎么CARE的女人玩玩而已。
怎么对方这样的行为呢？因为实在是太伤人了 遇到2次了
有高招的姐妹吗？ 以后防止类似事情发生
端着是什么意思
只约会了3次 约第四次的时候 时间约不上 就不联系我了 然后更新ONLINE DATING 照片 然后当天又去掉更新的照片 然后晚上联系我了 聊的开心 然后又几天不联系了
之前是天天联系我
我一气之下 把WHATAPP注销了
WHATAPP是2年前注册的 用的是之前的手机 现在注销后 没法恢复了
他只有我WHATAPP NUMBER
我第3次跟他约会的时候去BOULDER 各自填写了表格 里面有电话和地址什么的
要看他有没有心了
我有他电话 但是1个月内不打算主动联系了
i just cant hear from him as before
can u call this disappear?
i dont want be active
but your opinion is different from others
找个喜欢的DATE真的好难
是他玩消失
我用新手机号码注册了个WHATAPP
偷偷看他有没有上WHATAPP
一直没上哦
不然我现在还傻傻的等他信息呢
可是为啥之前都一直表现的好像很喜欢我呢
re 男的玩消失都是没那么喜欢这个女的（未必是女的条件不好），而且没打算继续。如果再回头，女的也只是备胎而已。反过来说，女的对自己不喜欢的男的不也是直接人间蒸发。
Please do NOT take this personal or as negative. My English is not perfect by any means. From your reply to mine, I have a feeling that English is probably not your strong suit. I can see how a guy would have difficulty connecting with you on a deeper level if they don't speak Chinese.
This is the 2nd or 3rd time I saw your posts, I want to say something because you reminded me of an old friend. Please take the word of most sisters replied to you and forget what starry said, most guys will NOT need you to work so hard or worry so much if he really cares about you, the men who don't care about you won't care about how you feel and just appear and disappear in your life as they wish, because they don't care about an end game with you, so whatever they do to you is spontaneous and not thought out, good or bad. You are reading too much into what they do or say, guys are simple, if he likes you, you will know. they will want to see you everyday if possible. they would worry about how you do when they are not around, they won't just disappear and come back when they feel like it.
you deserve much better, the only way to get the guy you want is to better yourself, when you are so amazing inside and out, he will come into your life.
我觉得她英文很好啊
不删除 一直等待他永远不回发来的短信 更痛苦
我在论坛里纠结几天就OK了
都消失了你还对付个啥。难道静静的吊死在他门口不成。
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还有, 能让你一下很喜欢的说明你配不上。一般和你匹配的男生你一开始都不会很喜欢。这是事实。看清点吧。
如果你觉得自己必须端着，那就认真一点端好了，那从你觉得他在玩消失开始，就直接move on，他如果回头找你，你看当时心情决定要不要继续
你这种把自己户头注销然后另外注册一个去偷窥对方是不是在意你的玩法，玩的是自己。
有他的电话但是决定一个月以内不联系，如果你一个月以后主动联系他，更难看，他本来天天联系你，两天没联系，你主动一下，算比较自然的，等一个月，算什么？另外你都通过偷窥知道人家不是因为你删了户头找不到你，是根本没在找你了，你这等一个月算什么意思？
你觉得自己喜欢他都不一定准，你觉得他喜欢你，就更不要当真了。
很简单啊，他消失你也消失不就好了，想那么多干嘛
不好意思 我和他用法语和英语交流没有问题 ；）
我跟本地人交流 他们还经常拼错单词 语法错误呢 放松点。喜欢你的人 语言不是问题 肢体语言最重要😄
老外不会计较外国人的语言的 只有装逼的中国人才会这样 Lol
万一他以后再联系你， 记得不要回应。
男人不上赶着追你就是不喜欢你， simple enough.
看她自己说的，又删除帐户，有注册新账户偷看人家状态....好疯啊……
这么大还不懂怎样才算是被男人追求么....不好意思我没抢到deal,说话mean了
也消失就行了
你说的好对
他也觉得我太容易拿下了 结果也傻眼了哈哈哈哈
怎么样才算是被男的追求呢？
As other girls here said he is not that into you, at least right now. I struggled with this before and completely understand you.
Hang on there.