很多日本人確實這樣、非常冷漠無情、菲夷所思、表裡不一，看看住日外國人怎麼評價日本、
日本人像自己自稱的那樣誠實嗎？。 權威的Quora上只舉6個住日本的外國人這樣回答。 Are Japanese claimed to be honest?
1) Johnny Utah, lives in Japan (2010-present)
Answered Oct 2
While I believe that people all over the world are the same, I will point out that the justice system in Japan is extremely corrupt.
If you are accused of a crime in Japan (even if you are innocent) the police charge you as guilty without a trial and without evidence.
There are countless horror stories online and stories I have heard from friends about situations where they were suddenly scooped up by police and interrogated for hours, then thrown into a jail cell for months…with no evidence proving them guilty other than arbitrary he said/she said nonsense.
The police basically blackmail all criminal suspects with long jail sentences and heavy fines if they refuse to admit that they are guilty…what a joke this country is. Quite the polar opposite of “innocent until proven guilty” which is used in the US.
I like to phrase the system here “guilty until proven guilty”.
2) Johnny Smith, lives in Japan
Answered Aug 6, 2017
Japan is really no different than another! It’s full of crimes and robberies!.
People are people, and there are going to be cheaters and criminals in any place, and Japan is no different.
Poorer and seedier places are always going to be more prone to crimes than other places.
3) Vincent Detroyat, Aircraft Safety Engineer
Answered Oct 20, 2017
I'm living here for 6 months now.
one it is hidden, they are like several people: drunk, fight, stole, etc… we don't know what happened behind the window. And for a foreigner, it is hard to know it. People will not say that the country is not safe etc…
Some companies are not so clean that they want to show us (Yakuza and cie could contribute to). Making false contract, handles some bad men to perform a job, abusive power… exists here too, maybe more than other countri
3) Vincent Detroyat, Aircraft Safety Engineer
Answered Oct 20, 2017
I'm living here for 6 months now.
one it is hidden, they are like several people: drunk, fight, stole, etc… we don't know what happened behind the window. And for a foreigner, it is hard to know it. People will not say that the country is not safe etc…
Some companies are not so clean that they want to show us (Yakuza and cie could contribute to). Making false contract, handles some bad men to perform a job, abusive power… exists here too, maybe more than other countries. But everybody will close his eyes (remember the 3 monkeys…).
If a girl is raped in a train, nobody will try to help her… because everybody thinks “it is not my problem, if I help, I will have problem…”.
4)Ken Seeroi, That
Updated Aug 12, 2017
Absolutely not. I’ve lived here for over a decade and seen all manner of crime.
Japan goes to great lengths to maintain this image. The reality is that most crime is Japanese on Japanese, and “foreigners” don’t get caught up in it very often. So you get tourist reports of “the time I lost my wallet” etc. and stories where people see what they were hoping to see (also known as confirmation bias).
Living among Japanese people and speaking only Japanese, I’ve witnessed and heard countless tales of muggings, rapes, fights, purse snatchings, pick-pockets, home break-ins, suicides, car break-ins, motorcycle theft, bicycle theft, pedophilia, animal cruelty. Shoplifting is common. There are large signs in. Sign: “Stop Shoplifting. No matter what the reason, stealing things is a crime.”
stores warning patrons not to do it. Dumping trash in the rivers and forests is common. There are signs everywhere prohibiting it. Molesting women on the train is common. Again, signs everywhere. Japan is just a normal country like anywhere else, that’s all.
5) Richard Smith, Independent Developer at Undisclosed Company (2010-present)
Answered Dec 19, 2017
I don’t
5) Richard Smith, Independent Developer at Undisclosed Company (2010-present)
Answered Dec 19, 2017
I don’t understand this. I am not one to judge anyone, but culturally, the japanese culture is very dishonest and deceptive. In fact, they hugely value deception, specifically the ability to feign contentment and low emotional energy in a situation where they are anything but content.
They also value ‘talking behind someone's back’ as being a better solution to dealing with a problem.
6) John Goitia, Atheist, Colombian, Homosexual, Unapologetic.
Answered Sep 14, 2017
No they’re not.
I lived there because my dad worked as a diplomat there and we had a group of four Japanese men trying to break into our home, fortunately we caught them!
Japan hides this from foreigners portraying an image of order and civil behavior.
I am not saying Japan is dangerous, it’s not…. but mugging, stabbings, fights, rapes, occur more than people imagine.
There are a lot of crazy people, in Osaka I witnessed the near stabbing of a guy, the stabbing guy was a crazy dude in the train station with a knife. (Stuff like that happens)
With the economy getting sour, things are getting worse. Though not as bad as other places but Japan is FAR from what people believe.
9月19日，日本总务省对外宣布，该国65岁以上老人的数量为3627万，已经接近全国人口的三成。
9月19日同时也是日本今年的“敬老日”，在这一天所在的一周里，人们会开展各种形式的敬老活动：
政府会给老人发钱，音乐会和博物馆会给老人打折，年轻人会回家看望年迈的父母，甚至天皇夫妇都会在这一周里前往养老机构，表现出对这个国家“银发阶层”的绝对重视。
然而，在全日本上下一片整齐的“敬老”声中，有些日本人却巴不得自家的老人快点儿死掉。
名为亲情的地狱
2019年10月，日本神户市一名22岁的幼儿园教师用湿毛巾捂住了自己90岁祖母的口鼻，将老人活活闷死。
在法庭上，这名年轻女孩坦然承认了自己杀亲的原因：
长期以来，她是祖母唯一的照料者。老人不但年事已高，而且患有严重的失智症（阿尔兹海默病），连大小便都无法自理。
女孩白天要正常上班，晚上则要一口口地喂祖母吃东西，一次次带她去厕所，还要不时换尿布、擦身体，折腾下来，一晚上仅能睡两个小时。
更痛苦的是，由于神智混乱，祖母不但不感激女孩的照料，还经常辱骂她说“就是因为有你，我才活得不开心”。
在经历了5个月肉体和精神的双重折磨后，女孩终于被“逼到了极限”——她残杀了祖母，在自杀未遂后报警自首。
而这样的悲剧，绝不是个例。
日本现在几乎每年都会发生二三十起看护者杀死被看护老人的事件：
60多岁的老头，因为“照顾真的很累了”，而用电热毯电线勒死了80多岁的爱妻；
65岁的老太太因为“再不想照顾下去”，而在家里放火烧死了67岁的丈夫；
▲被烧掉的房子
50多岁的儿子用刀刺穿了90多岁母亲的胸膛，然后自杀，现场留下的纸条上写着“对不起，我累了”。
正如一位网友所抱怨的那样，在开始照顾已经患上了失智症的父母后，他不再有自己的时间，每天都休息不好，“感觉全身的能量都被吸走了”。
并且这种痛苦随时间累积，会转化成偏执和疯狂。
在日本栃木县，一名53岁的中年人在照顾了自己70多岁的母亲两年后，患上了严重的抑郁症，觉得“如果我们一起死，那生活会容易很多”。
在一本名为《妈妈，对不起》的非虚构纪实书籍里，50多岁的作者因为再也忍受不了患有痴呆症的母亲，而动手扇了她好几个耳光。
根据厚生省的一项调查，有96%的老人虐待都发生在家里，而在2020年，日本总共发生了1.7万起家庭虐老事件，有老人甚至被自己的伴侣活活饿死。
这就是被日本人称为“护理地狱”的现状。并且，每年大约会有10万名四五十岁的中年人被迫从他们的工作岗位辞职，在所谓的“亲情义务”的驱使下，跳入这个“地狱”当中。
而为摆脱这漫长的折磨，许多日本人开始选择和自己的父母“断舍离”。
名为抛弃的解脱
2016年7月，日本东京成立了一家名为LMN的公司，其主打业务就是“老年人养老送终一条龙”。
在LMN官网的介绍里，客户只要花上个100万日元左右，就能让LMN“买断”他们爹妈的余生。
自合同生效后，LMN不仅会负责客户父母的一切饮食起居，看病疗养，甚至还会负责老人的火化丧葬，遗产处理。
在2021年的采访中，LMN的负责人远藤英树表示，公司今年的咨询人数是去年的五倍，业务相当火爆。
并且，来咨询的中年人往往说得最多的是“我希望再不与父母有任何联系”“等老人死了后再来联系我吧”。
▲代理机构工作人员参加老人葬礼
然而，这种和血亲的完全切割，终究是只属于少部分日本人的权利。
因为一方面，并不是每个人都能负担得起昂贵的看护费。
姑且不论LMN百万日元的“人生买断金”，单说给一个患阿尔茨海默病的老婆婆请看护，每个月的花销就至少要20多万日元（折合人民币约1万元）。
并且，这笔钱还没法从被照顾者的账户里出，因为在得了失智症后，银行为了“保护”这些无自主权老人的财产，就把他们的账户给冻结了。
另一方面，也不是所有的养老机构都很靠谱。
2021年11月末，山口县曝光了一起养老院虐待事件。
一名叫片冈的护理员，为了不让一名85岁的痴呆老人舔双手，而用胶带粘住了老人的眼睛和嘴巴，并给他戴上了手套，老人一准备脱手套，片冈就上去拳打脚踢。
2018年7月6日，茨城县一名35岁的护理员通过用注射器将空气注入腿部的方式，致使一名76岁的老人死于急性衰竭。
▲保健设施
仅2018年一年，日本全国发生了621起护工虐待老人的恶行；到了2021年，这个数据虽然有所下降，但仍高达595起。
这些恶行里，既有拳加脚踢这样的纯粹暴力，也有将螺母塞进肛门，故意不去清理大小便这样的扭曲行径。
▲螺母
但即便如此，在当下日本的许多70后、80后，甚至90后的国民看来，只有抛弃家里那个失智瘫痪的老人，他们才能收获真正的幸福。
有人在网上发帖，询问如何和患有阿尔茨海默病的祖母断绝关系。
书店的书架上放着与“放弃父母”有关的书籍，腰封上写着大大“断舍离”。
推特上有个日本画师画了个“将有毒的父母抛弃掉”的漫画，没过几天就收获了3万个赞。
并且，背负着名为“老人重担”的，不只是日本的一个个国民，还有由他们所构筑的整个国家。